Asinakuhlala sisondela kumntwana kwifowuni yakhe yokuqala. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Impendulo iyabonakala - kufuneka uyiqhelise ukuzimela, kwaye kungekhona kuphela kwimidlalo yodwa, kodwa nakwinkonzo yokuzimela kunye nomsebenzi wendlu.
KWI-CLAUSE YOKUQALA
Inyaniso yokuba abantwana abayithandi ukuba yedwa yinto engokwemvelo. Ngokuzalwa komntwana ezweni lethu, njenganoma yiphi na intsapho enokubonakala komntwana wokuqala, uvuyo kunye neenkathalo zongezwa. Ngethuba umyeni wam esebenza, kwafuneka ndihlambe kwaye ndihlambe iimpahla, ndipheke ukudla, kwaye ndandifuna ukuphumla, kodwa unyana wam wayefuna ukunyamekela yonke iminithi.
Ndayikhupha ibhinqa phakathi kwegumbi, ndavula zonke iingcango kwaye ndenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, ngezinye izikhathi ndikhala ngokusuka kwindawo yokuhlambela ngaphandle kwekhitshini inkcazelo yento endiyenzayo ngoku kwaye xa ndiza kubuya. Ngokuqinisekileyo unyana wayesiqonda intsingiselo yamagama, kodwa wayebukele ukuhamba kwam ngeenxa zonke, wandiva ilizwi lam elithulile waza wavuma ukulinda ixesha elide.
Nangona umntwana engashukumi ngokuzimeleyo, umntu unokuzama ukuwuhlala kunye nehoyi elikhanyayo. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kwisicelo sokuqala somntwana ukuba abuyele kwiindawo zokulala, ukungahambi kwakho akusayi kuphinda kuhambisane nengxolo - umntwana uya kukwazi ukuba: Umama uza kuza ngokukhawuleza xa ebiza. Xa intombi yethu yedwa, unyana wayenelisekile, kuba ngelo xesha udade omncinci wayezama ukuphumeza ipiramidi, ukukhangela izimbiza, kwaye le nto enye, kwaye kunjalo, imidlalo. Kodwa abantwana abaneminyaka emibini ubudala kunye neenyanga ezintandathu bekunjalo, kunzima ukuxoxisana, kwakhona kwakunceda unina. Isisombululo safunyanwa: ndabatyala ekhitshini kufuphi nebhodibhodi, apho ndaqala ukukhupha izinto zokubetha kunye nenkunkuma enkulu yenyama. Wonke umntu wayevuyayo: ibhokhwe yemidlalo enomsindo yayininzi, kwaye ndikwazi ukulawula le meko ngexesha elide.
Xa umntwana eqala ukukhawula, ixesha lokuba umama ahambe ngokukhululekile. Kulo gumbi lokuhlala, unina unako ukuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlahle iisyushi kwi-sofa, ukuya kumaphephancwadi adibeneyo, ekhitshini - ukudlala, umzekelo, ngeempahla zecikhali zokhuni. Ukuzivocavoca okunjalo kakuhle ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi, kwaye yonke indawo umama uya kujonga umntwana wakhe, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa ukupheka kwesidlo okanye ukuhlamba.
ABANCEDI BETHU
Ekubeni unyaka, abantwana baqala ngokuvuyela kakhulu ukufezekisa izabelo zomama - zithwala i-rag egumbini, zilethe i-spoon etafileni, njl. Ndifuna ukukhumbula ekuqalekeni kwebhanali, kodwa ngokwenene inyaniso ebalulekileyo: umsebenzi owenziwe kwimbongolo yabantu. Abantwana abaqhelekileyo ukuba basebenze! Oku kunathi, abantu abadala kunye ngamanye amaxesha abantu banxibile kakhulu, umsebenzi wesikolo awuyivuyo kakhulu, kodwa kumntwana konke into entsha, ngoko ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokumkholisa ngebhizinisi elitsha kunye nexesha elifanayo ukufumana inzuzo yebini yebini. Okokuqala, abantwana banako ukuhlamba, bahlambe amazinyo abo, basule ubuso babo ngamathambo abo, kwaye okwesibini, banokukhonza itafile: zizise okanye zicoceke iikomityi, iiplate, iipuni, kunye nesithathu - ncedise umama ukupheka ukutya: usebenzise ibhotela, izimbiza zetyuwa, iswekile, okusanhlamvu, okwesine - ukufihla isikhalazo sakho (emva kokuqeqesha ambalwa konke kuya kuvela!) kwaye uqoke imithwalo, ngelixa umama uphonsa ingubo kwigumbi lelineni. Kwaye abantwana bayavuya ukuzonwabisa ngeendwendwe-abantwana ngexesha umama asela itiye ekhitshini nabazali bakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye wethu unako ukulungelelanisa olu luhlu ngokuqonda kwethu. Ngokwemvelo, kulula ukuyondla umntwana ngokwakhe okanye ukumtshala ngamanzi ngaphezu kokunika intanda yakhe inkululeko yokuzimela, kwaye uhlambe ekuhlambuleni ukutya okutywetywayo kuwo wonke umzimba okanye ngaphezulu. Kodwa kholwa mna, inkunzi yenyana izakufumana ngokukhawuleza ezo zakhono zokuqala, njengezizukulwana ezininzi zoobawo abazifumanayo.
KUFUNDA NO KUFUNDA
Injini yokuzimela yedwa, ke, ukuba umntwana ufunde izakhono ezahlukeneyo kunye nezindlela zokusebenzisana nezinto ezizungezile. Ukuba ufunde ezi zakhono kunye neendlela, umntwana uya kukwazi ukuzenza yena ngokwakhe okanye kwiimeko eziguquguqukileyo - oko kuthetha abantwana beengqondo kunye nootitshala. Kwaye sifundisa abantwana ukuba baqhube, bahambe baze babaleke, kodwa kufuneka bafunde kwaye bazisebenzise nje kuphela-sebenzisa ibhokhwe, bahlasele phantsi ngomhlaza, ukuba udibanise, thola umkhonto uze usule impumlo yakho, njl. Zonke zezi zifundo zifunde kakuhle kwaye zikhawuleze ukuba ukuwabonisa kwifom edlalwayo. Umzekelo, ufundisa umntwana ukuba adle yena ngokwakhe-fumane i-spoon emlonyeni wakho. Hlala ecaleni kwidonk elula ukuyihlambulula, kwaye vumela umntwana ukuba azame kwaye "uyondle". Kungekudala uza kufumanisa ukuba ngoku umntwana wakho ozithandayo uzama ukuzondla ngeepuni ezizungezile: ubaba, izihlobo, abahlobo kunye neebhere. "Ukutya" okunjalo kungagcini nje ukulungisa ubuchule obunokufumana umntwana, kodwa kwenza ukuba imisebenzi yakhe yokudlala ihluke kakhulu.
Ukuthintela umntwana ukuba angabikho kwi-overtaxing kwaye akhathazeke, umama kufuneka abe nexesha lokutshintsha umsebenzi wakhe kuye. Kwaye apha ubuchule buya kunceda-enye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu kumsebenzi womntwana. Unokwenza umnwe ngomgubo ochithwa etafileni, okanye ungapenda iphepha. Unokwenza iipensile ezinemibala kunye nezilula, ukufundisa indlela yokusebenzisa i-eraser. Unokufumana ibhokisi yeplastiki kwaye ulungiselele indawo yomsebenzi omdala wokudweba. Mna ngamabomu ndingabhekisi ngamakhasi kunye neglue lapha, kuba sithetha ngeeklasi kunye nemidlalo ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba kumama. Iiklasi ezithandekayo zinzima, ngokuqinisekileyo, ziphindwe kabini kunomdla kunye kunye nomama, kodwa ukuba ungekho ngomzuzu, le ngcaciso imfutshane ayiyi kudlula ize.
Kwintsapho yethu, into endiyithandayo iyayifaka kwiphepha elikhulu lika-Whatman. Ndiloba iipeniseli, ndibeke i-quan on the floor, ngoko sikhetha umxholo wokudweba, umzekelo, i-Afrika, kwaye ndiyifaka imephu jikelele ye-Afrika. Abantwana abanentshiseko enkulu badonsa iinkcukacha (iipramramid, imilambo, iidangatye). Ukudlala kwizilwanyana zaseAfrika okanye kuDkt. Aybolit kwikhadi elenziwe ngokwabo, abafana banomdla ngakumbi kunokuba kuthengiweyo, ngakumbi kuba umntu unokuhlala evula izinto ezilahlekileyo. Xa unika umntwana lo msebenzi okanye, ungakulibali ukuqwalasela izinga lokuphuhliswa kwalo, ngokukodwa, ukulungela umsebenzi ozimeleyo: ukuba umntwana usanda kuqalisa ukuhamba, phantse lonke ixesha lakhe lihlala naloo mkhono omtsha, ezinye imidlalo kunye nemisebenzi iya kuvela kwimvelaphi. Umntwana omdala kufuneka akhunjuzwe ngoluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi kunye nemisebenzi elindelwe emini, ukuze afunde ukucwangcisa ixesha lakhe lokukhululeka-elona lixabisekileyo kwaye lilinde ixesha elide liza kuba lixesha leemidlalo ezizimeleyo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba xa enza okuthile ngokwakhe, sele esinceda abazali kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kubo. Ewe, ukuba akazange asebenze yonke into yakhe ngokuzenzekelayo ngokunyanisekileyo imini yonke kwaye akazange aphazamise nonina, kodwa waqhawula umgangatho, wahlamba izitya, wenyuka ngomdlalo omtsha udade omncinci, ngoko yena ungumntu omhle!