Indoda ithanda amehlo, kunye nomfazi onendlebe


Igama elithi "okuchaseneyo" lithetha "okubhekiselele", oko kukuthi, enye, ngokungafaniyo. Kwaye ukuba amadoda nabesifazana bebhekwa njengowesini esahlukileyo, akumangalisi ukuba ihlabathi liyabona, liziphathe, kwaye lithande ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo. Asizange siqaphele ukuba umntu ukholelwa xa ebona, kunye nomfazi-xa eva. Kodwa ke ngoko ubulumko bezizukulwana kuboniswe njani kwisigqibo: "Kungcono ukubona ngaphandle kokuva ikhulu"?

Umzekeliso waseKazakh uphinde wawuthetha, othi: "Iindlebe zikulungele ukuthatha yonke into engavumelekanga, amehlo awawulingisi umzekelo wawo." Kwaye uSari Gabor uxela ukuba le ndoda ithanda amehlo, kunye nomfazi onendlebe. Yaye yintoni na? Kuthetha ntoni oku ukuba ulandela i-logic? Ukuba umfazi kulula ukukhohlisa, kuba uthemba iindlebe ngaphezu kwemehlo? Hayi, kumgama omkhulu kunjalo.

Umfazi onothando ongekho ndawo uvela into engeyiyo-ayilahlekanga ukukholelwa oko akubonayo, ukuba akafuni ukuyikholelwa. Kodwa ndilungele ukukholelwa nasiphi na amanga emlonyeni wam othandekayo, kuphela ukuba ndingadanwa. Impazamo ebalulekileyo yowesifazane oyintandokazi ukubeka inyawo, ubeke umxhwele kuye, umele ecaleni, uyamhlonela uze uzame ngamandla akhe onke ukuba umgcine kule ndawo. Indoda ingakwazi ukuziphatha kule nto njengoko uyithandayo, ukukhohlisa, utshintshe, kodwa ungakulibali ukukrazula ezindlebeni zamagama ozithandayo wothando kunye nobubele, uqiniseke ngothando lwakho. Yaye uya kuphulaphula aze akholelwe. Kuwo onke amagama. Naluphi na ukukhohlisa. Ukuba kuphela ihlabathi elincincileyo lonwabo olungenakulinganiswa aliyi kuqubuka okanye ukuphuka.

Yaye inokutshatyalaliswa ngabantu abathandekayo abanomdla-abamelwane, oogxa, oogxa okanye abantu abanobukhwele. Ngenxa yokugxekwa, ukunyundela nokuhleba, iindlebe nazo ziyadingeka. Mhlawumbi yeso sizathu sokuba zidalwe zaza zahanjiswa, kwaye ininzi abafazi bayayiphulaphula.

Indoda inzima kakhulu ukunyamezela into ethile ngokuthetha. Kwaye ukuba ubona into ethile, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba amkholise ngenye indlela. Kutheni la mazwi, wabona yonke into!

Abantu bayazi kakuhle ubuthathaka bomnye kwaye abaninzi bawasebenzisa ngokugqithiseleyo. Phantse nayiphi na ibhinqa inokufezekiswa, ukuthetha, ukuthetha, ukumxelela amagama amahle. Yonke into ngoku kwaye uyathi uyamthanda, ukuba ubomi ngaphandle kwayo ayinangqiqo, ukuba wayemkhangela iminyaka emininzi kwaye ekugqibeleni uyifumene ... Wonke umfazi ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva uyayeka aze aqale ukukholelwa. Futhi uyaqhubeka ekholelwa, nangona umntu efezekisa injongo yakhe aze alahlekelwe ngumdla kuyo, amazwi akhe ahlala ngamazwi nje, aqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ngezenzo. Kodwa lona wesifazane sele eseluthandana ngento engafanelekanga, wamnika wakhethekileyo iimpawu ezifanelekileyo zomfanekiso ayeliphuphayo, kwaye akaqinisekanga ukuba unqwenela kwaye uyathandwa. Yona imfuneko yokuthandwa, ukuva kumthandi umlambo wamagama amahle umenza akholwe kwizinto ezingekho kwaye akunjalo.

Ibhinqa elithandweni lonwabileyo, kwaye olu lonwabo ludlala ihlazo elibi. Ulibale ukuba umntu akafanele agwetywe ngamagama, kodwa ngezenzo. Yaye ukuba umntu othandekayo ehamba nje, musa ukuphakamisa umunwe ukuncedisa, ukuxhasa, ukwenza into kuye okanye kwindawo yakhe, sele isithi kaninzi. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba xa ebuzwa ubungqina bokuba umfazi angamthanda, lo mfazi unokukhokelela, oku kudla ngokuvuthayo kuyaphendula: "Uthando alufunanga ukubonakaliswa! Kufuneka ukholelwe! "Kodwa ngaba ezi ngxabano? Amadoda kulo mbono aphezulu kakhulu, nangona ngamanye amaxesha enza ngokunyaniseka.

Umzekelo obalaseleyo ingoma ethandwayo kungekudala kakhulu malunga nendoda eyangena emkhosini yaye yagqiba isigqibo sokuba iqaphele indlela intombi yakhe enamandla ngayo. Wabhala ileta apho waxelela ukuba wayitshise ubuso bakhe waza waqhekeza imilenze yakhe, wamcela ukuba eze eze naye ekhaya. Kodwa othandekayo waphendula ukuba kwakungekho naluphi uthando, waza wabuza ukuba amkhohlwe. Xa le nkwenkwe yayikhonze iphinde ibuye, le ntombazana yadibana kunye nokuzama ukugubha, kodwa yadibana. Kwaye konke oko. Awekho amagama ayedingekayo - isenzo sasiye sonke. Uthi, akunjalo?

Apha sihlukile - sinamandla kwelinye kwaye sisengozini kwelinye. Amadoda nabasetyhini, amehlo kunye neendlebe. Kodwa ukuba siza kuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo, ukulahla zonke izigwebo kunye namazwi, umntu onothando ngokunyanisekileyo akayithandi ngeendlebe okanye amehlo, kodwa ngentliziyo. Kwaye akunandaba ukuba ngubani - umntu okanye umfazi, kuba akukho nto inamandla kunokwenene uthando.