Indlela yokunceda umyeni wakhe aphile kwintlungu yobudala obuphakathi

Ibhonaki yokuqala yento yokuba wonke umntu uyazi ukuba idemoni, ifikelele ngokukhuselekileyo kwiimbambo zendoda yakho, iya kuba yithuba elibizwa ngokuba yingxaki yexesha eliphakathi.

Ngethuba lexesha lobomi, indoda ihluke kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwayo kwaye ihlala ikhangele ityala kwiintlungu zakhe zonke kwaye ayithembeki. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abaninzi abasetyhini baphakamisa izandla zabo, bengayazi indlela yokunceda umyeni wakhe aphile kwimeko engxaki.

Zithini iingcali?

Njengoko iingcali ziqikelela ngeli xesha, indoda ibukela emva kwayo, kwaye, ukuvavanya yonke imilinganiselo yakhe kunye nokuhluleka kwayo, igxininisa ngakumbi malunga nokugqibela. Ngako oko, kugxininisa ekubeni ininzi yobomi idlulile, kwaye yonke into enayo into engathandekiyo, ayiyona nto umfazi omncinci, abantwana, abangazange bahlale beyiqonda, kwaye abaninzi baninzi "abafanayo". Ukuba ukuvelisa, ubomi buchitheka ngeze. Nangona umntu uphumelele emsebenzini wakhe, kwaye wenza into ayithandayo, kwaye ngaphandle kwayo yonke impahla ephezulu ingenazo iimpahla kunye neelithuba ezininzi kwixesha elizayo, uya kufumanisa injongo awazange ayifumane, okanye ukuba yintoni eyokukumba.

Kwamadoda amaninzi, i-rematch ibonakala iyindlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezinjalo, kule nto ibona ithuba lokuqalisa ubomi obutsha, kwaye ingabuyi kuphinda iphosakele yexesha elidlulileyo. Njengesiqhelo, umfazi uthathwa ngumfazi omncinci kakhulu, kwaye kuyinto enhle ukuba umntu aqonde ukuba unako ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu omncinci, kwaye emehlweni akhe unomntu okhuselekileyo nozaneleyo, kungekhona umfundi ohluphekileyo, okanye oqalayo, emele ezinyaweni zakhe, oomashishini.

Enyanisweni, kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngumfazi ofumana uninzi lwawo wonke, ngubani ngaphandle kokunyanzeliswa ukuba azalise yonke imisebenzi yakhe yangaphambili, ukuphulaphule ukuhlambalaza kwabathembekileyo kunye nokumenza ngamanye amaxesha ngeenkwenkwezi ezintle, kwaye kaninzi ukunyamezela ukunyaniseka. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, cinga ngendlela onokukunceda ngayo umyeni wakho ukuba asinde ubunzima bexesha eliphakathi.

Yintoni onokulucebisa ngayo iqabane lakho ngexesha elifanelekileyo lobomi bakhe abathembekileyo, mhlawumbi, umonde kunye namandla, kuphela okuya kunyamezela.

Njani ukuqonda?

Umqondiso omkhulu othi "yonke into iqalile" iya kuba yinguqu ekuphatheni komyeni wakhe. Ukuba umntu obathandayo waqala ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yokugqoka, i-styles, mhlawumbi idibanise iinwele zakhe, ihlawule ingqalelo yakhe imbonakalo kwaye ingaphantsi - kwintsapho, kunye nemikhwa yakhe kunye neengxoxo zambi ngezinye iinkqubo, ezingenakuze zinyamezele ngaphezu kwentsha. Kodwa kungeyonto yonke into imele ibe yinto embi, ubunzima bebudala obuphakathi bubonakaliswa kubo bonke abantu, umntu unako ngaphezulu, umntu unomncinci. Kunokwenzeka ukuba zakhe, ezibizwa ngokuba zizibonakaliso, ziya kubonakala kuphela kwezobudlelwane bakho kunye naye, ngaphandle kokuchukumisa, wonke umntu ojikelezile. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, umntu uzama ukuguqula ngokwakhe, kunye nobomi bakhe, ngelixa ekholelwa ukuba, ngaphezu kwakhe, kukho nabanye abantu abayingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bakhe. Oku kuchazwe ngokucacileyo kwiingxoxo kunye nezenzo zakhe, iiminqweno kunye neenqweno ezintsha, ezingasoloko zibonwa ngokwaneleyo ngezihlobo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, indoda, njengobutsha, ihlangana nomsindo ongaqondakaliyo owamkhuthaza ngakumbi ukubonakalisa kwihlabathi ukuba ubudala bakhe abuyena umda, nokuba bonke ubomi buza kuza. Kodwa kwindlela enkulu, konke oku kuboniswa kuye kuphela, kwaye umfazi uya kuba ngumhlobo ophukileyo, oya kuba ukungaboni kakuhle kwabanye, akazange adlale indima ephambili.

Ixesha lokuba usebenze.

Njengoko ubulumko bendoda endala ithi: "Ngamazwi andinakukunceda usizi," ngoko xa zonke iimpawu, lixesha lokusebenza ngobuso bakho. Ukuncedisa umyeni wakhe ukuba asinde enkingeni inokwenzeka kuphela kwimigudu yakho. Ngoko kuvela ukuphazamiseka, inkathazo eneminyaka emaphakathi kumyeni wakhe, kwaye usebenze kabini kuni. Ekuqaleni, kufuneka uqokelele yonke imikhosi, umonde kunye nokuqonda, kunye nantoni na eyenzekayo, ungagqithisi ukubonakalisa ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo, ingakumbi ezimbi. Zisoloko uzenza ukuba wenza kakuhle, nangona ukuba ekunjalo kwimeko. Ungathethi izinto ezimbi ngaye, njani malunga noyise-kubantwana, kuthekani ngomyeni kunye nomntu-kubazali bakhe, nakwabo, ngabahlobo kunye nabaqhelana naye, kunye nangakumbi kuye. Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba ukuba imisebenzi kampapa ixutywa ngokukhawuleza kumahlombe akho, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuba usengumama, kwaye, nangaphezulu, unina othandekayo. Kamva uya kubulelwa ngale mizamo. Vimbisa imemori yakho ekufuneni zonke iimeko ezibalulekileyo ezihambelana nemisebenzi yomyeni wakhe. Ngokuphathelele iinkonzo zakho kwilizwe labantwana kunye nosapho ixesha, libale. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwimimiselo yokudlulela, bonisa ubungqina bakho kumyeni wakho ukuba ufezekise kakhulu, ukuba ubomi bubuhle, kwaye uhlala esithandwa kwaye ethandekayo kunanini ngaphambili. Uyakwazi ukubonisa ukuba ulandela emva kwakhe ekupheleni kwehlabathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumbala weenwele zakhe, ubuninzi bawo, kunye nendlela yokugqoka, ngaphandle kokulibala ukuqaphela ukuba lowo wangaphambili wayengenanto nto. Kungcono ukuba undixelele ukuba abahlobo bakho bakuxelele ngento okanye bangeve ngengozi kwintokazi encinci.

Inketho efanelekileyo ingaba liholide edibeneyo, eqinisweni, umyeni wakho ufanelwe, kwaye nakuphi na umcimbi uya kuzalisekisa iphupha lakhe elixabisekileyo, okanye ukubandakanya kulo mdlalo wokuzonwabisa, nokuba yintoni na.

Kuyo yonke imbali kukho umzuzu omhle wabasetyhini. Ixesha elinjalo ngaphambili, lixesha elihle kakhulu kwaye ucinga ngembonakalo yakho, kwaye uzikhathalele. I-salon ze-Beauty, i-gym, i-wardrobe ehlaziyiweyo iya kuvumela umyeni wakho ukuba akhangele kuwe ukusuka kwinqanaba elitsha, kwakhona aqale ukuziqhayisa ukuba unomfazi onje, kwaye kulula ukusulela ingxaki yexesha eliphakathi.

Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba zonke iinzame zomfazi ngexesha elinye zigqitywa ngokuhamba kwethembekileyo "ngakwesobunxele," kwaye ziphindaphindiwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo "unyango" olunjalo aluhlali ngaphezu kweminyaka emibini, kwaye alukwazi ukuthatha naluphi na uhlobo olubi, kwaye ukuba inkosikazi iphoqa umyeni wayo ukuba ashiye intsapho yakhe, emva kokuphelelwa kwexesha elifanelekileyo, abaphangi badla ngokukhahlela emngceleni kumfazi wangaphambili kwakhona. Kunzima ukulwa nale nto, kwaye kungenanto, kuba ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuhamba, kuthetha ukuba kuya. Apha umcimbi uhlukile. Emva kokuba utshintsho olunjalo, ngakumbi xa ucinga yonke into kunye, kuyafaneleka ukuba ucinge malunga nokuba uyayidinga, le nto ayikho intsha yeKatatshi? Kodwa kuya kuwe.