Ukuba umntu wakugxotha - uncedo lwengqondo kuwe lunokuba luncedo kakhulu, ngakumbi xa kubonakala kuwe ukuba ihlabathi lonke lilahlekelwe ukubaluleka kwalo, yonke into iphendukile kwaye ingamnandi, igugile kuwe, ivalwe ubuso bakho. Ayikho inzondelelo, kukho ukunganakwa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye umphefumlo kunye neengcamango zihlala zikhumbuza kwiimbali zexesha elidlulileyo, zibuyela kwixesha xa uhlala kunye, ufuna iimpazamo ezingalunganga, kwaye uhlala ujikeleza iintloko zawo ... Ucinga: ngenxa yokuba yonke into ingalungiswa, ukuba ... Emva koko wayeba kunye nam, bebeyayigcina isandla sam kwakhona, wayenokumomotheka kwakhona kwakhona kwaye ekhangele ngeso liso ngamehlo, wayeya kuba wam. Nantsi umgaqo wokuqala: ungazitshongo. Yintoni eyenzekayo, kwenzeka, awukwazi ukuyibuyisela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, sizigxeka ngokwezinto ezingafanelekanga, kwaye oku kuphela kudala ubunzima beengqondo, buhlungu kwaye silahlekelwa luxolo lwengqondo. Nangona ukwenene wenze iimpazamo zamakhadikhasi, zithatha kwisayensi ukuze ngelixa elizayo ubu buhlobo bungabonwa. Kulo lonke ubomi, umntu kufuneka alwele ukulungelelanisa, ukuba azifunelele kweli hlabathi, ukulungisa iimpazamo zethu. Emva koko, kuzo kuzo esizifundelayo. Kwaye kwinani elikhulu lamatyala, akukho mntu ubeka uxanduva lokuba ubuhlobo buphelile okanye ushiywa ngumntu. Kwenzeka nje ukuba ulwalamano luye lwaphela, uthando luye okanye luye lwavela ukuba awukho nje uhlobo lwabantu abadinga omnye nomnye. Yithatha ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uyiphathe iindaba ezizinzileyo: emva koko, kudla ukuba kwenzeka ukuba insizwa ayikugxothanga ngenxa yokuba unetyala elithile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba yenyathelo elithile, kwaye phawula ukuba akukho nto iya kuza kule nyunyana . Kungcono ukukhangela umntu omtsha, ukuqala ubomi obutsha, kunokuba uhlupheke kwaye ukhangele iimpazamo ebuhlotsheni obudala, ngaphandle kokufumana uvuyo kubo.
Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ngethuba lokuqala xa uphonsa indoda, ungayigodli imvakalelo emibi kwaye ubavumele ukuba baphume. Vumela ukuba ukhale, ukuba uyayifunayo, ungayigodli, kuba iinyembezi zenza imisebenzi eminingi yomzimba, kubandakanywa uncedo lwengqondo, ukuphumla kwengqondo, okufunekayo. Kwiiyure ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokuqhekeka zibuhlungu kakhulu. Kukho umphumo wokuba uvakalelwa, umntu ufumana iindaba eziziveleyo, ugxininisekile, kamva ucinga ngezinto zonke ezazingaphambili, ukhangele iindlela zokutshintsha into ethile, ucinga malunga nokwenza okulandelayo.
Intombazana nganye iphendula ngendlela yakhe yokuba iphosa indoda. Kuxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo, isithintelo kwisithandwa, isimo sengqondo ngexesha lokwahlukana, intliziyo yengqondo yentombazana, ingaba yayithande kangakanani le ntombazana. Kwakhona indima yakhe kukuba ubudala, amava kunye nokuzithemba.
Ukuba ukuhlukana kwakho kwakubuhlungu kakhulu (ukungakhathazeki, uxinzelelo, ukuxhalaba, ukungabikho kwesondlo, ingozi yokuzibulala, ukulala), kukulungele ukuqhagamshelana nengcali yengqondo okanye isifo sengqondo sokuncedisa ngengqondo. Abantu abanjalo ngabaqeqeshi kwintsimi yabo kwaye baya kukunceda ukulahla into yakho yothando ngokukhawuleza nangendlela enokwenzeka ngayo. Ingcali yeengqondo ayiyi kunika iingcebiso ezifana nentombi yakho okanye unina, ukuphikisana ngokomzwelo kunye nokunyaniseka. Uya kukunceda uziqonde ngokwakho, uchaze iingxaki zakho kwaye unokushukumisele ukuba usombulule le meko. Ukuba uyaphawula ukuba iimpawu zichazwe ngakumbi, kwaye ziyakwazi ukuhlakulela ingcinezelo - kungcono ukuya kwikliniki ukuza kugqirha.
Ukuze ungabonakali kwiingcamango ezingathandekiyo kwaye uphilise ngokukhawuleza amanxeba okuhlukana, qaphela ibhizinisi ozithandayo, cingca ingcinga engathandekiyo. Ziyinyamekele, hamba ukuyothenga, ubhalisele ukudanisa okanye imidlalo, ukhethele umdlalo olutsha. Oku kuya kukunceda nje ukuphazamiseka kwiingcamango ezimbi, kodwa nokuba wenze abahlobo abatsha, abahlobo abatsha abakunika inkxaso nenkxaso yengqondo.
Ukuba uqhubeka ufuna uncedo lwangokwengqondo, hlela ngokwakho, zibuze, yini oyifunayo? Mhlawumbi, kunye nokuhlamba kunye nokufihla izikhalazo ezinokude, amagama umntu ongeyindoda, kunye nowaphulaphula naye. Mhlawumbi kukho imeko ecacileyo kulwalamano, izithembiso ezingenakukunika uxolo kunye nalapho kufuneka uqondisise kwaye uqonde intsingiselo yazo. Ngaloo ndlela, ungathetha nomntu owakhuphayo, okanye, ukuba akunakwenzeka, kunye nengcali yeengqondo, unina okanye umhlobo. Thetha kumntu othembela naye, hlalutya ngexesha elifanayo kwaye uhlalutye le meko. Mhlawumbi, umnxibelelwano wakho uya kunceda uqonde ezinye zeengongoma ozikhathaleleyo ngazo.
Ungazivumeli ube lusizi, uphazamise iingcamango ezingalunganga - oku kukuncedisa ngokusisigxina kwengqondo ukuba nayiphi na ingcali iza kukucebisa. Okubaluleke kakhulu - ungazithembi, kwaye ungavumeli ukuzithemba kwakho kuwele. Abaninzi abasetyhini babe namava anjalo, kodwa bazama nzima. Kwaye baphuma njengeenkokheli, bejamelana nokudabuka kwabo. Kutheni ongenakukwazi? Ungaze uqiniseke ukuba ufanelekile kunye nawe. Inyaniso yokuba uphonsa indoda, kungekhona isizathu sokuxhoma impumlo yakho. Thatha le meko njengemihla ngemihla, ukuhlangabezana nemvakalelo yakho, qhubeka uthanda nokuzithengisa, yenza izinto ezithengileyo zokuthenga, uxoxe nabantu abalungileyo kwaye uzibale ngokukhawuleza ukusilela kwakho. Kuye kuyimfuneko ukukhupha kuphela luncedo: ukufumana amava amaninzi kwiintsebenziswano, ukuqonda iimpazamo zomntu, ukufunda iimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye nobomi ngokwawo.
Ukuba umntu uphonsa, unako ukubonelela ngoncedo olusisiseko lwengqondo. Musa ukuxhomekeka kwizinto ezimbi, ezingabonakaliyo kwiingcamango ezivakalelwa kunye nemvakalelo, uthathe iimeko ezinjengexesha elihle-kwaye uya kuphumelela. Kungekudala, ungalibali ukuzivula kubantu abatshatayo, kwaye, mhlawumbi, uthando olutsha oluya kukunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba yonke into ezayo ihamba phambili kwaye iyona nto ibhetele.