Isisombululo ngasinye sesibini kunye kunye nokuncinci. Indlela yokufundisa umntwana kwindawo yokulala eyahlukeneyo, fu manisa kwinqaku ngesihloko esithi "Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokwahlukileyo kubazali bakhe."
Kunye kunye okanye
Ubuthongo obunamathele kunye ne-crumb bunikela wonke umntu uxinzelelo oluncinane. Abantu abadala akumele bavuke nantoni na xa kufuneka nondle, tshintshe, okanye nimbambezele kwaye nithuthuzele omncinci. Abazali balala ngokubhetele, bengakhathali. Kwaye ukutshatyalaliswa komntwana kunye nonina, umnqweno wakhe, ukufudumala, ukuvumba, isandi sesiqhelo sentliziyo kunika umxholo wokhuseleko, ukhuseleko kunye nokuhlala kwehlabathi lakhe. Ezi zihlandlo, ngandlela-thile, abanalo abantwana nabanina ngokwaneleyo, abavela kwiintsuku zokuqala emva kokubuya kwikhaya lokubeleka balala ngokwahlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana abadingeki bancike kwi-attachment excessive kubazali babo. Kodwa ukulala ngecala lomama kungekudala kamva kudlule ixesha eliluhlu lokuhlukana. Iimvumba ezineminyaka emibili ubudala (malunga nalo nyaka kwaye umbuzo wokulala ebhedeni ehlukeneyo), lo luyinto ebalulekileyo yokuguqula ubomi.
Ngoko ukuze angabi namandla kuye, udinga inkxaso yakho kunye nesimo sengqondo sokuzola into eyenzekayo. Ngoko ke, ukususela ekuqaleni, musa ukuvumela iimpazamo ezimbini ezibalulekileyo, eziqhelekileyo kweli xesha elilukhuni. Musa ukukhathazeka malunga nosana kusengaphambili, musa ukulinganisa "ukwahlukana" kwakho, ungazithuthuzi ngokwesaba malunga nokuba kakubi kangakanani ngaphandle komama. Awunamnye ukungcatsha kwaye ungashiyi nabani kwiimeko ezingenakunceda. Qonda, yonke into kufuneka ikhule ngendlela yayo kwaye ngexesha layo! Ubuthongo obuhle abuhluli, kodwa uhambo oluhle. Ngoko, umsebenzi wakho kukufunda indlela yokuxhobisa umfana kwindawo apho amaphupho amphupha amlindele khona. Ukunyamekela kwiimvumba ezinokukhathazeka. Ukhalela, unamathela kwaye akaze afune ukuya kwindlu yakhe yokulala entsha? Khwaza, velela, ushiye enye. U-Kroha kaninzi unemiyalezo yobusuku, uyesaba into engaqondakaliyo, akafuni ukuhlala egumbini, nokuba kukho ukukhanya apho? Yenza isigqibo kunye nengcali yeengqondo, uya kumnceda umntwana akhuphe ukwesaba, athi, akukho nto iyingozi, iya kusetyenziswa - ayisona isigqibo esona sigqibo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekwenzeni ukhathazeka kwengane, kubangela ukuba uxinezeleke, ngamanye amaxesha nokuba nesidlo esinqwenelekayo, ukulila, ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimidlalo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka siyiqwalasele le ngxaki.
Sifika kwilizwe lemilingo
Ukuba unengxaki yokulala nokulala, qalisa ngokudala indawo encinci ekhulileyo nekhuselekileyo. Ubuncinane iyure ngaphambi kokulala. Thatha umntwana kude neTV, uphazamise imidlalo ekhuthazayo. Mfunde incwadi, hlala kwi-embrace. Kwaye ukuxwayisa ukuba namhlanje uya kulala embhedeni wakhe. Vumela i-crumb ibonise zonke iimvakalelo zakho eziphazamisayo malunga neli themba. Ukhwela, uthi "Andifuni", uyagxina intamo yakhe? Ungazami ukukhohlisa "ukuba ngumntu omdala", ungazami ukumqinisekisa ukuba "uya kuthanda yena", ungaba nomsindo kwaye ungabi
hlazo ngenxa yokuziphatha okubi. Ngokuchaseneyo, bonisa ukuqonda kunye novelwano: "Ndiyabona, awufuni, awuqhelekanga ukulala njengaleyo. Ewe, ucaphukile ngokwenene, ndibuhlungu kakhulu kuwe, uyabuhlungu ngokwenene. " Uya kumangaliswa kukuba ngala mazwi aya kushukuma ngokukhawuleza kwaye athuthuzele ngokusondeza umntwana kunye nokudibanisa. Kwaye iinyembezi ziyakumisa. Emva koko, ngokunyanisekileyo, kodwa ngobuhlobo, uthi: "Usadinga ukulala embhedeni wakho." Umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba uyamkela izigqibo, umntu omdala, kunye noxinzelelo olunzulu alukhuseli kwi-crumb, ayigxininisi isikhundla sakhe "esingaphantsi". Mema umntwana ukuba abone indlela yokwenza ishintsho sakhe kwisikhumba sakhe kwaye ulindele ukuba ubuthongo bube mnandi. Emva koko, umntu, nokuba encinci, uya kuba nzima xa eziva engekho ixhoba leemeko, kodwa ungumdali osebenzayo kweemeko zobomi bakhe. UKarapuz uhlazo, akayazi into abayifunayo kuye? Kwaye ufike ngexesha kunye neengcebiso eziya kwamkelwa sele zingenakuphikiswa. Vumela unyana okanye intombi ukuba akhethe ithoyizi ukuze, elamkele, elele naye. Mhlawumbi o mncinane uya kulungelelanisa ukukhanya kwesibane sasebusuku, esiya kulinda ubuthongo bakhe. Ucela ukuba athathe isikhalazo kwenye indawo? Musa ukuphazamisa imvume. Nangona ilungiselelo elitsha libonakala lingahle lilungele kwaye liqikelele.
Ndincede ndikhethe umculo kumini. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kubona ukuba ukuzola, ukudibanisa nokuthula. Ngaphambi kokuba ushiye ekuphumeni komntu osele embhedeni, bonisa ukuba udale ibali lebali elifunayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphupha kuye, kufuneka nje ucele i-Fairy of Sleep. Kuya kuba mnandi ukuthenga loo Fairy kwivenkile yokudlala okanye yenza kunye nogogo. Futhi mnike umntwana wakhe ngobusuku bokuqala bokulala okuzimeleyo xa ulungiselela lo mzuzu obalulekileyo. Musa ukulibala ukuba umntwana uya kufuna ixesha elithile lokuliqwalasela. Namathisela iNtloko entloko yentloko kwaye umcele ukuba azalise "imiyalelo" yentombazana encinci. Ukuzola, ukuzithemba kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo siya kuthunyelwa kwi-crumb. Iintsuku ezimbini okanye ezintathu, ngokufanelekileyo, kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, ngeveki yokwesekwa kwengqondo nenkxaso-kwaye i-crumb iya kulala ngokulala ebhedeni lakhe, ize ilale ngaphandle kwezinyembezi kunye neentlanzi.
Ndi soyika
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko xa ubuthongo bomntwana buphukile ngokukhawuleza. Ngokukhawuleza uvuka ngokulila phakathi kobusuku, ekhwaza, uqala ukwesaba isikhalazo sakhe. Umgaqo wokuqala kunye oyintloko ohlala ungatshintshiyo: ungesabi, ungabuyiseli ukwesaba umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kwakho. Behave ngokuzolile, ngothando. Ngoku udinga kakhulu umnxibelelwano womzimba. Pobobimalis? Unganqikazi, uqonde izizathu zokuphazamiseka kokulala. Inokuba yinto yokuqala okanye yinkimbinkimbi. Cinga ngako! Iipasjama ezinzima (ezinzima okanye ezinzima), i-mattress ekhuni okanye enobunzima inokuphazamiseka. Ezi zinto kufuneka zitshintshwe. Iimpawu zokuqala zesifo somzimba (ukuphefumula emqaleni, intloko) kuchaphazela nokulala. Ziyakwazi ukumiselwa kuphela ngumntwana wezingane - tyelela iklinikhi kunye nosana. Mhlawumbi inqabile into ethile. Ukuba ubukho ngexesha elifanayo, ngoko awuyi kucinga ukuba yintoni umcimbi, uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa into enokwenzeka xa ungakho. Buza umyeni, ugogo, umongikazi, uqaphele, nokuba ngaba umntwana ungumzalwana omdala akanakoyiki umntwana. Isizathu sokwesaba kufuneka senziwe. Umhle "wokuphulukisa ukuphulukisa" uya kuba yinto yamagama apha. Zama wena. Vumela iqhawe lomlingo lenze into efana nento eyenzeka kumntwana: iyabalisa inja eyingozi (kakuhle, nje i-monster!) Okhenkcezayo (kwaye ifuna ukuyibamba) umalume onomsindo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwiphepha lakho konke kuya kupheliswa ngokukhuselekileyo. Umpopu okanye umloyizi uya kuza kuncedwa kwaye ajamelane naloo mfokazi. Indlela yokwenene yokuzikhulula kwimoyiko kukupenda kunye kunye noko umntwana oyikayo, ukuguqula umfanekiso ube yinto ekhuselekileyo okanye eyonwabileyo. Ungakwazi ukugubungela i-monster kunye nopende oluqaqambileyo (ayiyi kuphinda iphume kwakhona). Ngaba kulula kumphefumlo? Ewe, kuba oko kwakusoloko kwesoyiko, kwanyamalala, kwaphazamiseka. Kuvela ukuba unokuhamba ngokukhuselekileyo kwisibhedlele sakho. Ngoku siyazi indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokwahlukileyo kubazali babo.