Umhlobo osweleyo akayi kuyeka, akayi kubuza into engathandabuzekiyo, yinto enyanisekileyo, umhlobo othembekileyo uthetha ... La magama avela kwingoma yabantwana ibonisa ingcamango ephambili ephantsi kwengcamango "yobuhlobo". Kodwa ubuhlobo buhluke.
Ukuba abantu banobungane, oku kubangela ukuba inhlonipho, ubuhlobo besetyhini bubangela ukunyaniseka, kodwa ukuba umntu nomfazi bangabangani, oku kubangela ukungathembeki, ukwesaba kunye namaxesha athile. Kunokuba kubangelwa kwaye kutheni "akukho", masiqonde ndawonye.
Okokuqala, loo mbono "ubuhlobo" besilisa nabasetyhini unentsingiselo eyahlukileyo.
Ukuba ubuhlobo besetyhini bubonisa ubudlelwane obuthembayo, oko kukuthi, abafazi bathanda ukuthululela umphefumlo womnye nomnye, banike iingcebiso, bangaxoxani nje ngabesifazane kuphela, kodwa kunye neengqungquthela zesintu, ngoko ubuhlobo besilisa busekelwe kwisenzo - amadoda angathandi ukubonakala engenamandla, ngokusemgangathweni, abatsho nto, kulula ukuba bakwenze. Khumbula, ngaba uhlala ubona indoda ethetha kwifowuni nomhlobo wakhe ngeyure okanye ngaphezulu? Okanye amadoda axoxela kuphela umkhankaso ozayo webhola lebhola?
Okwesibini, izibongozo, njengeentonga, zinamandla kakhulu kwiingqondo zethu. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu besini esifanayo kuyaqondakala kuthi, kuyamkeleka, le nzekayo yendalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kubonakala, akunakunqandwa, kuba inendawo yokuhlala. Omnye umbuzo kutheni abanye amadoda befuna ubuhlobo kunye nomfazi kwicala, kwaye abafazi bathanda ukwabelana ngeengcamango zabo kunye namava ahlukeneyo kunye nendoda engumyeni, kwaye bamjonga ngokunyanisekileyo umhlobo wabo?
Iimeko zicacile kwaye zicaca ukuba intsapho ilapha ngaphesheya kwinqanaba. Abahlobo basoloko besinika into ethi, ngelishwa, intsapho ayinakukunika: umzekelo, sinokuthetha nabo ngezihloko iintsapho eziye zavota. Ezi zihloko zisoloko zixhalabisa zethu ngezona zinto zichanekileyo, ezifanelekileyo izenzo, iimvakalelo kunye namava. Umzekelo, indoda ayicingi ukuxelela umfazi ukuba uyathanda omnye umfazi, okanye ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumthamo omkhulu kwi-casino, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uvuma kumfazi wakhe kunye nabantu abasondeleyo ukuba uyagula. Ngoko kunzima ukuba umfazi axelele umyeni wakhe ukuba ubulili bakhe bude bude bude okanye ukuba ufuna ukuba yedwa.
Olu hlobo lwesithuba, kubini indoda kunye nowesifazane, luzala uhlobo oluthile lolwalamano, apho ukuqonda ngokufanayo kwabantu ababonakala ngathi "bangaphandle" bafikela kuluhlobo lobuhlobo bokwenene. Kwaye akunjalo ngengozi: Kakade, amadoda angenza into omnye komnye, kodwa ahlulelani izimfihlo. Bashiya iingcamango zabo zangaphakathi kumfazi wabo. Kwaye akusoloko lo mfazi ephendukela kuba ngumfazi wabo.
Kuhlobo lwabahlobo, umfazi unokuguqula "umgca obukhali" wobume bentombi, ukuba abonakalise oko akufihlayo kubahlobo bakhe. Uthi, uRain Rubin uthi: "Kuzo zonke iintlobo zobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, isondo sifihliwe kwindawo ethile," kubangela ukuba lobu buhlobo bube mnandi kwaye lube mnandi, kodwa ininzi yamadoda nabasetyhini bayavuma ukuba ukungena kumtshato obusondeleyo kuyingozi enkulu ubuhlobo, kuba ubulili bubangela ukuba umnqweno wokuba nefa, ongahambelani nobuhlobo. " Akunjalo wonke umhlobo omhle unokuba ngumthandi. Amanye amadoda nabasetyhini banako ukudibanisa ngempumelelo ubudlelwane kunye nolonwabo lwezesondo, kodwa abaninzi abahlobo beesondo ezahlukeneyo bayaziphepha ngokukhawuleza eli thuba lonke ixesha.
Ubuhlobo bokwenene ngoku buyinqabile, zibuze umbuzo onzima: ngubani na abahlobo bakho abakhulu? Ndiqinisekile ukuba impendulo iya kusenza silinde, kuba sibeka intsingiselo eninzi ngentsingiselo yegama elithi "ubuhlobo". Ubungane abukwazi ukwahlukana ngokwezesini, abantu esibona ukuba ngabahlobo bafanelekile, kodwa kungenjalo akunakwenzeka.