Indlela oza kwenza ngayo ubudlelwane bakho nabo baya kuxhomekeke ekubeni uya kuba noxolo kunye noninazala. Kodwa yintoni enye? Emva koko, wafaka amandla amakhulu okukhula, akhuphe, agqoke iinyawo zomyeni wakho, kunye nendodana yakhe. Ungumama. Uthando lomama aluzimele. Ngamanye amaxesha ukususela kumabhinqa amancinci unokuva ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe wakho akazange ahlakulele ubudlelwane, ukuba umama-mkhwe wakho uphazamise, uzame ukunyanzelisa izimvo zakho nemithetho. Ewe, umkhwekazi uhlukile: ubekezela kwaye unengqiqo, uqikelele kwaye uyisicwenge, uyaphupha kwaye ungenasiphelo, ukuhlaziywa kwakhona kunye namamaqabane amashishini anamhlanje. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki oko, bonke bafuna ukuqaphela kunye nokuthandwa, ingqalelo kunye nobutyebi. Ngendlela yokuhlala ngoxolo nomamazala, kwaye namhlanje siya kuthetha.
Okokuqala, machaze uluphi uhlobo lwenyokozana lwenu.
Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa iintlobo ezisixhenxe zomamazala.
- Umfazi womntu. Olu hlobo lomama-mkhwenkwe oye wazinza kwintsapho ehambelanayo, apho indoda inokwabelana nenxalenye yemithwalo yentsapho kunye nokukhathalela, inceda kuyo yonke into, kwaye iyayilandela, njenge "emva kwodonga lwamatye." Kulula ukuhlala uxolo kunye noninazala. Umgaqo ophambili awuyikukhanyela uncedo olunikezwa ngabazali bomyeni, kodwa kwakhona ukuba ungabi ngaphezu kwazo zonke iingxaki kuzo. Ukunika ithuba kubazali bomyeni wakhe kungekuphela nje ukuba bazive kubaluleka ebomini bakho, kodwa kunye nesiganeko sokuziqhayisa ngempumelelo yonyana kunye nentombi-mkhwenkwe-le nto imfihlo yokuba bahlala njani ngoxolo kunye noninazala kuloo ntsapho.
- Inkwenkwezi yeMatriki, umlawuli. Lo mkhwenkwe, onomyeni wakhe-onobuhlungu. UyiNtloko yentsapho, umqhubi wakhe oyintloko, "unendlu" kuye. Ukuphila nomama-mkhwenkwe kwindlu enye kwimeko enobungozi kwintsapho. Ngoo oomama, oonyana, ngokuqhelekileyo "oonyana baka-unina", kodwa bayabagxeka - banokulahlekelwa ngumamazala.
- Ngelo xesha kunye noninazala. Uninazala, onguwo umkhwekazi ngexesha elifanayo, uya kukuva uxolo kwaye akuthande, kuba ubona ubunzima entolongweni yentombi yakhe kunye nosapho lwendoda yakhe. Lo mntu unyanzelekile kwaye unako ukuphazamisa. Akayi kuphazamisa imicimbi yakho yentsapho. Unabesifazane abasemgangathweni ngaphezu kobuthathaka. Gcina umhlaba kunye noninazala uya kunceda ubuhlobo kunye nomkhwekazi wakhe (udadewabo womyeni wakhe), kulo mzekelo ukuqinisekiswa kuyaqinisekiswa.
- Umama ongatshatanga. Indodana inentsingiselo yobomi bayo, yamzisa yodwa. Ngaba wayengumama noyise. Lo mkhwekazi unomona omkhulu, obonakalisa kwimpikiswano kunye nokuxabana nomalokazana. Ukuze uphile ngoxolo noninazala, kufuneka ubekezelele kwaye unqande. Mcebise ngesithuba esincinane, cela umbono wakhe. Akukho mzekelo ungamgxeka umyeni wakho kwaye ungabambisani naye noninazala - ubeka ingozi ekwenzeni intshaba.
- Ixhoba. Uhlala ekhathalela wonke umntu. Nangona unyana sele sele esesihlanu iminyaka, uyamkhathalela, njengengane engacatshanganga. Uxinekeke ngobunzima bokuphila. Kodwa akukho mntu, ngombono wakhe, uyakwazi ukujamelana nazo, ngoko kufuneka utyhulele yonke into kuwe. Imfesane, ukunyamezela, ukunyamekela izicwangciso zokugcina uxolo kunye noninazala.
- Ukholo. Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe we-despot, ogcina yonke into ephantsi kokulawulwa kwintsapho, ubanda kwaye unengqondo, uyaqaphela kwaye akayi kuvumela umntu ukuba azinyathele ngokwakhe, ungekho inhlanhla. Gcina kude nomama kamama kude, oku kuphela kukukunceda ukuba ungangeni kwi-warpath, nangona akukho into yokuba umamazana wakho akayi kuzisa izenzo ezenzakalisayo.
- Ibhinqa lorhwebo. Unenhlanhla, ngokuqinisekileyo! Umsebenzi yintsikelelo yobomi bakhe, akasenayo intsapho. Akayi kububona uthuli kumashalofu kunye nefriji engenanto. Uphezu kwezinto ezinjalo. Unelungelo lweengxaki zakhe. Kodwa ukuba usebenza kwindawo efanayo, i-idyll ikhuselekile. Uza kuzingca nguninazala, njengokuba ungumkhwenyana wakho!
Ezinye iingcebiso eziqhelekileyo
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba nakweyiphi na imeko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umama wakho umkhwenkwe uya kuba yintoni, akuyiyo intshaba yakho. Emva kwakho konke, wathandana nendodana yakhe-ubuncwane bakhe, isiqhamo sobomi bakhe, umntu oxabisekileyo kakhulu. Yenza umbulelo kumntu onika ubuncwane obuxabisekileyo kuwe. Uwamkele umngane wakho njengokuba kunjalo, nazo zonke iingenelo kunye nokungalungi. Thatha ebomini bakho kunye nalowo ungamthandiyo ngaphantsi, uhlambulule kwiingxaki zakhe. Qonda into enye - akusiyo imbambano yakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha unokuva malunga nokungafuneki kweentombi ezincinci ukubiza umninazala. Ngeze, kuba siphishekela enye injongo, siphile ngoxolo kunye noninazala. Okokuqala, ngumvuzo kwizithethe, kwaye okwesibini, ukuba ibhinqa liva eli lizwi lemilingo, ngokukhawuleza livusa iimvakalelo zikaMama kuba ngubani othe wathetha, umnqweno wokukhusela nokukhusela. Musa ukuzicima kwesi sitshixo segolide entliziyweni yakhe! "I-calf ethobelayo yamantombazana amabini," - oko kubonisa ubulumko babantu. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ungayikhohlwa ukuba kungekudala uza kuba ngumkhwekazi wakho. Kwaye ukuba ngumkhwekazi akuyona into elula kunokuba ngumalokazana. Ukuphanga ubudlelwane bulula, kodwa ukugcina, ukufezekisa indawo, ukuseka uqhagamshelwano - umsebenzi omningi. Ukuba uthe wagqiba ekubeni ngumhlobo kamama, zama ukusebenzela oku ncinane kule nto.
- Zama ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo naye, uthetha ngakumbi.
- Musa ukugxeka kwaye ungakhononda ngomyeni wakho, ungamphakamisi phambi kwabazali bakhe.
- Musa ukuthelekisa noninazala nomama wakho, abanako ukufana, bahlukeneyo ngabantu.
- Ngaba izipho zomamazala kunye nokwazi ukufumana izipho ngokubulela kuye.
- Mamela isiluleko somamazala, ungesabi ukubuza, cela ukufundisa - kuya kuba mnandi kuye.
- Hlala ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ungagcini umyeni wakho nabantwana ekuxoxeni nomamazala.
- Yabelana ngeminqweno yakhe, ubonise ngokunyanisekileyo umdla kunye nenhlonipho.
Ukuze ungathandabuzi: "Indlela yokuhlala uxolo noninazala?" -ukunyamezela nokuzilumka, khumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuthatha ixesha elide kunokubonisa ubungqina bakho. Emva koko, inyaniso nganye inamacala amabini.