Xa kufike i-diapers elahlayo, ingxaki yokuzimela embizeni imile ukuba ibe nzima. Umama wayenamaxesha amaninzi ngemini ukugqoka abantwana kwiingubo ezomileyo, oko kwakufuneka kuhlanjwe ngesandla, kuba kwakungekho mishini yohlamba ngelo xesha. Kufanelekile ukucinga le ngxube yeengubo ezingcolileyo, kubonakala imihla ngemihla, kwaye kuyacaca ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuqala ukufundisa abantwana kubhokhwe ngokukhawuleza. Ekubeni ibhokhwe, ukuthanda kwangempela kwadalwa: abantwana baxhatshaza, oomama babenzela. Kwaye ngaphandle kwezinyembezi kumacala omabini akakwazanga ukwenza. Ngethamsanqa, la maxesha adlule. Yonke into yaba lula kwaye ilula. Kodwa awuyi kugcina umntwana kwi-diapers lonke ixesha. Ixesha elithile liza ku-Ch.
Lixesha lini?
Uninzi unina imihla ngemihla uyazibuza indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba acele ibhodlo. Kodwa enyanisweni, akukho nto isenzo senkohlakalo ekuqeqesheni kwangaphambili kweemvuthu kwi-pot. Ukuba akukho malunga nokunyanzeliswa kunye nezohlwayo ngenxa yokuba umntwana akawenzi umsebenzi wakhe apho kuyimfuneko. Ukuhleka okunjalo akunakwenzeka ukuba kudlule ngaphandle kokulandelelana kwengqondo yengane yomntwana. Ukunyanzela umntwana ebhodweni kunokuba sisimemo esingenakusebenza sokusebenzisa le "nto yangaphakathi". Abantwana baziswa kwi-pot ukuze kungabikho ukudibanisa namanye amathoyizi kwaye bahlule ngokufanelekileyo. Ngexesha elide, unokuyisebenzisa kwakhona injongo enenjongo. Kodwa oomama bafanele bazi ukuba kude kube yiminyaka ethile, lo mfana nje, kwaye "akayikho ubungqina bokwenene". Kuze kube yilapho umzimba kunye neengqondo zivuthiwe ngaphambili, ithemba lokufumana impumelelo ehlala njalo alifanelekanga. Umdala umntwana, okhawuleza, olula kwaye ongenabuhlungu kukuba asebenzise ukupheka. Kwaye oku kulungele ixesha eli xesha abantwana belibiza ixesha ukusuka kwiinyanga ezili-18 ukuya kwezi-24 zeemvumba. Kutheni kunjalo? Kuvela ukuba kulo nyaka unomntwana ukuvuthwa kokugqibela kweendawo ezijongene nokulawula ukuqonda umsebenzi womzimba wakhe.
Yintoni eyenzekayo?
Ngoko, kucelwa ukuba, kutheni umntwana, unyaka, afune ukubona uMama noTata, bahlukanise imibala, bayazi ukuba "bathetha njani ikati kunye nenja, kwaye abayiqondi yonke ibhokhwe? Kubonakala ngathi kuthiwa yi-whims okanye nokuba nomnqweno wokwenza umama nobagula, ukubonisa umlingiswa, kodwa oku akunjalo. Ukufikelela kwiminyaka emibini nesiqingatha inkomo ayikwazi ukulawula umsebenzi we-bladder yayo. Ngamanye amagama, akakwazi ukunyamezela, ukuba ufuna ukuya kwindlu yangasese, akacingeki ukuba oku kwaye kufanele kwenziwe. Kwenzeka nje. Kwaye xa abantu beqala ukugxeka oko "aphinde aphinde akwenze okungalunganga", intsana ayiqondi into ayenzileyo. Futhi ufunda into eyodwa kuphela: "Ndiyingozi, ngoko bayandichukumisa." Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo akayikudibanisa nale nyaniso yokuba wayenamagqabi akhe.
Ungaqonda njani ukuba umntwana ulungele ukuqeqeshwa?
Lumkela umntwana wakho, kwaye uya kuphawula xa sele ekulungele impawu. Ngendlela, oogqirha babantwana bakholelwa ukuba kukho ukungafani kobulili kule mbandela. Ngaloo nto, kuphawulwe ukuba amantombazana avuthwa kwangaphambili, kwaye akwazi ukulawula umsebenzi webilini kusukela kwiinyanga ezili-12 ukuya kweye-18, ngelixa amakhwenkwe le nkqubo ingabonwa kwixesha elivela kwiinyanga ezili-18 ukuya kwezi-30 zobomi. Isibonakaliso sokuzimisela ukuya ebhodweni yile:
Ukuzivocavoca kwamathumbu kumntwana kubakho rhoqo kunye nexesha eliqikelelwayo.
I-diaper yesana ihlala yomile emva kokuhamba, ukulala-ubuncinane iiyure ezingama-2 kumqolo.
UKroha uyaqonda ukuba kwenzekani kuye xa eqhuba ishishini lakhe - uyagxuma, adibanise nokucoca.
Ingane isele ikwazi ukunyuka kwiindawo eziphantsi, isuse iingubo zakhe kwaye uthethe kakuhle ukuba ubonise umnqweno wokuya kwindlu yangasese.
Umntwana ubonisa xa i-diaper imanzi, icela ukuba itshintshe.
Uvakalisa umnqweno wokusebenzisa ipoto, gqoka iingubo zangaphantsi, "mkhulu."
Ukubona le miqondiso, zama ukunyamekela umntwana ukuba asebenzise ibhodwe. Yaye udumise ngobuchule obonakalisiweyo!