Kukho iimeko xa umntwana ekhulwini lweentetho ezintathu ekhethekileyo kunye nabahlobo bakhe abayinyani, kwaye nangona kunjalo ngolwimi olungenakuqondakala, ngoxa ontanga lakhe sele sele bengacacile ukuthetha nabazali babo.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uqale ukuthetha nabahlobo abangekhoyo, akufanele umememele aze amgxeke.
Abantwana ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo bazise abahlobo babo abangabonakaliyo, umzekelo:
Ukuba umntwana akanalo ixesha elaneleyo lokuthetha nabantu abadala kunye nabantwana babo kwaye ukuba akanalo abahlobo kubomi boqobo.
Ukuba umntwana uhlala ehlwayelwa kwintsapho, ngoko ucinga ukuba ngumhlobo onokumangalelwa aze ajeziswe, kwaye umntwana angabandakanyekanga kwiimidlalo yakhe iikopi ukuba ilungu lentsapho elithumela umntwana ngokwakhe.
Eyona ndlela, umzekelo omncinci kakhulu xa umntwana ekhwankqisayo, nangona unayo yonke imini ebhaliwe kwiigs.
Abantwana abaxinzelelwanga naluphi na isakhelo sentlalo, ngoko ke bayayiqonda yonke into kakuhle kwaye bazive kwaye ukuba umntwana unemeko ethile engakwazi ukuyixazulula nokuxelela abazali bakhe, uqala ukuqulunqa kwizinga elimnandi leengxelo zobomi kwaye kule ngxelo ibeka phantsi imeko enengxaki, apho engakwazi ukujamelana nayo kwaye ngoko uzama ukuyicombulula.
Nawuphi na umama uya kuxhalabisa ngengqondo yomntwana wengqondo xa edlala nabahlobo abangabonakaliyo kwaye bathetha naye ngolwimi lwabo, okungaqondwa ngabantu abaqhelekileyo. Uninzi lwabantwana bonke luvuleleke kwiimbono zehlabathi elifanayo, kude kube yilapho bebamba intambo, elo lilanga lesithathu. EMpuma, kukholwa ukuba isihloko asikho ngaphezulu (umngxuma kwi-gaha ekhula kuze kube unyaka) ayithinteli umntwana ukuba akhulume ngokukhululekile kunye nezulu kunye nokusingqongileyo kwaye uxanduva lwezakhono zakhe eziphezulu ze-psychic.
Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, ubudala obukhulu kwimibono yabantwana yiminyaka engama-7, oko kukuthi, emva kweminyaka eli, umntwana kufuneka ayeke zonke iintlobo zemibono kunye noqhagamshelwano nabahlobo bamanga.
Abazali bafanele bazi zonke izihlobo zabantwana babo, ngoko kucetyiswa ukuba babuze umntwana malunga nabahlobo bakhe ngezikhathi ezithile. Ukuba umntwana uxelelwa ngabahlobo bakhe abangabonakaliyo, ngoko unako ikamva elihle, kuba iingqondo zeengqondo zicinga njalo. Abantwana abanjalo kwiimeko ezininzi banesifo sokulala.
Ngaba ngaba ngabahlobo bokwenene bomntwana ongeyiboniyo, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka baqonde iingcamango zomntwana, nokuba uyethusa.
Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa abo bazali abafuna umntwana wabo ukuba alahlekise abahlobo abacinga ngayo, anikezele ngakumbi umntwana.
Nangona kubonakala kungenangxaki kunye nokukhohlakeleka komngane onenkohliso kumntwana, ngezinye iimeko umntu kufuneka acinge ngokuya kumgqirha ukuba:
- Umntwana udidekile enyanisweni aze aphile kwihlabathi elikhohlisayo kwaye xa elwa nezihlobo zakhe ezicingayo ziyaxinzelelo.
- Umntwana akanomdla kunoma yintoni na ngaphandle kohlobo lwakhe olungabonakali kwaye unxibelelwano olubi nabazali bakhe.
- Umntwana uziphathe kakubi.