I-ABC yethu yokuphila ngendlela enempilo yabantwana iya kuxela ngale nto.
Indlela ephilileyo yobomi bomntwana iquka ezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Ukutya okufanelekileyo kunye nokutya okuphezulu
- Ukuqeqeshwa ngokomzimba, imidlalo
- Ukudibanisa okufanayo kokusebenza komzimba kunye nomzimba
- Imithwalo yemvakalelo enxulumene neminyaka.
Kukhangeleka ukuba akukho nto engakholekiyo okanye engokwemvelo kwiluhlu lwethu, kodwa kwilizwe lethu phantse i-third-grade ye-graders ayinakubizwa ngokuba yimpilo, kwaye ekupheleni kwesikolo esiphantsi kwinqanaba labagulayo liye laya kuma-70%. Kuba abantwana besikolo namhlanje abanengxaki engavamile kwisisu, amehlo, i-apparatus.
Abantwana abaphilileyo - bafaneleke kwindawo yokuqala abazali. Isondlo sabantwana nangaliphi na ubudala kufuneka libe njengento eyahlukileyo. Musa ukulibala malunga nexabiso elifanelekileyo leprotheni equkethwe kwenyama, intlanzi. Ukuhlawula ngokukhethekileyo imifuno, izithelo kunye neentshisi, ngokukodwa kwixesha lokubanda.
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yendlela yokuphila enempilo yimidlalo, indlela yokuphila esebenzayo. Kulungile, ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba ngokuqhelekileyo, ungammangaleli ngokungahlali. Shintsha le propati yomgca kwisitishi esihle - bhala umntwana kumadaniso okanye kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana abaninzi banamhlanje banokuhlupheka ngenxa yokungabikho komsebenzi wokwenyama - kwimihla ngemihla esikolweni, nakwikhaya iTV okanye ikhomputer. Imiphumo yale mpawu iya kufumana umntwana sele sele ekhulile-ukukhululeka, ukunyusa ingozi yomshukela, i-atherosclerosis. Uluhlu lunokuqhubeka ixesha elide, kwaye imvelaphi yalo ilala ngokufanelekileyo ebuntwaneni.
Abazali kufuneka banyamekele ukusombulula le ngxaki. Kwimimandla yamanamhlanje, inkundla, indawo yezemidlalo, kunye nendawo yendawo yokuzonwabisa yangaphandle ayikho ngaso sonke isikhathi kumntwana. Abantwana abanayo imimiselo yemidlalo. Kodwa ukujwayela ukuxinzezeleka kwimizimba evela ekuzalweni-kubonakala kunokwenzeka nawuphi na umzali, nokuba ngaba uqala nje ngomsebenzi wemihla ngemihla. Kwaye xa umntwana ehamba kwi-kindergarten okanye esikolweni, lo msebenzi uza kulwa kunye nootitshala kunye nootitshala ngokufanayo.
Qaphela kwakhona iinkqubo ezinzima. Akuyimfuneko ukuphoqa umntwana ukuba ajikeleze okanye athululele amanzi e-ice. Okokuqala, hamba nomntwana esitratweni rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ugqoke, ungagxininisi ukuhamba kwakhe (ingakumbi ebusika), ukuze asebenze ngokukhululekile.
Abazali banembopheleleko yentlangano emva kweeyure zesikolo. Uxinzelelo olunzulu kumntwana apha alufanelekanga, kodwa ngelo xesha, musa ukumvumela ukuba adibanise, alahle izifundo okanye imisebenzi yasekhaya. Kukulungele ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo emva kwemini kwaye uhambe (mhlawumbi ubuncinane ubuncinane neeyure zesiqingatha iiyure). Qala umsebenzi wesikolo kunye nemisebenzi elula. Yiba nesithakazelo kumntwana xa efika emsebenzini, ucingisise umsebenzi. Inxalenye yendlela yokuphila enempilo iyahamba ngaphambi kokulala. Umntwana uya kulala kakuhle kwaye athathe umrhumo wamandla amakhulu.
Namela ingqalelo yengqondo yomntwana wakho. I-psyche yengane ayinakulinganiswa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iphosa "amaqhinga" ekugqibeleni ibe yiingxaki nge-neurology kunye nemeko yenyama yonke. Khumbula ukuba akukho nto inomngcipheko kumntwana xa abazali bexabana. Ukuba awukwazi ukunqanda ukufumana ubuhlobo, ubuncinci, thumela umntwana ukuba ahambe egcekeni okanye u tyelele. Kukho nawuphi na, musa ukuthululela uxinzelelo lwakho kunye nobudlova kuye. Isimo sengqondo esimnandi sengqondo kunye nolwalamano olufudumele kwintsapho lugalelo elikhulu kwimpilo yengane yakho.
Kwintlalo yanamhlanje, uxinzelelo lwengqondo lukhulu nakumntu omdala. Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngomntwana omncinci? Isixa solwazi olufunyenwe ngabantwana esikolweni kwiTV lisoloko landa. Uninzi lwezifundo zezemfundo ziwela kubantwana. Kodwa abazali bafuna umntwana ukuba acule, adle, adide okanye azi isiNgesi ngokupheleleyo. Konke oku kufuna ixesha elongezelelweyo, umgudu. Ungalindelanga ukungenakwenzeka emntwaneni, ayeke omnye okanye amabini amagugane kwaye umvumele akhethe izifundo kwixesha lakhe elizayo. Umsebenzi wakho kukukwenza umntwana ajabule. Kwaye oku, mfundisa ukuba abe nempilo.
Nika ingqalelo kumntwana wakho, khuluma ngawe, ubomi bakho, misela umzekelo omhle. Siyathemba ukuba i-alfabeti yethu yokuphila enempilo kubantwana onokuyisebenzisa kunye nenzuzo kumntwana wakho. Musa ukuhlula impilo enempilo yomntwana kwimpilo enomntu omdala, kuba yintsapho ephilileyo yonyuswa ngumntu onempilo.