Isifo sikaPeter Pan - oku kuqhelekileyo kwiminyaka yamuva nje, igama elisetyenziselwa ukubhekisela kwinto ekhethekileyo yengqondo. Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Ngoko bachaza ukuba inkwenkwe ehlala ixesha elide, ukungathandi nokungakhangeki kwenkwenkwe ukuba ikhule. Amantombazana ayengaphantsi kweso sifo. Leli gama laqulunqwa ngumlobi wezengqondo waseMerika uDan Cayley, wabiza igama le-syndrome ngokuhlonipha iqhawe lelifa leNgqungquthela weNgesi uJames Barry.
Kule li bali eli bali alixhaphakanga, ngaphezu koko, xa liboniswe kumabonwakude, aluzange luchukumise ingqalelo ekhethekileyo. Namhlanje, le ncwadi sele idlulile kwiminyaka eyikhulu ubudala, kwaye izikrini zibonisa ukulungelelaniswa kweHollywood entsha, ichukumisa i-syndrome yegama elifanayo, ngaphezu koko, abalobi abaninzi abanegunya bayaqaphela ukuthandwa kwabo.
Intetho iqala ngala mazwi: "Kungekudala okanye bonke abantwana bakhula. Ngaphandle komnye ... "UPeter Pan wayehlala eneminyaka elishumi elinamibini ubudala ubudala, wayengumntwana obalaseleyo obenomdla wabanye abantu. Le ntombazana yayingekho babazali, uPetros wayehlala kwisiqithi sesantya, kunye neentlanzi, ama-pirates, amaFairies, amaNdiya, kunye nexesha elixhalabileyo kwiintlanga ezithakazelisayo. Ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bakhe bebuxhonywe ngumtya, kodwa wayehlala ephuma kwaye ephazamisekile ukuhlangabezana nayo yonke imiqobo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, uPetros uyangena kwihlabathi lethu elithandekayo, ubuncinane ukwenzela ukuphulaphula iifowuni zeWendy. Xa uPetros waqhelana nale ntombazana, wambiza kwisiqithi sakhe kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, bavuma. Nangona kunjalo, iintsuku ezimbalwa emva koko, uWendy wagqiba ekubeni abuyele ekhaya, apho uhlala ufuna ukufumana ukutya, apho abantwana bekhula khona nawuphi na umcimbi. Kwaye uPeter Pan usoloko ehlala yinkomo eneminyaka elishumi elinesibini elinesibini kwisiqithi seentlanga kunye neenganekwane ukuba uWendy uya kubaxelela abantwana kunye nabazukulwana.
Njengazo zonke iindaba ezilungileyo, incwadi kaBarry yinkalo emininzi kwaye icingisise, kwaye iyadabukisayo. UPeter Pan akuyona nje into yokumxelisa, kodwa novelwano. "Wazigcina" ebuntwaneni, uPetros akazi ukuba yiyiphi imisebenzi kunye neembopheleleko, ubomi bakhe buyovuyisa kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ngaphezu koko, akanalo uthando. Abahlobo bakhe ngabo bantu abonwabile ngalo mzuzwana, kodwa akukho. Nangona abantu beshiya ubomi bakhe okanye bafa ngokuqhelekileyo, uyayibheka nje njengenkathazo ecasulayo, kungekhona ukulahleka. Akazi ukuba yiyiphi into yokuzidela eyahlukileyo.
Ngoku kukho umbhali ofanayo othe wathetha ukuba uyamthanda umfazi nabantwana bakhe, kodwa akaqhotyoshelwanga kubo. Nangona ziyabonakala ebomini bakhe, okanye ebomini ngokubanzi, uya kuziphatha njengento eqhelekileyo yendalo.
Lawa magama kuphela anokususa umntu, nokuba ngaba lo mbhali wadala iincwadi ezininzi ezinomdla. Zigweba wena, kuba uthi ukulahlekelwa yintsapho kulingana nelokuba uyaphila kwimvula epholileyo ngaphandle kwewindow. Kubantu abanjalo kubalulekile ukuhlala kude. Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ukutsho ukuba uPiterov Penov uhlala ehlukanisa ngokubanzi nangaphezulu?
Ngokuqinisekileyo ebomini bakho kwakukho "ukwaneliseka", abafana abanokukhawuleza beeminyaka ezahlukileyo abangafuniyo kwaye abazi ukuba bazibophezele njani ngemisebenzi kunye nomsindo, bephila olunye usuku, abaxabisa kuphela iimfuno zabo kunye neminqweno. Ukuba bayaxelelwa ukuba kufuneka bakhule, bayayibona njengento yokulahlekelwa yintsebenziswano yabo. I-Pete Pans yenqabe ukuvuma ukuba ubomi ngokwabo luyi-adventure, nangona akusoloko kubonakala njengengqungquthela engathandekiyo, kodwa kulukhuni, kuyabuhlungu kwaye kubuhlungu. Iimpapa zePete zanamhlanje azifuni ukuphulaphula intlalontle yazo, ngoko zihamba ngokungahambi kakuhle, kwaye mhlawumbi azinqindi ...
Iingcali zengqondo zangaphandle ziqinisekile ukuba eso sifo sisiphumo seempazamo kwimfundo yentsapho. Namhlanje uPeter Pan uba ngumntu wenkcubeko yexesha lethu, akanalo nantoni na umntu, unayo yonke into. Kodwa intombazana yaseWendy, eyayilwela ukubuyela ekhaya kwintsapho yayo, isifundo kunye nomsebenzi, kungekudala iza kuba ngumntu oziqaphelayo.
Ikopi endala yomlobi weNgesi uBharry igxininisa ukuba abantwana bokwenene, nangona beyindlela yabo, bahle kwaye bahle, okokuqala ngokwemvelo yabo abanentliziyo engenasiphelo, abangenakuziphendulela, abanengqondo, abangenakukwazi ukuziphatha okulula okanye ukuzidela. Ngethuba kuphela banokuba ngabantu abaqhelekileyo, kwaye bakule nto kufuneka bancedwe ngabantu abadala, emva kwexesha, baqeshwe baze baziqhelise kwizinto eziyimpilo yobuntu abadala. Ukuba abazali abazenzi oku, ngoko inkwenkwe ayiyi kukwazi ukukhula. Yintoni eyenzekayo kuye?
Yena ngokwakhe akhathaleli ukuba ungubani, kwaye abantu abajikelezileyo bayabandezeleka kunye naye kunye nokunyaniseka kwakhe, ukuqonda okungengomthetho, ukunyaniseka okungapheliyo kwishishini, ukungafuni ukunyamezela ukujongana nenyaniso emehlweni akhe. kuwo umphefumlo, nangona ufuna ukuthandwa nokuhlonishwa.
I-Psychological portrait yamanamhlanje uPeter Pan:
Ukukhubazeka ngokomzwelo. Indlela awasabela ngayo ayifanelekanga, kwaye iimvakalelo zivinjelwe. Ubonisa ukungabi nomsindo ngoburhalarhume, ukuvuya kunye noxinzelelo, kunye nokudumala ngokuzichukumisa.
Ukungenakucaluleka kwezentlalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba wayezama kangakanani, akanalo abahlobo bokwenene, kuba yena ngokwakhe akazi ukuba uyabuxabisa njani abantu kwaye unokungcatshiswa kalula. Njengomntwana osemtsha, uwela phantsi kweempembelelo zakhe ontanga. Akazi into elungileyo, kwaye yintoni embi, ngoko iyakwenza ngokukhawuleza. UPeter Uqwalasele ngakumbi kunye nomdla wokubonisa i-showchuzhim kuneentsapho zakhe. Ungumuntu onoyedwa kwaye xa le nkcazelo ifika kuye, ukwethuka.
Umgaqo we nciniba . Akafuni ukuqaphela iingxaki, ecinga ukuba baya kulungisa ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba. Akaze axolise, kuba akavumeli iimpazamo zakhe. Unelungelo lokumangalela abanye kwabanye.
Ukuxhomekeka kumama . Uxakekile ngomama wakhe - uyamcaphukisa kwaye ngelo xesha uziva enetyala, kodwa ufuna ukulahla ukugcinwa kwakhe kunye nempembelelo. Unalo ubudlelwane obukhulu kunye nonina, kuba uguquka ngokukhawuleza. Kwiminyaka emincinci uPeter Pan ucinezela ngeemvakalelo, ukuze unina amnike oko akufunayo, ngakumbi ngokumalunga nemali.
Ukuxhomekeka koyise. Ubawo akakwazi ukuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo. Ufuna ukusondela kuPapa ngokomoya, kodwa akayithembeli kwimvume yakhe nangothando lwakhe. Nangona ekhulile, uyise uhlale elungele kuye. Ngenxa yoko, iingxaki ezingunaphakade zizalelwa ngokubaluleka.
Ukuxhomekeka kwezesondo . Ngaloo ndlela ungancedi noluntu ukuba oku kushiya uphawu olukhethekileyo lwakhe nolwalamano oluhlukile. Xa usuqala ukukhulelwa, uPeter Pan uqala ukukhangela umhlobo, kodwa ngenxa yobuthakathaka bakhe, amantombazana aduduza kuye njengomtyholi wesiqhumiso. Uloyiko lokuba uya kukhatywa, ngoko siyazifihla phantsi kwe-mask of cruelty and cruelty. Ngoko ke, nangemva kweminyaka engama-20, uhlala engumfana, ngokuqinisekileyo, unentloni yokuyivuma kwaye uxelela wonke umntu malunga nokuphumelela kwakhe okucinga.
Iimpawu:
- Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-12 ukuya kwe-17, uPeter Pan unempawu ezine ezizibonakalisa ngokwazo kwiimilinganiselo ezihlukeneyo-ukuphulwa kwendima yezesondo, ukuziphatha okungenasiphelo, ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka.
- Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-18 ukuya kweyimi-22 bayeke ukukhanyela iingxaki zabathintana nabo kwaye bavele baba ngabavakalisi. Bakhuthazela ukukhwabanisa nabo, bayazibonga. Ngaphezu koko, zibonakaliswa ngonyahla.
- Kususela kwiminyaka engama-23 ukuya kwe-25 kukho inkathazo enkulu, badidekile ebomini, baqala ukuthetha kunye nohlobo lwabo.
- Ukususela kwiminyaka engama-26 ukuya kwe-33 ubudala, uPetros kaPeters uxolelaniswa nelokuba ubomi bunzima kwaye baqala ukuphoqeleka ukuba babe ngabantu abadala, ngaphandle kokuthatha uxanduva kulo nantoni na.
- Ukususela kwiminyaka engama-34 kuya kwe-45 ubudala - kule minyaka, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho intsapho, abantwana kunye nomsebenzi, kodwa abayeki ukuphelelwa ithemba, ngenxa yokuba ubomi babo bubuhlungu kwaye bubuhlungu.
- Emva kweminyaka engama-45 kaPeter Pan uqala ukuxinezeleka kwaye uphukise ngakumbi. Kukho amaxesha apho bacinga ngento yokuba akukho ntsingiselo ebomini kwaye abayidingi ubomi. Baqala ukukhangela ulutsha, bashiye intsapho baze bafune abafazi abaselula.
Abaninzi bethu sele beyayiqonda ukuba isiqithi sase-Fairy siyingozi nje. Ngamanye amaxesha siyakhumbula indlela epholile ngayo ebuntwaneni, kulula kwaye ingakhathazeki, kodwa ungazami ukubuyela apho. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngenxa yokuba bayeka ukungabi nantliziyo, bengenangqondo kwaye bengenangqondo. Kodwa, ngelanga, akunjalo.