Le ngxaki ibonakala ngolu hlobo: umfana oyithandayo, naluphi na umzuzu olungeleyo kwaye ongenakukhuseleka, uzama ukukuchukumisa emadolweni, kwaye uyakwenza kwindawo ephambili yoluntu (cafe, isikwere, ipaki). Okanye nenye imeko - uhlala embambile ixesha elide emlonyeni emehlweni abo bonke abantu, ngaloo ndlela abonise iimvakalelo ukuba wonke umntu abone. Yaye le mizamo yokukhawuleza inokuvela ngokukodwa nasiphi na ixesha elingalindelekanga. Kwaye, okubaluleke kakhulu, iyaqhubeka imihla ngemihla. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unemvakalelo yakhe. Kodwa ngokucacileyo ukuziphatha kwakhe kukukwenza ucinge ngezinto ezininzi. Emva koko, xa umthandayo ebonakalisa uthando lwakhe ngokubanzi, ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kuhlaziywa kwamantombazana amaninzi. Ukuziphatha okunokuthi kungabonakalisa konke okusemgangathweni yothando phakathi kobudlelwane bakho. Ngoko, ukuba abafana babonisa iimvakalelo zabo ngokucacileyo, amaninzi amantombazana ayithandi.
Ngoko, kutheni amantombazana engayithandi xa umfana engakhethi nkululeko kwiindawo zoluntu. Makhe sibone izinto eziphambili ezichaphazela isimo sakho sengqondo esichaphazelayo inkululeko yakhe. Okokuqala, amaninzi amantombazana ayesaba kwaye aneentloni yokuba ngaloo mzuzu bangabonwa ngezihlobo, abaqhelana nabo okanye osebenza nabo emsebenzini. Emva koko, njengoko besithi, imibuzo engadingekile kunye nezihloko zengxoxo aziyi kuthathwa. Okwesibini, amantombazana, okokuqala, cinga ngendlela abacinga ngayo. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abaninzi banokukuqonda, njengokuba kufumaneke lula okanye bangawuqwalasela yonke imimiselo yenkwenkwezi yentlalo. Kwaye, okwesithathu, intombazana ayithandi ukubonisa ubudlelwane babo kwabanye abantu. Bakholelwa ukuba ngokukhusela iimvakalelo zabo "kwamehlo omnye," baya kubagcina. Kwaye kunjalo, baninzi abanomona nabanqwenela izinto ezimbi kwihlabathi. Ukongeza kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, kwimeko enjalo intombazana ayikwazi ukuphumla kwaye ikwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo yonke into "yobumnandi" ebusweni kunye nokudibana nomntu othandekayo. Kwaye konke kuba emva kwakho kumzuzwana, ininzi, okanye ngaphezulu, abantu bayabuka.
Kodwa, nangona zonke izizathu, abaninzi bethu bayaqhubeka behlupheka, xa umntu othandekayo eziphatha ngale ndlela. Nantsi kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba indoda, ekuboneni ukuba ungenzi naliphi na izimvo, iyaqhubeka ibonisa iimvakalelo zayo, ngaphandle kokutshintsha iindlela zokuziphatha.
Ewe, ininzi yeentombi zakho ziya kukuxelela ngendlela enenhlanhla ngayo kwaye iqabane lakho likuthanda kakhulu kwaye libonisa ngokucacileyo. Emva kwakho konke, ngoluvo lwabo, olu hlobo lokuziphatha lubonisa yonke intshisekelo kunye neyona nto yentsapho. Kodwa enyanisweni, yonke into ayisoloko iphosakeleyo. Masizame ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni abafana bahlala bebonisa ngokucacileyo isimo sabo sengqondo malunga nentombazana.
1. Kukho amadoda ahlala ebonakalayo ngokwenene emphefumlweni. Ngako oko, uhlala efuna ukukhanga umntu "ababukeli, abanqwenela izilwanyana." Ngoko ubonisa iimvakalelo ngale ndlela, njengokungathi ukuphumeza "isicatshulwa sakhe".
2. Ukhetho lwakho olukhethiweyo, kwaye, ukuhlutha i-tidbit enjalo (ndiyathetha wena), uzama ukubonisa wonke umntu intombazana yakhe enhle kunye nantoni na ekusebenzelaneni naye. Ngendlela, esi sizathu kufanele sibe sisicengcezo kuwe.
Isiqingatha sakho sesibini ngumntu onyantya. Ujonganisa neemeko ezingafanelekanga ezibangela ukunyuka kwe-adrenaline. Yingakho eziphatha ngale ndlela kwindawo kawonkewonke, ezama ukufumana iimpendulo zomntu okanye iingxelo ngaye. Ngokucacileyo iqabane lakho lizama ukukrazula iingxaki zakhe, ukufumana isilumkiso esilahlwayo esivela ngaphandle. Uthatha nje ingozi kwaye, ngenxa yolu, ufumana ubunzima bokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngaphezu koko, umthandi wakho uphuma kakuhle kwisihlwele kwaye uyaziqhenya kakhulu.
4. Umntu onqamlekileyo akanalo amandla okuzibamba kunye neminqweno yakhe, emenza amkhanye aze amkhonze ngaphandle. Ngoko ke, akakwazi (kwaye akafuni) ukulinda umzuzu xa uya kuhlala u-tete-a-tet kwaye akukho mntu uza kukuphazamisa. Uphefumlelwe yintswelo yentshiseko, ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba, umfana wakho "nje udla esidlangalaleni", ngelixa engaqapheli konke ukujonga okukrakra kwabadlulayo.
5. Utyelelwa ngumvakalelo ovakalekileyo ekubeni isibini sakho asibakho bonke abantu. Nantsi into epheleleyo kukuba ngokubonakalisa inkululeko yakho kwiindawo zoluntu ukhangeleka ngokucacileyo kwimvelaphi yabanye abathandayo kwaye, ngoko ke, phuma.
Nazi izizathu ezibalulekileyo zento eyenza insizwa yakho ibe nokuziphatha okunjalo. Ngendlela, thobela ingqalelo ukuba zonke ezi zizathu zihlanu akuthethi nantoni malunga nokuba unyuliweyo unothando oluqinileyo kuwe okanye awukhathaleli ngaye. Ngoko ke, ukubetha zonke iintsimbi kunye nokumemeza ngakwesobunxele kwaye kunene ukuba unayo ingxaki, akufanelekile. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonisa ubandlululo kunye nobunzima. Ininzi umfana ubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe zokubonisa, ukuba uyazithemba kakhulu kuye. Ngenxa yoko, ngenxa yobume obunyikisayo, uzama ukuzongamela. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha lunokuhlala ixesha elide xa umfana engakhuli ngokwengqondo. Kwaye nangona oku akuzange kwenzeke kuye, uya kuhlala engumntu ozigubungelayo kwaye ophangiweyo, ofuna ukugcinwa ngqalelo rhoqo, ukunyamekela nokuthanda, kunye nangaphezulu kweso sikhashana kunye nendawo.
Ukuba uxhalabele ngale ngxaki, khumbula ukuba bonke abantu banokutshatyalaliswa ekukhuliseni. Ngako oko, unako ukuzama ukufaka umhlobo wakho ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha nokuthobeka kunye nokukwazi ukuhlala ucinga ngemibono yabanye. Yithetha nje ngokuthe ngqo kwaye uthethe oko uvakalelwa ngokwenene kuloo mzuzu. Ngokukodwa xa kufuneka ukhangele emehlweni abo bantu abasandul 'ukutshekisha isilwanyana sakho sokuqala ngokubanga, umzekelo, epakini kwibhentshi. Ukuba uthe wakuthanda ngokwenene, ngokuqinisekileyo uyayeka ukuziphatha kanje.