Oko kuvela: ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kunokwenzeka, ukuba ...
Inqobo yeso "ubuhlobo" ehlukileyo kumadoda nabasetyhini. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba inkampani yamadoda ibonisana nemiphefumlo yomnye nomnye, ihlambe iinyembezi kwihlombe lomhlobo ngenxa yenye inombolo engazange yenzeke, ivakalise ngentshiseko malunga ne-blouse esanda kuthengwa okanye uxoxe nomhlobo ngaphezu kweyure? Umfanekiso okhohlakeleyo, akunjalo!
Le nkcazo ifaneleke ngakumbi kwabasetyhini. Ubuhlobo babantu busekelwe kwizenzo. Indoda enqabileyo ayesabi ukubonakala ibuthathaka.
Inendima enkulu idlalwe ngamaqhinga. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu bobulili obufanayo bucacile kwaye buqondakala. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi buphakamisa imibuzo kunye nokungaqondani kwintlalo yanamhlanje. Kodwa ubuhlobo obunjalo abuphepheki kwaye kukho indawo yokuba khona. Ngaba kuya kumangaliswa kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje?
Ngaphezu koko, abaninzi abafazi bayathemba imfihlelo yabo kumhlobo wesilisa, kwaye indoda igcina imfihlelo yakhe yowesifazane ongeke abe ngumtshakazi okanye umfazi.
Unxibelelwano olunjalo lunokuba ngumhlobo owenene, oqinileyo. Nangona kunjalo, akufanele sikhankanye ukuba iimeko ezinjalo, nangona ngasese, kukho isondo. Olu buhlobo luyabonakala lukhangeleka, kodwa ukungena ebuhlobo obusondeleyo bubandakanya umngcipheko omkhulu. Njengoko ilizwi lisithi: "Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bunokwenzeka ukuba umntu akayithabali umfazi njengento yesini".
Nangona kunjalo, ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bunokwenzeka, ukuba:
1. Zidibaniswe ngokubambisana kwezoshishino. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba loluhlobo lobuhlobo luyona nto ibonakalayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amaqabane amashishini angumfazi kunye nendoda. Njengoko bathetha, kwishishini akukho nto eyahlukileyo kwizesini.
2. Inzala yomsebenzi. Njengoko omnye umhlobo wam wathi: "Ndiyakwenza ubungane nentombazana ukuba sinomdla." Umzekelo, uthanda ukudlala i-poker okanye uchithe iiyure ukuxoxa ngezemidlalo okanye kwezokhenketho.
3. Zizalamane. Kulo hlobo lobuhlobo ndiyakholwa kwaye ndikucebisa. Nangona, ndithetha ntoni na! Ndiyakhumbula ukuba, eneminyaka eyi-17, ndathandana nomzala wam sesibili ....
4. Ziyabathandana zangaphambili. Ewe, kunjalo. Ukukhangwa ngokwesondo, ababa namava, kodwa bayazana.
5. Kwaye ke ukhetho luvela: ukuba ngaba bayomthanda! Ewe, ewe, lo ngumzekelo wam, kunye nabahlobo bam abaninzi. Yonke into iqala ngeengxoxo ezinobungane "malunga noko, malunga nale", kakuhle, iphelile, uyazi ukuba yintoni ....
6. Ubuhlobo kwimo yayo ecocekileyo! Ubuhlobo esekelwe kwintlonipho, iimfuno eziqhelekileyo. Ingxoxo yakho ayixhomekeke ekuthandeni nobudlelwane, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kubandakanya ukuzonwabisa, izinto ezithandwayo, ubomi ngokubanzi. Amaqabane akho akakukhwele ngenxa yokuba abone ukuba awuphazamisi ubomi bomntu ngamnye. Kunqabile kakhulu, kodwa kwenzeka.
7. Inketho efanelekileyo namhlanje. Bahlobo abahle kuba bahlukeneyo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba olu buhlobo luyinyani kwaye luyomeleleyo. Nonke nihamba nithenga, nithetha ngeemveliso ezintsha, izimonyo, iVasya, iMas ...
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kusekho ukhetho oluninzi. Ngokomzekelo, ungumfana womhlobo wakho omhle. Okanye ungumfazi womngane wakho. Kodwa xa ndiqala ukucinga ngobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, andinakunceda ukukhumbula inqaku lokuba ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bubuthathaka ngokuqala kobusuku.
Njengoko bathetha, zicinge, zigqibelele ukuba ngaba okanye ungenayo umhlobo wesilisa.
Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ukwazi oku kusondele kwaye kusondele kule ndoda enhle, awuyi kuvuyiswa kukuba uye wanikezelwa ukuba ube ngumhlobo nje.