Xa iinkqubo zijikeleza imihla ngemihla, apho zenza inkwenkwezi "zamakhwenkwe" kunye namantombazana, abantu abambalwa abayi kucinga ukuba banomdla kunye neetalente. "Kutheni u-Masha-Sasha-Dasha akwazi, kwaye mna, yintoni, yimbi?" - umntwana ohleli kwisikrini uyazibuza. Kwaye awukwazi ukuthetha ukuba uphosakele, kodwa ukuba uthe tye, unokuyichazela njani ukuba bonke abantu bangaba nkwenkwezi emva kwakho konke?
Khuthaza okanye ungakhuthazi
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali ngokwabo baxhobhisa abantwana babo ukuba bathambekele ekunyameni kwabo. Ukususela kwiminyaka emincinci, bayibeka kwisitorethi baze "bahlambe" behlombe emva kweengcamango ezingenakuqondakala: "Wena ummangaliso, yintoni intombazana enobuqili, nje umculi ukhula!" Lo mculi apha kwiminyaka elishumi uya kuthatha isinqumo sokungena kwibala le midlalo, aphelelise ujikelezo lokuqala, ukuba awuyi kugoba. Abantwana banentlonelo enkulu kuhlolo lwabantu abadala, kwaye nantsi into ephambili ayiyikulimaza. Ukuba uhamba nomntwana wakho ukuba unezithsaba ezintathu kwaye ungumntwana ngokumelene nomdlalo wakhe okhohlakeleyo weRachmaninov, mhlawumbi ukuba uhlazo olude luhlale ixesha elide kunye naye kuzo zonke iintloko ezintathu. Musa ukudumisa iitalente ezibonakalisiweyo kunye neendlela ezikude ezifunyenwe ngayo.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokunceda ukuphuhlisa iitalente kunye nekhono elikhoyo ukuchaza kumntwana ukuba ngaphandle kweminye imizamo, inzima kwaye inomsebenzi, akukho nto ihamba phambili. Ubugcisa abuyinto yendalo, kodwa isenzo somhla ngemihla kwiiyure ezininzi. Ingaba yimidlalo okanye ubugcisa. Kuya kuba mnandi ukunika iimbalo zezinto ezizodwa okanye ubuncinci abathandabuzayo bezithixo zakhe - akukho namnye abantu abadumileyo abaxelela ukuba kulula kangakanani kwaye ufumana uzuko. Okokuqala, ngento yokuba oku akunjalo.
Ingqalelo kufuneka ibe nengqiqo
Xa abamelwane bakho bekhalaza ngommangaliso wakho, bathi, baya kuvula iifestile, bakhulume iintetho baze bavulele umculo omnandi kwididi yonke, musa ukukhupha i-amplifiers ukusuka kumgangatho wesibhozo. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna nje ukutsala ingqalelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo iphupha lokuba lidumo lidumile ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokuba ukunakekelwa ngokwaneleyo ebuntwaneni abavela kubazali kubangela umnqweno wokuwufumana kumalandeli. Khumbula, nini ixesha lokugqibela ongenalo umdla kumanqaku, kodwa kumdlalo wokugqibela wethimba lakhe lebhola lebhola? Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abaxubusha iimfuno zabo nabazali babo, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba abafuni, kodwa ngenxa yokuba abanomdla kubo.
Ukuba umntwana akahlali entlalweni, akanakwenzeka ukuba athethelele umama wakhe "Inkundla Yemangaliso" ukuba iqela liye lahlala ixesha elide, ekugqibeleni likhulule i-albhamu yakhe yokuqala okanye iphumelele kuqala kwiitshathi eziphambili. Izinto ezincinci ezinokugqibela zingabumba eludongeni obuninzi, olungenakucholwa ngokuhlambalaza: "Ndakuzalela, andizange ndilale ubusuku, ndenqaba yonke into kum, kodwa ngoku ndiyazi yonke into yokugqibela, njengokungengona unyoko, kodwa ngomnye umntu." Ngoko ke, ukuba ungayikhumbuli umntwana wakho ezukisa igama lakhe, yenza yonke imizamo yokuthokoza kuwe, kungekhona umlawuli kunye nomqhubi, xa ufumana i-Oscar ngezinyembezi emehlweni akhe.
Ifilosofi yerrotti ngaphandle kwerrotti
Kuyaziwa ukuba sele kunzima kubaselula ukuba baveze into ethile, baba nenkani kwaye bazidla. Ungafungi kakubi, funda ufunde ukuziphatha - akunakuncedo, isithuba phakathi kwakho sinokunyuka kuphela. Zama ukuxhaphaza umntwana wakho. Ufuna ukuba afunde uTolstoy, Chekhov, Dostoevsky. Emva koko ungatsho ukuba oku kuya kumenza afundiswe, kodwa uthetha ngokungafaniyo: "Ewe, ukugweba ngeencwadi zakho zokubhaliweyo, awuqondi kakuhle" i-Master ", apha ufuna imithwalo yemibhalo, kwaye, ukufunda kuphela nguHarry Potter, akunakugcinwa ". Intombi yayiya kuba ngumdlali weqhinga, ngoko ke ibali lilahliwe? Akunamsebenzi ukumchazela ukuba le nzu lulwazi izakufika ngexesha elizayo. Kungcono ukuba nantoni: "Ndicinga ukuba uya kuba nodumileyo, uza kunika udliwano-ndlebe kunye nombuzo othi:" Ngaba ungathanda ukudlala kwi-tape yomlando, umzekelo, kwi-Odyssey okanye i-Iliad? "Uza kuphendula:" Ndiya kuvuyisa i talente kunye nendima Odyssey, kunye nendima ye-Iliad. " Kwaye imodeli ezayo ephezulu, eye yashiye imathematika, ingcono ukuphikisa ukuchaneka kwezesayensi ezichanekileyo ngendlela elandelayo: "Xa uza kufumana izigidi zeedola ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwintengiso yedwa, ngubani oya kubakhokela isebe lakho lokuphendula, ukuba ubeka iifom zokubala kwibalayibhile yakho endaweni yentloko yakho? Into eyona nto ayiyikuyidlula kwaye ungayidluli kwiqhinga lakho.
Ukunambitha yinto ebalulekileyo
Abazali kufuneka babeke iliso konke abantwana babo ababukeleyo, bephulaphule baze bafunde. Kodwa ngokuchithintela into engeyona nto, kufuneka ukwazi ukufaka "izinto ezingekho phantsi" malunga nolwazi oluchanekileyo nolunomdla. Ingozi kakhulu namhlanje kumabonwakude. Kucacile ukuba umfundi, emva kokubuya ukusuka eklasini, unokuvula kalula nayiphi na ishaneli, ngoko ukufihla kude kude naye. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba omama babukele uchungechunge kunye nabantwana babo, kwaye kusekuncinci-emibini okanye emithathu iminyaka. Yaye le yile minyaka xa kukho ukuphuthuma ngokukhawuleza komntwana-umntwana ususa yonke into njengentonga. Akumangalisi ukuba kamva uxelela abazali bakhe ngeenkcukacha ze-anthropological zendlela abantwana abonakala ngayo kweli hlabathi.
Ukuphuhlisa umntwana wakho - phuhlisa. Hamba naye kumabonakude, imibukiso, amakhonsathi, masifunde iincwadi ezintle zokufunda. Bhala umntwana kuzo zonke iindidi kunye nezifundo. Xa abantwana benethuba elincinci, abanqwenela ukuyisebenzisa kwithelevishini. Kunzima ukugqithisa indima yemisebenzi kunye nekhono ekuphuhlisweni komntwana onikwe wona ngokwemvelo, kodwa ngaphandle kwengqalelo kunye nomzamo, baya kuthenga ngaphandle. Kwaye ke umntwana wakho, xa ekhulile, uya kukuxelela isikhalazo sakhe malunga neetalente ezingekho phantsi kwamathuba kunye namathuba alahlekileyo.