Kwaye ngoko ukuba ubomi obuqhelekileyo abuyikuchukumisa iimvakalelo zethu, masizibuze umbuzo "Ndimele ndiyothuka kangakanani indoda yam intanda?"
Ukuba ibhinqa liyamthanda indoda, ayiyikulibala ukuzibuza yona umbuzo othi: "Kufuneka kubamangaliswe kangangoko umntu othandekayo ukuba amtsalane?" Hlonipha kwi-intuition yowesifazane, uzive ufuna ukumangaliswa yindoda ethandekayo kwaye kwimeko nganye umfazi onothando akayi kuhlala engaphenduli.
Uxakeke kakhulu, wenyuka ebhedeni, ke waya kwindlu yokuhlambela, apha ukhawuleza ukusela indebe yekhofi, ukukhangela ingqungquthela iscwatshi ukuze asebenze. Ungalibali ukummangalisa ngentsasa yakho yasekuseni kunye nesidlo sasekuseni esilungileyo, ukuvuka kancinci ngaphambili. Indlela engaboni ngayo ubuthongo obuthongayo kunye neenwele. Makumangaliswe ukubona umthandi wakhe othandekayo ekhanyayo kwaye ekulungele ukumnceda. Musa ukulibala, abantu bathanda amehlo.
Ukumangaliswa yindoda yakho akufanelekanga xa "kuyimfuneko ukumangaliswa", kwaye xa kuyakuba yinto enqwenelekayo. Emva koko iimvakalelo zakho nezenzo zakho ziya kuba zinyanisekileyo kwaye zibonakalise uthando, ezingenakuhlala zingenakuthethwa. Uthando yilapho unika, kodwa awunayo. Indoda ehlakaniphile neyobuhlungu iya kuqonda oku, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ke ungazami.
Waya ekhaya ediniwe kwaye ekhulile. Vumela isidlo sakusihlwa, ocinge ngokucokisekileyo, siya kuba nguye onokumangaliswa ngumntu oyintanda. Akuyimfuneko ukuba isidlo sibe sindleko okanye ngamakhandlela. Musa ukulibala, amadoda ayawazisa xa esondliwa kakuhle. Mangaliswe ngento entsha neyohlwaya. Mhlawumbi ingilazi yewayini iya kumenza athethe.
Ngelo xesha ufuna ukumangalisa umntu wakho ngokukwazi ukuphulaphula zonke iingxaki zakhe ezibuhlungu, nokuba ngaba i-carburetor. Akukho mntu uthanda ukungahoywa. Yiba nomonde, kuba into enokuyiva yinto indoda yakho ethandekayo ihlala kuyo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukufunda ukuva nje oko akutshoyo, kodwa kwanokuthi akuthini. Mhlawumbi izwi lalo liza kukuxelela ukuba lixesha lokwenza into enje ukuba uvuselele umdla wakhe kuwe.
Yiba yinkosikazi enekhono, ukwazi ukwenza impawu yomzimba ukuqonda into oyifunayo kwaye ungabuzi umbuzo othi: "Unokumangaliswa kangangoko umntu wakho othandekayo?" Kulele, kufuneka ummangele rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Uthando lokwenene lukhulula. Zinike esi sivakalelo.
Izenzo eziphangaleleyo, ezingalindelwe, zingaba sisizathu sokumangaliswa umntu. Musa nje ukwenza nantoni nje ngokuba ufuna ukutshatyalaliswa. Indoda ifuna ukuhlala kunye nabahlobo? Bonisa ukuba uyamthemba, umangalise ngobubele bakho kwaye ukhulule i-leash. (Kodwa kungekudala!)
Mangaliswa ngumntu oyintanda ngokumenza izipho ezincinci. Awuyi kubuza nayiphi na into ngokubuyisela, kuba oku kuya kubangela ukuxhalaba kunye nokuxhalaba. Kwangathi intliziyo yakhe yothando ingakuvuza ngokunyanisekileyo njengakho.
Mangaliswa ngumntu oyintanda, ukuba awukulungele ukuthobela ngokunyanisekileyo ezinyathelweni zakhe, kodwa unokuba ngumkhokeli ekufezeni imisebenzi ethile, ukuxazulula iingxaki, iingxaki zemali kunye nokulala.
Ndiyothuka kangangoko ndiyintanda yam intanda? Impendulo apha ilula kakhulu - Ewe, rhoqo. Makhe uhlale kuye imfihlakalo, ingqwalasela yecandelo lobomi bentombi. Ulwalamano lwakho lube nolwazi olungapheliyo kwaye vumela umnqweno wokuba nolwazi ungabikho kwiintliziyo zakho.