Phantse onke amabhinqa eplanethi amaphupha omtshato okanye, ubuncinane, malunga nomlingane osemthethweni. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba amadoda ethu atshate. Kubo, umtshato ufana neetyathanga. Kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile kunye nentombazana yakho ethandekayo iminyaka emihlanu, kwaye akayi kukwazi ukuhamba nawe ukuya kwisithsaba. Kodwa kunjalo kukho abafazi abanjalo abalawula ukudonsa umgangatho oqinileyo kwi-OFISI YEMISEBENZI. Cinga iindlela ezininzi zokunqoba kule "mfazwe" enzima yesitampu kwipaspoti yakho. Ngoko, iingcebiso ezipholileyo: indlela yokutshata umntu.
Indlela yenombolo 1. Ukukhulelwa
I-teknoloji isebenza kubantu abafanelekileyo kunye nabanoxanduva. Kubantu, ukuqhubeka kohlobo lwabo kungenye yeenjongo ezibalulekileyo ebomini. Ngamanye amaxesha kubaluleke ngaphezu kokuthanda. Ubundlobongela obuqinileyo bukulungele ubuninzi babo bokuqala. Kodwa kukho abo babesaba nje okusesikweni (kulabo babandakanyeka namantombazana angaphantsi), okanye abafuni ukuhlawula inkxaso yabantwana.
Kukho umngcipheko kule ndlela. Ukuba ngaba utata ongenakho imigaqo yakhe yokuziphatha, unokwesaba uxanduva kwaye uphume ngaphandle kokuthetha igama. Kule meko, umngcipheko unokuhlala unina wedwa, okanye ukhuphe isisu.
Indlela yenombolo 2. Ukuhlaselwa kwinqanaba
Le ndlela isebenza kwimeko apho indoda ingaqinisekanga nokuba ufuna ukutshata okanye uloyiko. Ukuba sithetha ngengcinezelo evela kwintombazana, ngoko ke, kubangelwa ukuhlaselwa kwezihlobo okanye intombi. "Njengawe, ube kunye kunye ixesha elide, kutheni ungatshatanga? Ndiyambuza ukuba kutheni engathandi ukutshata? " Kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba ukuhlaselwa okuxhomekeke komnye kuya kubangela ukuba akukho nto ilungileyo. Ukuba ukuhlaselwa, kunjalo ukusuka kumacala onke. Kukulungele ukubandakanya umfana kunye nezihlobo zakhe kunye nabahlobo ngokucinezela. Kwaye kungcono ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani owona mkhulu ugunyaziwe kumyeni wesikhathi esizayo (njengomthetho, lo ngumama). Nguwo amagama akhe okugqibela kwintsipho yesigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba le ndlela ayifanelekanga amadoda angayithandiyo xa ephazamisa ubomi bawo. Indoda ayiyi kuzama nje ukusinda kwingcinezelo kwithuba lokuqala, kodwa uxinzelelo luya kuba negalelo elibi kwisigqibo sakhe ngomtshato.
Indlela yenombolo 3. Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo wakho
Le ndlela yenzelwe abantu abathandayo abathandayo, okanye besaba ukuhlala bodwa. Unokubeka nje umhlobo wakho phambi kweqiniso: nokuba utshatile, okanye uqhekeke. Kodwa kungcono ukuba ungadlala nezinto ezinjalo kwaye ungafaki umntu phambi kokukhetha okunzulu. Kuphi ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo ngobuqhetseba besifazane. Okokuqala, yenza izimo ezifanelekileyo kumyeni ozayo. Ukumdumisa ngokungapheliyo, ubonise indlela enhle ngayo, ekhangelekayo, enomtsalane, ekwakheni ikhaya loxinzelelo kunye nokuhleleka, soloko ehlwaya kwaye upheke kakhulu kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, kumnika ubuninzi kunye nesondo efana naloo uphuphayo. Kananjalo-ngakumbi uhlale umhle kwaye unomdla, ngakumbi xa uphuma kubantu. Kwaye emva kwithuba elithile, qalisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka ukuba "yanyamalala": emsebenzini, kunye nabahlobo, ekuhambeni kwezoshishino. Eyona ndlela ingcono xa uvela kwelinye idolophu, kwaye uya kuqala ukuhamba kubazali bakho, iintombi zeveki okanye ezimbini. Yaye ndikholelwe, akuyi kudala ngaphambi kokuba umntu anqwenele: "Ndifuna ukumtshata!".
Ikhetho ayilula, kodwa inyanisekileyo! Kodwa khumbula, ukuba umntu akakho kunye ngenxa yothando okanye uthando, le nkqubo ayikwazi ukusebenza.
Indlela yenombolo 4. Hlawula
Le ndlela iyona nto iyenzayo kwaye ayisekelwe kwimibutho yothando, kodwa ngomtshato onenzuzo. Inkontileka ye-frank yinto ekhethekileyo yomtshato onjalo. Yonke into ifanele ibe inyanisekileyo: undigxininise epasipoti, kwaye ndakuxelela imvume yokuhlala, imali okanye enye into. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba uya kufumana kuphela oko kuchazwe kwisivumelwano, kwaye akukho nto. Kule meko, khumbula ukuba, emva kokuba wakhupha umtshato onjalo, akunqabile xa indoda ithe yawa thandana nomfazi wayo kwaye ihlala nayo.
Inketho - xa intombi ecebileyo, enamandla ifuna nje inkwenkwe (gigolo). Kule meko, ukubonelela ubomi obuphathekayo, indawo yokuhlala, imoto kunye nezinye izibonelelo, uzifumana ungumthandi okanye umyeni.
Kodwa le ndlela yokufumana isitampu kwipaspoti iya kwenzeka kuphela xa umntu ephefumula ngokungafaniyo kwizinto eziphathekayo kwaye ngenxa yokuchuma kwemali ulungele ukuhlala nomfazi ongathandekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaselula bazama ukuzikhohlisa ukuba bathanda abafazi babo ngenxa yemali.
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