Bangaba nemvakalelo, isithandane, imvelo, inothando kunye nesisa kwixesha le-candy-bouquet, kodwa bafuna kuphela ukufezekisa isiqingatha sabo njengoko iimvakalelo zipholile.
Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo. Kuphela ngamadoda nabasetyhini, uthando lubonakala luhluke kakhulu. Uthando lomfazi lujoliswe kwihlabathi labantu, kwaye luthintela encinci yehlabathi lezinto. Yaye uthando lomntu lubonakaliswa ngothando lwehlabathi lezinto, kungekhona ihlabathi labantu. Kukho, kunjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala kubasebenzi, kwaye imfuno yothando ifezekiswa ngothando olufutshane. Kodwa, ngokubanzi, bonke abameli besondo besilisa banokuthiwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba amadoda akhetha ukuphakanyiswa kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, kwaye angasebenzi kwiinkalo zentsapho.
Sekunjalo ukususela kumaxesha amandulo. Indoda eya ehlathini ukuzingela izilwanyana zasendle, ingenakubuya ngokuzingela. Kwaye indlu yakhe yayilindele umfazi onabantwana, abahlobisa imihlathi yamandulo ngamaqabunga, iintyatyambo nezinye izinto ezilungisiweyo. Abasetyhini bexesha elide basebenze, kodwa umsebenzi wabo wawungeyona nengozi kwaye inoxanduva. Baqokelela amajikijolo kunye neengcambu, kamva kamva bazinyamekela izityalo kufuphi neendawo zokuhlala. Bawusondeza umlilo entlangeni, ngenxa yokubaluleka kwamaxesha amandulo kwakufuneka ukuba baqeshe abafundisi.
Ngoku, ngokuqinisekileyo, ezininzi zintshintsho. Nangona kunjalo, imigaqo eyisiseko yokwahlukana kweendima zentlalo phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi uyahluka ngokukhawuleza kwaye engabalulekanga. Amadoda asenokwakheka kwengqondo engaphili kakuhle. Oku kubalulekile ukuze usinde kwihlabathi elikhuphiswano lokukhuphisana, ukufikelela eziphakamileyo kwimisebenzi kwiimeko ezingekho kubungane. Iintlanzi zangoku zithatyathwa ngamatye eofisi, kwaye amadoda asebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ekusindisweni kweli hlabathi. Ikhono lokugcina ukuzithiba, ukuzinyameka kwintlupheko, ukungquzulana okanye ukuchasana ngokuthe ngqo kumncintiswano wamadoda kubaluleke kakhulu njengokwenza umfazi akwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo kwintsapho nasemsebenzini.
Ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ucinga malunga nokuba kutheni amadoda akhethe umsebenzi, ungayithandi, kufuneka ufunde ukuthatha uxanduva lolwalamano. Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele uthathe inyathelo, rhoqo ubiza uze uzikhumbuze. Oku kuthetha ukuba xa kuthengisana okanye ingxabano, lona wesifazane uneendlela ezininzi kunye nezindlela zokusombulula. Ngokuzimeleyo, ngoncedo lwabahlobo okanye isazi sezengqondo, unokudibanisa imeko yangoku, kwaye kumntu ozayo sele efikeleleke kakuhle, esilungele isisombululo.
Yintoni umfazi akwenzileyo ovakalelwa kukuba uyasemva kwendoda emva komsebenzi? Kukho izixazululo ezinempumelelo kwiingxaki.
Okokuqala kufuneka ufunde ukubona uthando lomntu, ukwazi kakuhle indlela abonisa ngayo. Ukuba umfazi utshela umyeni wakhe ukuba akamthandi, ukuba akanalo uthando olwaneleyo, uyazi ukuba yintoni into yokuqala umntu ecinga ngayo? Uqala ukujonga ngapha nangapha, ekhangele amehlo ukuze alungise okanye athande. Njengoko kuchaziwe ngasentla, indoda ibonisa ukuba uthando luvame ukubonakaliswa ngokunyamekela intuthuzelo yomfazi wayo. Kwezinye iimeko, umntu unokucinga ukuba ibhinqa idinga ukulala ngesondo. Kwaye akanakuze afuneke acinge ngento yokuba kufuneka akhulume ngakumbi ngeemvakalelo, azincoma okanye axoxe ngeentlanga eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo.
Ukuba uthanda ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo, khuluma ngabo kunye nabahlobo bakho. Le yenye indlela yokusombulula iingxaki ezivela kwintombi leyo indoda ikhetha umsebenzi, ungayithandi.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuba usadinga amazwi akhe okumnxusa kunye nenkxaso njengomoya, unganqikazi ukuthetha ngqo ngaye. Amadoda amaninzi awanzima ukufunda indlela yokuncoma, ukuba umfazi uyabuza. Yithetha kuphela ngoku okufunekayo ngokuthe ngqo, ukugwema amacebiso kunye neengxaki malunga nokungabikho kwento ethile malunga nokubaluleka koko umntu angacingi.
Zonke izicombululo ezikhankanywe apha ngasentla ziyingxaki yonke, kwaye ziyasebenza kumadoda amaninzi. Nangona kunjalo kukho imeko apho umfazi kufuneka afune iimpendulo ezizodwa kumbuzo othi kutheni indoda ikhetha umsebenzi, ungayithandi. Ezi ziimeko zobudlelwane obukhulu. Ukuba umntu uhlala emsebenzini, ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi ukuxazulula iingxaki kubo bonke abasebenzi beenkampani, mhlawumbi ugijime ukusebenza kwezinye iingxaki entsapho.
Ubomi bendoda yesigxina sesimo somntu osebenzayo buzaliswe kangangokuba amalungu amaninzi wesini esomeleleyo ahlala esicindezelekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, banokuba neengxabano kwintsapho. Akunzima ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukrakra xa uxabana nomphathi okanye uxabana nomnye osebenza naye. Ukuzisa ekhaya iimeko ezimbi, umntu uxabana apho, kwaye ke, ukuze angayiva ukuhlambalaza kumfazi okanye abantwana ekhaya, uzama ukuza apho ebumnyameni, ngelixa wonke umntu elele. Kwaye kushiya ngaphambi kokusa, ngelixa wonke umntu elele. Kule meko, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyafaneleka ukuvakala i-alamu. Sidinga ukufumana ixesha lokuthetha nomntu othandayo malunga nento eyenzekayo ebomini bakhe ngomoya ozolileyo, ngaphandle kwamehlo neendlebe. Kufuneka ukuba uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ukhangele ezo zinto zenze ukuba kuvele ulwalamano, ukuseka uxhulumaniso olulahlekileyo. Ngokubanzi, le nto ihlala yinkxalabo yowesifazane, kwaye kuxhomekeke kuphela kuye ukuba umntu okhetha umsebenzi wokuthanda uthando unokufumana uxolo ebomini bakhe.