Bonke abafazi bahlulwe ngamacandelo amabini: okhokelayo kunye nabalandeli. Akukho namnye kubo onanto engalunganga, nje umntu omele abe phantsi, kwaye umntu uya kuthobela.
Ukuba unamandla-unqwenela kwaye uzimeleyo, awukwazi ukufikelela kunye nomfana ofanayo. Ewe, ulwalamano lwakho luya kuba lukhuni kwaye lunentshiseko, kodwa lugcwele ukuxabana nokungaqondani. Awukwazi ukulubeka ixesha elide. Ngelishwa, abantu abanamandla abanqwenela ukubulala uthando lwabo ngezandla zabo, ngenxa yokuba abanako ukwenza izinto zokungcebeleka nokuxoxisana. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungumkhokeli kwaye ufuna ukuhlala kunye nobudlelwane, kufuneka ufumane umfana ozolile, onomusa oya kuvumelana nezigqibo zakho. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka abe ngumgqomo. Kulula nje ukuba kukho amadoda anokuthula okwaneleyo kunye nobulumko ukuba angaphikisani namantombazana abo, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, ngokuzenzekelayo nangokuzenzele ukwenza konke ngendlela yabo, ukuze angayiqapheli. Unako ukuhlala uthembela kubafana abanjalo.
Eyona nto, iintombazana ezikhokeleyo kufuneka zihlangane nabantu abatsha abanamandla. Umfana onjalo akaze avumele ukuba intombazana yakhe ibonakale kwi-whirlpool ebalulekileyo, uncedo kwaye umxube, kwaye unokukwazi ukusombulula zonke iingxaki. Kakade, umntu akaze ahambe ngokugqithiseleyo aze aqalise ubudlelwane kunye nomntu onqwenela ukulungelelanisa umbuso wobumbano yonke indawo. Ngomntu onjalo, intombazana iba yinceku eqhelekileyo, leyo indoda ihlala iqhuba kwaye ihlekisa.
Abanye besetyhini bakholelwa ukuba bafanelwe kubafana bomoya ofanayo. Akunjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abanjalo bahlala bexabana baze baphikisane, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ababonisi imvakalelo nonke. Sekunjalo, ungakulibali ukuba "ungagcini" kwaye "unciphise", kwaye "ungadibanisi" kwaye "udibaniso" uthandwa. Umtsalane unokwenzeka kuphela phakathi kweempawu ezihlukeneyo. Iimbini eziqinileyo zizo apho umntu omnye ezolile, enokulinganisela kunye nokubandayo, kunye neyesibini evuyayo, enokutsha kwaye enobucayi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abanjalo ekuqaleni bekunzima ukuzifundela, kodwa ke bahlala emphefumlweni iminyaka emininzi. Imfihlelo kukuba ukuzola kuya kuhlala kuqhubekile ukuqhuma ngexesha, kwaye ukunyameko kuya kubeka rhoqo ukukhanya kunye nombala kwimpilo ebambene. Kodwa, ngokwenene, ukuze ube nolonwabo, kufuneka ube nembono efana, iimfuno, ukuqonda okufanayo kunye nevakalelo. Nangona abantu babonakala bephikisana ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngaphakathi bafana, bahamba ngokugqibeleleyo nabo bonke abahlobo nabahlobo. Izibini ezinjalo zihlala zikwazi ukuxhasana kunye nokuqonda ngaphandle kwamagama, kuba zidibaniswe kwinqanaba lemoya nelimoya. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuzitholela ngokwakho kuphela umlingani ochaseneyo, kodwa nomphefumlo wakho.
Kwakhona, kukho nabasetyhini abanenzondelelo yokumhlonela abantu, kodwa kukho na? oqala ukuzisola, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukuthanda. Ukuba umbuzo uwukuthi: luhlobo luni lomfana ondifanayo, ubuza loo ntokazikazi ukusuka kwinqanaba lokuqala, ngoko kufuneka loo mntu angakuthandi ukuthetha ngeengxaki kwaye uyamthiya xa bexhala ngaye. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba intombazana ayiyi kumkhathalela kwaye inokunceda, kodwa ayiyi kunyamekela kwaye ngexesha elinzima liya kuqonda indlela yokunyanga ngayo, ukuze ingabi nomsindo kwaye ingacasuli. Amadoda anjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo, akathethi malunga nendlela yonke into eya kuhamba kakuhle ngayo, ifilosofi, ichukumise kwaye izame ukunyanzelisa uncedo lwabo. Bacaphukile, bacaphukile kwaye bazisa ngisho nokudakumba okukhulu. Abasetyhini abangathandi ukuziva uxolo ngamadoda abangekhe bathambekele ekuziphatheni okunjalo. Baye banomntu wesigxina somntu, ngoko banokubuza into eyenzekayo, phulaphula, banikele iingcebiso ezichanekileyo, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kwaye akayi kubuya kwesihloko. Ndiyabulela ukuqonda okunjalo, kule mibini mibili kubakho uxolo kunye nobabalo.
Kodwa inqanaba lesibini labasetyhini lilinganayo. Ezi ntombi zihlala zizama ukunceda nokuzondla, ukulungisa iingxaki, ukukhusela. Badinga amadoda adinga ukunakekelwa okunjalo nokunyamekela, nangona bengayifumani. Ngokuqhelekileyo, la mabhinqa awela othandweni kunye nabafana abaneengxaki zengqondo kunye neengxaki ekujonganeni noluntu. Ekuqalekeni oku kungase kungabikho nto, kodwa intombazana enjalo inokuhlala ifika entliziyweni yakhe kwaye iyaqonda ukuba le ndoda ayikude njengoko izama ukubonisa. Ngendlela, kuyafaneleka ukuphawula ukuba olu hlobo lwabafana ludinga uncedo, inkxaso kunye novelwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo, bazama ukubonakala bekhungathekile kwaye bengenakunyuswa. Nangona babenomusa kakhulu kwaye banobungozi. Kwiimeko ezininzi, iingcambu zeengxaki zabo zivela kwiintsapho apho abafana babengathandwa khona, baqondwa kwaye bahlonishwa. Ngoku bazama ukuziqinisekisa bona abayidingi imithandazo, nangona abo bangabanceda ukuba baphule iingxaki kunye neengxaki. Abasetyhini abanokuzisola banganika yona. Bayakwazi ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo benze indlela yabo ngeendonga eziye zaphakanyiswa ngulo mfana, kwaye zincinciza entliziyweni yakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuthatha ixesha elide kunye namantombazana anomntu ohlukileyo nje akanayo umonde. Kodwa la majazana angaya kwiinjongo kwiimitha-mitha, kwiimitha-mitha, engayithobeli ingqalelo ukuba loo mntu uyayiphikisa. Bancedisa abantu abathandekayo ukuba bakholelwe ngokwabo kwaye bafumane indlela ebomini. Amadoda anjalo, kaninzi, akakwazi ukucinga ukuba banako ukufezekisa into ethile. Intombazana engazange ixolele abantu ayiyi kuyenza ixesha elide liyamcenga ukuba lixhase kwaye lifune indlela yokunceda. Akakwazi nje ukuba angakwenza njani oku ngenxa yomoya. Kodwa abafazi bavelwano baya kuhlala bezama ukunyanzela umfana wabo, bamkholise, bafumane iingxabano kunye noncedo, ngeendlela zonke.
Bonke abantu bahluke, kwaye ngenxa yokungafani kwabo ukuba ngamnye wethu, ekugqibeleni, unokufumanisa isibini esilungileyo kwaye sisombulule ngokucacileyo -uhlobo luni lomfana ofanelekelayo.