Ukuxinezeleka nokuxhalaba

IIRARM
Omnye udade wokudandatheka kukuxhalabisa. Iziphazamiso ezixhalabisayo zifana nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki: zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zihlala zichanekile kwaye ziyakhathazeka. Ukuxinezeleka okuxinezelekileyo bahlukaniswe ngongoma ophezulu wokuxhatshazwa, ukuxhalaba okungaqhelekanga kunye nokuhlala kunengqiqo, ukunyaniseka, ukungazinzi, umnqweno wokuhamba lonke ixesha, ukungakwazi ukugxila.

Ziye zibonakaliswe ngokubonakaliswa ngokwasemzimbeni: ukuthuthumela kwezandla, ukudibanisa ubuso, ukunyuka kwesithukuthezi, ukubethelwa kweentlungu, intlungu yesifuba, intloko yesisu, ukunyameka kwesisu, ukunyusa kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo (okanye ezibonakalayo). Kuyathakazelisa ukuba, ngokungafani nokudakumba, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, uphawu lokuxhala, alubonakali ekuvukeni kwangaphambili, kodwa ekungakwazi ukulala. Ukongezelela, ukuphazamiseka kwezixinzelelo akubonakaliswa ngumbono "obunzima" wehlabathi (baninzi ukwesaba) kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala.
BABINI KUNYE
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxhalabisa uxinzelelo kudibaniswe nokudakumba (kukho into enjalo ngokuthi "uxinzelelo-xhaphaza") kwaye ibonakala ngathi iimeko eziqhubekayo zokuxhalabisa nokuxinezeleka. Ukubandezeleka kokubili uxhalaba kunye nokuxhalabisa kunobungozi, kuba kunokukhokelela kumonakalo omkhulu kwiinkqubo zesifo kunye nezifo ezinzulu zezitho zangaphakathi. Kwaye, njengoko kwimeko yokudakumba, uncedo olufunekayo apha lufuneka apha, kuba uncedo lwezengqondo kunye nezokwelapha lungafuneka.
UKUQHUBEKA UKUPHUMA
Ngoku ngokubulela ekugqithiseni kwesi sihloko, ukuxilongwa "kokudandatheka" kunokuzibeka malunga nantoni na. Kodwa ngaba ihlala ibuhlungu kunye nokukhathazeka ehambisana nokudakumba, ukugula kwengqondo?
IIMPAWU EZIKHUMBILEYO
Ukuthetha ngokudakumba, kuyimfuneko ukuthobela ingqalelo impawu zayo eziphambili. Ingqondo edandathekileyo, imbono engathembekiyo ngoku kunye nekamva. Zonke iimpawu zesi sifo zingaqaliswa ngegama elithi "ukunciphisa". Iminqweno yesigulane, iimvakalelo zovuyo zobomi, ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba, kunomntu ongenamdla wokuhlala enetyala. Ukunciphisa intlonelo kunye nesisu se-muscle, ukukhathala nokulahleka kwamandla kubonakala. Ukuxhalala, ukuphazamiseka kokulala (ngokukodwa, ukuvuswa kwangaphambili - ngo-3 ukuya kwe-5 ntambama ekuseni), ukuzithemba, ukuphulwa kwentloko, ukuphulwa kwemisebenzi yezesondo, ukungathandeki ngokubanzi emzimbeni ukuthuthuzela umntu ogxininisekile kwimeko yokujonga. Isibonakaliso esicacileyo sesi sifo sinengcamango engathandekiyo ngokufa, kungekhona nje ngokuzibulala, kodwa nangenxa yokuba inkathazo iya kufika.
NGAPHAMBILI UKUZIPHATHA
Ukuba le meko ihlala ngaphezu kweeveki ezi-3, ngoko imela ingozi yokwenene kwengqondo kunye nengqondo yomntu, kunye neemeko zempilo yakhe ngokubanzi. Inkqubo yokukhathazeka yentsholongwane ayikwazi ukukwazi "ukuqondisa" ngokufanelekileyo "umzimba", owonakalisa nayiphi na into, ingakumbi intliziyo, ingqondo kunye nesisu somzimba.
ABANTU ABANTU OKANYE ABANTU
Ngokuqhelekileyo, imeko enganeliseki ngayo imeko yobomi ithathwa ngenxa yokudandatheka. Ngokomzekelo, umntu akayithandi imeko esebenzayo okanye ekhaya, ubudlelwane nabanye okanye uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi owenziwa okwangoku. Isimo 'sesigulane' esinjalo asinakubizwa ngokuba sisicindezeleke rhoqo (esichaphazelekayo). "Iyancipha" kuphela phantsi kweempembelelo zangaphandle kunye nokuba kunjalo, "ukukhalela uncedo", iphendukele kwihlabathi. Ngokuqhelekileyo aba bantu abafuni ukutshintsha into ebomini babo ngokuzimeleyo, kodwa bafuna ukutshintsha uxanduva kwabanye. Le meko ayiyixinzelelo, kodwa ukuba iyaqhubeka ixesha elide, inokukhokelela kuyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqaphele ukuthambekela okufanayo, kuyimfuneko ukuhlalutya imeko yangempela yemicimbi, ubuchule bakho kunye neminqweno kwaye uzama ukutshintsha ubomi bakho, nokuba okokuqala akuyi kuba lula.