Izixhobo zokuphuhliswa kwabantwana kwiminyaka emine zilandelayo. Kwiminyaka emine umntwana ufunda ukuba ngabahlobo. Ukudlala yedwa sele kunzima, kunomdla ngakumbi ukwenza oku kunye nomntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana badlala kumaqela amancinci. Ngamanye amaxesha la maqela abe ngunaphakade. Ngoko ke abahlobo bokuqala bavela-abo banomntwana onokulula ukufumana ukuqonda okufanayo. Unomdla kakhulu ukuba akukho mntu ufuna ukudlala naye. Kwaye ulwalamano lwabantwana kule minyaka luphembelele kakhulu kuhlolwe ngabantu abadala. Ngokomzekelo, akukho mntu ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo kunye nama-hooligans, abo bahlala bexhaswa ngabanonophelo. Ngako oko, zama ukungaziboneli ngophando olubi kwabanye abantwana kumntwana.
Umntwana oneminyaka emine sele sele ekwazi ukuphulaphula nokuva, ngoko kaninzi afundeli amabali kunye namabali, kodwa nakwinto engqiqweni. Emva koko, ukuba ngaphambili, wafunda ihlabathi ngokuqwalasela kunye nokuvavanya, kodwa ngoku akwanele kuye. "Bavela phi abantwana?", "Kutheni ikhephu?", "Kutheni le nkati inomsila?". Iimpendulo kule mibuzo yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukuyifumana.
Ndiyabulela amabali akho, ubukela i-telecasts engqondweni, iifilimu zevidiyo umntwana uyahlukana nehlabathi ahlala kuyo yonke imihla. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba kwindawo ethile ekude kukho ihlane apho kukho isihlabathi esisodwa, kodwa kukho iNxweme yaseNyakatho ne-Antarctica, apho ikhephu lihlala lilala kunye nama-penguins. I-Karapuzu izilwanyana ezithakazelisayo, azibonayo kuphela kwiTV okanye emfanekisweni, uphulaphula ngokucophelela amabali malunga nolwandle, malunga namanye amazwe nabantu abahlala kuzo. Kwaye abantwana bathanda amabali ebomini babazali okanye nabanye abantu.
Ngoku umntwana uthanda ukusebenza, uncede unina, ukuba azibonele kwaye uncedo. Ngoko ke, qi niseka ukuba umbandakanya naye emsebenzini odibeneyo, zama ukukwenza kunye nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yasekhaya. Yenza nabo ngenomdla, ukuze umntwana athandwe. Uya kuba nekratshi ukuba uhlala ucela uncedo kuye: "Sashenka, ndifuna ngempela uncedo lwakho. Nceda ufeze phantsi. Okanye usule uthuli. " Okanye: "Namhlanje, wena kunye nam kufuneka sihlambulule kwindlu." Qiniseka ukuba udumise umncedi omncinane ngomonde wakho kunye noncedo, nokuba akukho nto ihamba kakuhle naye.
Ngeli xesha, unokutshatyalaliswa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumthand 'unina. Ngako oko, abanye abantwana bayabuhlungu kakhulu ukunyamezela naluphi na isohlwayo, kwanokwanda kwethoni. Kubonakala kubo kuba ekubeni unina utyhawula, ngoko ulungile, kwaye akasabathandwa. Ukuze umntwana akhuphe ukuzithemba okukhulu, akwanele ukumxelela indlela umthandayo ngayo, indlela enhle ngayo. Ixabiso lomntu kufuneka lilinganiswe ngezinye izenzo zangempela. Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana abe namakhono okanye izakhono ezithile. Ndakwazi ukwenza into efanelekileyo kwaye ngakumbi ngakumbi kunabanye - bekuya kumnceda ukuba aziqhenyce. Zama ukuqiniseka ukuba umntwana akanakwenyanga njengendoda encinci engenakunceda, okungekho nto incike kuye. Ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukucinga ngeemeko eza kumnika ithuba lokuzibonakalisa ngokwenza, ukufumana ubunzima.
Kwiminyaka emine, abantwana sele benokucaca ngokufanelekileyo kwaye banentsingiselo yokuthetha, ukuze bakwazi ukuthetha nabo ngezihloko ezingabonakaliyo. Bade sele benelungelo lokubonelela ngamagama. Baqala ukusetyenziswa kwegrama ngokuchanekileyo ngokwakhiwa kweelwimi, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuvakalisa izandi. Uninzi lwabantwana ngeli nqanaba lichaneka ngokufanelekileyo ukuba kunzima ukuqonda "," e "," x ", ukuthetha ngokucacileyo ukubethela izandi, kukho isandi" c ". Abanye banokufumana ukukhwaza okulukhuni, "l" kunye "p". Kodwa, njengomgaqo, ininzi yezingane ziqhubeka nokuzifaka endaweni yazo izandi ezilula. Ngokuqinisekileyo, isicwangciso seminyaka emine asikazanga ukuthetha ngokucacileyo, ngokuchanekileyo nangokucacileyo malunga nokuba kungani uVova noSasha balwa kwi-kindergarten. Kulungile ukubuyisela ibali ngokufunda. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ucele imibuzo emininzi yokucacisa ukuze uqonde into ethile.
Ngokufanayo, umntwana akayi kukwazi ukuchaza umxholo wesicatshulwa. Ngcono, uya kuthiwa izinto, abalinganiswa, okanye uludwe lwezenzo abazithathayo: ibhinqa lixhuma, i-bun is rolling. Usuke enegunya lamagama amancinci kunye nemibongo. Nangona kunjalo, ezinkulu nazo. Ukuba yonke iminihlwaya iya kulala phantsi kwe "KwiLomomorye Oak Green ...", emva koko inyanga okanye ezimbini kamva kamnye ubusuku umntwana uya kukunika. Uya kuthi "kumatshini", engayiqondi intsingiselo yamagama. Ewe, mayeke. Oku kukuqeqeshwa okukumemori okulungileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, njengomthetho, abantwana abakalesi sizwe bazame ukukhumbula ngegama kuphela, kodwa nokuba baqonde, ukufumana uxhulumaniso phakathi kwesihloko kunye negama layo. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo baqala ukuzakhela zabo, njengokuba bacinga, amagama afanelekileyo. Amanye amagama ayitshintsha ngokufana nabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha kuvela okungahambi kakuhle, kodwa kumnandi: i-microbe, iiwindow, abantu, kwengubo. Iiparele ezingcono kakhulu aziyizivila kakhulu ukubhala, emva kweminyaka emininzi, iya kuba yinto yokuhleka.
Umntwana ngaleli xesha unomdla kwizitho zakhe zesini, ufunda ukuba amakhwenkwe namantombazana abafani. Kulo thuba ukuba bayayiva umbuzo: "Baphuma phi abantwana?" Ngeli xesha, amakhwenkwe afumana into ebizwa ngokuba yi-Oedipus complex, kunye namantombazana - i-Electra eyinkimbinkimbi. Ukuba awungena kwiingqungquthela, ngokufutshane, kuthetha ukuba umntwana uqala ukukhangela umzali wesini esahlukileyo. Le nkwenkwe ifuna ukuthatha indawo kayise eceleni komama wayo kwaye ibone njengowesifazane ococekileyo. Kwaye ibinzana lomntwana: "Mama, xa ndikhula, ndiza kutshata!" - ukuqinisekiswa ngokuthe ngqo kwalokhu. Kancinci le nkwenkwe iyaqonda ukuba ayikwazi ukukhuphisana nopapa, uloyiko lolohlwaya, elimenza alahle umgaqo wokutshata nonina. Ukuba ekuqaleni umntwana wayekhwele upapa, ngoko ke le mvakalelo iyakuthatyathwa ngumnqweno wokuba njengaye kuyo yonke into. Emva koko, umama uyabathanda abantu njengoTata. Amantombazana, ngokufanelekileyo, aphupha ukubamba ubaba. Kodwa, xa bexinzelele ukutsaliswa kobawo, baqala ukuzibonakalisa nomama. Ukufana nomama wakhe, ngoko umntwana usandisa amathuba ekufumana umntu okhangeleka njengoyise.
Ukunqandwa, ukuphathwa kakubi kunye nosongelo "kwesi sihloko" kuya kulimaza umntwana kuphela. Umntwana akayi kuyeka ukuba nomdla kumxholo wesini, kwaye ukwesaba ukuhlwaywa kungamenza ube ngumntu ongenamdla kwaye kwithuba elizayo unokuchaphazela ubomi obusondeleyo ngobuncwane okanye ukungabi namandla. Ngexesha elifanayo, kuninzi ukuzibandakanya kule nto akufanelekanga. Zombini ezi zimeko ziyingozi. Oku kuya kubangela ukulungiswa komntwana kwisigaba sephallic sokuphuhliswa. Ukukhula, abantu abanjalo bawunakekele kakhulu umzimba wabo, ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokuwubeka ekuboniseni, njengokugqoka ngokucokisekileyo kwaye ngokungcolileyo. Amadoda aziphathe ngokuzithemba kwaye abe nesibindi. Uthando lwempumelelo ludibaniswa nempumelelo yobomi. Namaxesha onke bazama ukuzityhila bona kunye nabanye abafana babo. Yilapho i-Don Juanians ivela khona! Kwamantombazana anokulungiswa, kule nqanaba, i-coquette ikhula. Oku kungcono. Abafazi abanjalo bathambekele ekuthandeleni ubudlelwane bezesondo obunobunono, isifiso sokudlala ngothando kunye nokunyenga. Ngoko abazali banento yokucinga ngayo. Emva kwakho konke, ngoFrud, i-future fate yomntwana ixhomekeka kwizenzo zabo ngaphezu kokuba bacinga.
Ukuphuhliswa komntwana ukusuka kwiminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwe-5.
Yengqondo
- Nasiphi na isabelo, umntwana afumanayo kubantu abadala, ufuna ukuzalisekisa.
- Ukwahlula imemori enhle, ikhumbula ngokukhawuleza inkondlo ende.
- Udlala kakuhle nomnye umntwana kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akaxabani naye.
Zemvelo
- Uhamba ngezithende.
- Ukuzigqoka ngokugqibeleleyo.
- Ukudlala imidlalo kunye nebhola.
- Unokungena endaweni okanye uqhubeke phambili.
Yengqondo
- Izingcingo iinombolo ukusuka ku- 1 ukuya ku- 10.
- Sebenzisa ixesha elizayo lezenzi.
- Uyakwazi ukuzakhela kwangaphambili-imeko kunye neziphakamiso: ngoku, ngaphantsi, ngaphambili, malunga.
- Uphinda izivakalisi zamagama ama-5-7.
- Ubiza ii-cubs 4-5 izilwanyana.
- Ubiza izichasiselo ngokufana.
Emva kokuba wazi malunga neempawu zophuhliso zomntwana kwiminyaka emine, unokuphepha iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo ekukhuliseni abantwana.