Kutheni umntu engafuni ukutshata?
- Izinto ezingenakunikwa. Indoda idinga isiseko apho iya kudala yakhe intsapho. Kodwa awona onke amadoda angama-oligarch okanye ubuncinci basebenza kwindawo ehlawula ngokuphezulu. Ukufumana imali engenako kunye nokungaqiniseki ngosuku oluzayo kubangela ukwesaba ukuba akayi kukwazi ukunondla nokubonelela intsapho yakhe.
- Ukuzama inkululeko. Indoda ivumelana nomntu, ummeli okanye omnye umtshato, ngaphandle koko, ngokusemthethweni. Ngokombono wakhe, intsapho iya kumbopha ezandleni nasezinyaweni. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba unelisekile ngokupheleleyo kunye nobudlelwane obungabophelanga.
- Ukuchaswa kubazali. Ukuqwalaselwa kubantu abaselula. Abazali balo mfana banokuchasana kuba le ntsapho iya kubakho ndawo. Kuqhelekile ukuba imeko apho abazali bomfana bakholelwa ukuba unentsapho yokuqala, okanye intombazana ayithandi.
- Ukoyika uxanduva. Usapho - olu luxanduva olukhulu, olungakulungeleli wonke umntu. Kakade! Emva koko, ujwayele ukuhlala yedwa kwaye angayi kukhanyela into, kodwa apha uya kufuneka anikezele izinto zakhe ngenxa yabanye.
- Nesaba ukulahlekelwa ithuba lokukhetha. Emtshatweni womtshato okanye xa eso sibini sidibana, loo mntu ukholelwa ukuba unelungelo lokukhetha. Into engazange ihambelane nolwalamano olukhoyo - ungawaphula kwaye ukhangele elinye iqabane. Emtshatweni womthetho, akuyi kuba lula ukwenza.
- Amava amaninzi adlulileyo. Umntu ohlukanisile akafuni ukutshata ngenxa yokuba wesaba ukuphindaphinda umtshato ongaphumelelanga ngaphambili, uloyiko lokufumana intlungu yokulahleka okanye ukuba kwakhona kuya kuba neengxabano, njengokuba kwintsapho yangaphambili.
- Ukudideka kwintombi. Ngamanye amaxesha umfana, eqonda intombi yakhe ngakumbi, uyaqonda ukuba esi siqingatha sakhe. Ngelo xesha, uloyiko lokuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, ukuxhasa ubudlelwane nge-inertia, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo unokukwazi ukufumana inkqubo entsha.
- Ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Intombazana inokunqanda ukuba ummeli wesigxina esisisiseko sabantu uya kumnika. Yingakho abanye abantu kunye nabasilisa abazange baqaphele ukwenza isenzo esinzulu ixesha elide, nangona baya kuhlala bephupha.
- Uloyiko lolwalamano luyehla. Abantu abaselula, bebonile ngokwaneleyo izibini ezitshatileyo emva kokuba umtshato ube yiintshaba ezigwenxa, abafuni ukungena kwiimeko ezifanayo. Ngako oko, abaxhamli ukutshata nomntu abayithandayo ngobuqotho.
- Ubuqili. Oku kusebenza kulabo abanento ethile yexabiso. Bakholelwa ukuba lona wesifazane ufuna nje ukuthatha ipropati yakhe. Nangona ngokuphindaphindiweyo ubutyebi bakhe buphindaphindiwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Yintoni intombazana enokuyenza xa indoda ifuna ukutshata?
Kwaye ngoku siza kuxubusha into enokuyenza kumfazi, ukuba indoda yakhe ethandekayo ayifuni ukutshata naye? Ngowuphi ukhetho omele ukhethe: ukukholisa umntu ukuba umtshato awuyintlekele okanye uyingxenye yalo mntu?
- Izinto ezingenakunikwa. Oku, ngakwesinye icala, akubi, kuba kucacile ukuba le ndoda isondela ngokuthe ngqo kwisinyathelo esinzulu. Nangona kunjalo, unako ukugcina i-fortune ixesha elide, kodwa awukwazi ukuyigcina. Kukho ukhetho xa ababini banokukhawuleza babe ngumbini ocebileyo. Oku kufuneka uzame ukuchazela loo ndoda.
- Ukuzama inkululeko. Kule meko, uyavuma ukuba uhlala kunye ukuze ukwazi omnye, kodwa ungaziphakamisi ngaphandle kokulandelwa.
- Ukuchaswa kubazali. Cinga, kodwa ngaba ufuna "unyana ka-mama"? Ukuba oku akukwesabisi, zama ukukholisa umntu okhethiweyo ukuba umanyano wakho unamathuba athile kuye nangenxa yabazali bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, unokuchitha ixesha elininzi ngeze, okanye ekugqibeleni, uhlale wedwa.
- Ukoyika uxanduva. Kwaye ngaba umntu ofunekayo? Emva koko, yonke into ebomini iyenzeka, kwaye umfazi akakwazi ukuziphatha. Ngubani ke omele afune inkxaso? Ithemba elibi.
- Nesaba ukulahlekelwa ithuba lokukhetha. Ukuba loo mntu akafuni ukutshata, mnike inkululeko ekhethiweyo yokukhetha, kwaye makamkhethe. Fumana enye, ngoko akusiyo indoda yakho. Okubi, ukuba wayemfumene emva komtshato.
- Amava amaninzi adlulileyo. Kufuneka ukuba ulinde kwaye ngokukhawuleza kumthintele kuye kwaye ucinge ukuba ngoxolo lwentsapho, ulonwabo kunye nokuqonda okufanayo kunokwenzeka. Kuphela kuyimfuneko yokwenza ngokucokisekileyo.
- Ukudideka kwintombi. Mhlawumbi, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuqhubeka-ukuwa othandweni. Nangona kunjalo, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba uya kuvuya. Kungcono ukuvumela ukuhamba kwaye unqwenela inhlanhla.
- Ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Kubalulekile ukuphawula, okanye ubuncinci ukuvakalisa umnqweno wokuya kwi-ofisi yokubhalisa ebunzini lakhe. Ngaphandle koko kuya kuba yiminyaka ukuhamba malunga nehlathi.
- Uloyiko lolwalamano luyehla. Intombazana ifanele ikhuthaze loo mfana ukuba zonke izibini ezithe zazingonwabi, ukuba kwimeko yethu umtshato ungaphumelela, simele siphumelele iikona ezibukhali kwaye sizisebenzele.
- Ubuqili. Awufuni ukutshata? Ungakhathazeki! Cinga ukuba kuya kuba yintoni kwixesha elizayo ukunika ingxelo malunga nayo yonke imali esetshenzisiweyo. Awunqweneli utshaba! Myeke ekhaya.
Nangona sizama ukucacisa izizathu zendlela yokuziphatha yamadoda kunye nezenzo zakho ezongezelelekileyo, ubomi bubakho, kwaye kuya kuwe ukwenza isigqibo sokuba wenze ntoni, ukuba umntu akafuni ukutshata. Ulwalamano ngalunye luhlukile, kwaye aluhlali luhambelane ngqo kwisakhelo seemeko ezichazwe ngasentla.