Ukuba intombi yakho ithandana nomdlali, kuqala, kunokuba ube nexhala kwaye ukhathazeke, hlalutya imeko kwaye uqonde zonke i-pluses.
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Ngoko, yintoni uthando lomdlali? Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kufana nokuthenga iifowusta, ukukhangela zonke iifilimu okanye iindidi kunye naye kwisangqa, ukufuna nayiphi na ingcaciso. Intombazana ibonakala ilungiswe kulo mntu. Kodwa nathi siziphatha xa sithandana nomntu onyanisekileyo: sifuna ukuhlala sibona lo mntu nabo bonke ngaye malunga nokwazi. Ngoko ukuziphatha komntwana wakho akunakubizwa ngokuba yanele. Kalula, xa zonke iimvakalelo zingabhekiswa kwinkwenkwe ehleli kwidesksi elandelayo, kodwa kumntu ohlala kude kumakhulu okanye amawaka eekhilomitha, umntu omdala ubonakala engumphambukeli.
Impembelelo yomdlali kwiintombazana
Ngoku makhe sithethe malunga nokuba umdlali okanye umlingisi (emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ukuthandana nomdlali kuthanda kakhulu umntu owenzayo), enomdla okanye ongekho. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, umzekelo, umvampu, ungayibhale phantsi kwinqanaba labahlali. Emva koko, mhlawumbi, ekuphuhliseni isalathiso, ubonakalisa njengomkhonto ohloniphekileyo, utshintsho olulungileyo kwaye uzibonakalisa njengeqhawe elikulungele ukuhamba yonke into ngenxa yothandekayo. Ngoko, okokuqala, phuma, kwikogovublena intombi yakho. Kwaye nantoni na, musa ukugxekisa, ngakumbi ukuba awuyiqondi into eyenziwa ngumdlali okanye umntu wakhe. Kungenzeka ukuba ngenxa yothando olunjalo, intombazana ifunda into yobomi bendalo. Ngako oko, bekungekho nto yokufunda udliwano-ndlebe nalo mntu, ukufumanisa ukuba iziphi iingcamango azisasaza ngazo. Ukuba ubona ukuba lo mntu uthetha izinto ezilungileyo kwaye ukhuthaza ububele, ukunyaniseka, intlonipho, umnqweno wokufezekisa into ethile ngomsebenzi wakhe njalo njalo, ngoko awukwazi ukukhathazeka. Emva kwakho konke, ekubeni umntwana wakho okwangoku ungumgangatho osemgangathweni, intombi iya kuphulaphula amazwi omdlali othandekayo kwaye enze njengoko athethayo.
Kodwa kwiimeko apho intando yomntwana ibonakala ngendlela engafanelekanga yobomi kwaye isasaza indlela yakhe yokuziphatha, ngokuthethileyo, "isondo, iidakamizwa kunye nodonga kunye nomqulu," kufuneka uqaphele. Musa nje ukukhawuleza ukukrazula zonke iiposters uze uphawule lo mntu ngenxa yezono ezifayo. Khumbula ukuba intombazana yakho iselula. Kule minyaka, sonke sino-hyperbolize kwaye siyayiqonda yonke into "ngama-bayonethi." Ngako oko, endaweni yokunqanda umntwana, takshazat, thanda umdlali, ncokola naye, fumana ukuba uhambelana njani nezilingo zakhe kunye nokunye. Ukuba intombazana yona iyayigxeka, akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo. Kodwa kwimeko xa ethatha icala lakhe kwaye ekutshela ukuba kuphelile ukuba uphile, zama ukumnqabisa. Kodwa nantoni na, nangayiphi na imeko, ungalokothi uchukumise intombazana kwaye ungabonakali isimo sengqondo sakho esibi kwizithixo zakhe.
Phuhliswa ngu
Ukuba intombi yakho ithandana nomntu onetalente nangokwaneleyo, iimvakalelo ezinjalo zingabakhokelela ekuphuhliseni umlenze wobuchule kumntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba emva kokuba kuthathelwa ngumdlali othile, amantombazana aqala ukudweba iifraraits, abhale imibongo kunye namabali, abhale iingoma. Kwaye emva koko konke kulungile, ngenxa yokubonga okunjalo, intombazana iyakwazi ukuvula ngokwenene ukudala okuqala malunga nokuba ngubani kwaye wayengacingi, ukuba ubonakale ubongozi abanetalente okanye umculi ococekileyo. Ngoko, uqaphele ukuba intombi yakho ibhala imibongo okanye ifike ngeyomculo omtsha, ungamhleki nhlobo kwaye ungatsho ukuba le nto iyona. Vumela ukuba uhlakulele. Emva koko uthando lomdlali luya kudlulela, kwaye umnqweno wokudala uya kuhlala ngonaphakade.Kodwa xa abazali beqala ukuhleka ngokuzonwabisa kwabo bantwana babo, ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana akwenqaba nje nayiphi na into yokuzilibazisa kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, baqale ukuzicingela njengeziqatha, bengenakukwenza into enomdla neyodwa. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uthethe into entombazana yakho, cingisisa. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba oku kubonakala ngathi ihlazo elingenacala, ngoko amagama omntwana aya kubacaphukisa kwaye aphumele entliziyweni.
"Ukhuseleko" uthando
Xa oomama beqala ukukhathazeka ngothando lwenkosazana yabo, abaqhelanga nantoni na ukuba le ndlela yothando iyona nto ikhuselekileyo. Kakade, ukuba intombazana ingasigxina kakhulu ekhaya kwaye ayikugijimanga ukukhangela umntu omthandayo uze umtshatile. Kodwa ekubeni ininzi intsha iyakuthandana nabadlali belizwe langaphandle, lo mzekelo wezinto eziqhelekileyo akunakwenzeka. Ukuba intombazana yakho ihlala ekhaya kwaye ibhala iileta zothando "etafileni," ngoko, ngokwenene, unenhlanhla. Emva kwakho konke, kulo mzekelo, intombi yakho ayiyi kuphulaphula intliziyo kwaye ingaphumeleli. Ukuba wayenomdla onothando kunye nomntu oyinyani, ngokukodwa umntu osemdala ubudala, ngoko yonke into yayingakwazi ukuphela kakubi. Kwaye ke, kungenako ukufikelela kwangempela kumntu, intombazana ifunda nje ukuthanda, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa nantoni na. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kubonakala ngathi uyabandezeleka kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe zinamandla kakhulu, kodwa empeleni iminyaka iya kudlula kwaye intombi yakho iya kuqonda ukuba olu luthando luyinto ecocekileyo, eqaqambileyo nangenabuhlungu. Emva koko, wayemthanda indoda eyakhelwe, eyanikela ngokukhethekileyo, ilungele ukulingana. Kwaye akazange amdumise nangayiphi indlela. Iinjongo ezinjalo zemifanekiso zichaphazeleka phantse bonke abameli besifazane, kodwa kuphela ukuba umntu ungokoqobo, ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka, ekugqibeleni, ululaphula onke amaphupha kunye nethemba. Kodwa umdlali wepowusta uya kuhlala efana nentombazana ibona. Akayi kukhubekisa, akayi kukhubekisa, akayi kuhlazisa kwaye ahlekise iimvakalelo zakhe.
Ngoko ke, ukuququzelela, kunokutsho ukuba uthando lwama-aktor alisoloko luyingxaki. Ngokuphambene noko, loo mvo yexesha elithile likhusela umntwana wakho kwihlabathi lenene kunye nothando lokwenene, olukhohlakele kakhulu. Kodwa xa uthando ludlulayo, intombazana iya kukhula kwaye ikwazi ukubheka ngokucacileyo abantu kunye neemeko.