Kwaye namhlanje, ukusuka kwinani elikhulu lezinto ezibonakalayo, oku akwanele kuye. Xa uneminyaka engamawaka umntwana sele eqonda kakuhle. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, ufuna ukuxelela konke oku, kodwa engazi ukuba njani. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuphuhlisa intetho yomntwana oneminyaka elilodwa. Emva kwakho konke, umntwana ufunda ngokukhawuleza ukuba akuchazele oko akufunayo, kwaye uyayiqonda, ngaphantsi uya kuba yinto engenangqondo. Emva kwakho konke, i-whims kunye neengcikivo zomntwana wakho zihambelana ngqo nelokuba ufuna nje ukuva nokuqonda abantu abasondeleyo kuye.
Ukuphuhliswa kwentetho yomntwana oneminyaka elilodwa isasebenza. Kulo nyaka unomntwana uqala ukuphanda ngehlabathi ngokuzenzekelayo. Ngoko, kukho umnqweno wokuxelela wonke umntu malunga noko akufundayo yonke imihla. Njengomthetho, amagama okuqala ahambelana ngqo nabantu abawujikelezayo yonke imihla. Yingakho into yokuqala umntwana athi ngumama okanye utata. Emva koko kukho amagama anjengowesifazane, umalume, ukuba kukho abantwana abadala ku-sixhenxe, ke umfana. Konke oku kwenzekayo kwiinyanga ezili-10 ukuya kwiminyaka enye nesiqingatha. Kulo nyaka unomntwana unqwenela kakhulu ukuxelisa abanye. Uphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ubuso bomntu, imiqondiso kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, izandi. Kulula ngokukodwa kunikwa izandi ukuba izilwanyana zithi: inja ephazamisayo (av-av), aphoing yenkomo (apho-moo), idibanisa ikati (meow), umntwana ukhumbula ngokukhawuleza kwaye aphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo, umzekelo, indlela umatshini othetha ngayo (bi- bi), iwashi (u-tick-to-tak).
Kuphawulwe ukuba amagama okuqala athetha ngumntwana anomntu oqhelekileyo. Kodwa oku akufani naso sonke isiqhelo esiye sijwayele, abadala. Umntu omdala ukuze adibanise izinto eziliqela kunye uzama ukufumana kuzo izikhokelo ezithile, umzekelo, yintoni ekujoliswe kuyo. Umntwana ukhumbula nje uphawu olucacileyo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ukufumana oku kungena kwizinto ezihluke ngokupheleleyo, ubabize, ngelizwi. Ngokomzekelo, i-yum-yum, kubazali oku kunokuthetha enye kuphela, inkunzi ifuna ukuyidla. Kodwa umntwana uthetha ngolu hlobo kungekuphela nje umnqweno wokutya, kodwa kunye nezitya ezivela kuyo okanye mhlawumbi nomntwana ongaphandle, kuba nje ubona indlela umntwana ongaziwayo ahlawula ngayo umqulu.
Esinye sezivakala eziqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana uthi kule minyaka "Y". Njengomthetho, esi sandi sihamba kunye nenyaniso yokuba inkomo ibonisa iminwe yakhe into ethile. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bayathukuthela ngenxa yalokhu kumntwana kwaye bazame ukumchazela ukuba oku akunakwenziwa. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba isalathisi sesicatshulwa asikabikho uhlobo oluthile lokubamba ukunyakaza. Umntwana, ngenxa yobudala bakhe, akakwazi nje ukuthatha enye okanye enye into ayifunayo. Kwaye akakwazi nje ukuba achaze njani umnqweno kubazali bakhe. Isandi "Y" sisichazi-magama esincinci somntwana ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho. Wena. oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana uyaqonda kwaye uyaqonda le nto okanye eso sifundo, kodwa akakwazi ukuthetha igama layo. Njengomthetho, ukuba abazali abazami ukululela umntwana kulo mqondiso, kodwa kunoko zama ukuqonda oko umntwana afuna ukuwaxelela nokubanceda nawo, isigama sokungabonakali kweso sikolo siphuthuma ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye oku kukhokelela ngqo ekubeni kwithuba elincinci lingaba luncedo, endaweni yokuba "Y" umntwana uya kuqala ukubiza amagama ngokwawo.
Ubume obalulekileyo obunceda ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho yomntwana oneminyaka elilodwa kukusebenzisana komntwana kunye nabantu abadala. Ukuqaphela umdla womntwana kwisitya esitsha, izinto okanye into, zama ukumxelela ngokubanzi malunga nayo. Ukuba le yinto yokudlala, qala igama layo, uze utshele umntwana ukuba yintoni (ithambile, ilukhuni, imbala, njl.), Unokwenza ntoni nalo, ungayidlala ngayo nayo. Qinisekisa ukubeka izimvo kuzo zonke izenzo zakho. Zama ukwenza oku nje ekhaya, kodwa nakwezitrato. Ukuze umntwana wakho afunde amagama amatsha ngokukhawuleza kwaye angcono, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba amabali akho asona nje isandi kuye. Ukuba inkwenkwe ibone umthi, qiniseka ukuba umvumele ukuba achukumise. Ngoko uya kuba mnandi ngakumbi kwaye uya kukhumbuza ngokukhawuleza ukuba eli likhulu, elibi kwisityalo kunye nomthi ofanayo, owamxelela yona kwaye wabonisa emfanekisweni. Ngendlela, ukujonga nokuxoxa ngemifanekiso kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho yomntwana. Ngomntwana oneminyaka elilodwa umntwana usenako ukwazi ukuthelekisa izinto ezahlukeneyo kunye nemifanekiso yazo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ubone esithombeni into yokudlala efanayo nomntwana wakho, umzekelo, ibhere, qalisa ukuqhathanisa le nto yokudlala ngomfanekiso. Ewe, umzekelo, "uMasha unobhere kunye nomfanekiso weebhere. Esesithombeni ibhere limhlophe, kwaye uMasha unobumba. "
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukungabizi kuphela izinto, kodwa ukuxelela umntwana ukuba zithathwe ntoni na. Buza umntwana ukuba alethe incwadi. Ngokuncediswa kule ncwadi ungafundisa umntwanakho imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo. Ingabonisa idoli, uyibeke kwireferensi, ivule, ivule, ikhangele, jonga imifanekiso kuyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuphatha okulula, izicelo zokuqala kumntwana, ungesabi ukuba akayi kukuqonda. Yenza umgudu wakho. Thatha ipuleti kunye nawe, unike isipuni kumama wakho, njl. Ingane iya kuba nomdla kakhulu ekukuncedeni, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu iya kufumana ikhefu lokuqala lokuxhumana kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezile.
Enye indlela yokuhlakulela intetho yentsana zonke iintlobo zeengqungquthela kunye neentlanzi. Ndiyabulela kwisigqi esicacileyo kunye nomculo wabo, banceda umntwana ukuba akhumbule kwaye aqonde amagama amasha nezenzo ngokukhawuleza.