Ngesondo.
Le yenye yezizathu eziqhelekileyo ukuba kutheni indoda ifuna ukutshata. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala, isondo sinokuthi sihlale sisisigxina. Insizwa ibheka umtshato isiqinisekiso sobudlelwane bezesondo esisigxina. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuqonda ukuba wayephosakele ngolu hlobo. Umntu oneminyaka ekhulileyo ubona emtshatweni ithuba lokuphumla kwizinto eziphathekayo zesondo, njengoko zidla kunye naye. Abantu abaninzi abaselula bazibandakanya ngumtshato ngenxa yokungafuni ukwenza intombazana ngaphambi komtshato. Kuye, le nto ingaba ngumbandela womgaqo. Kwaye akanako ukunyanzelwa nayiphi na ingxabano. Andifuni ukulahlekelwa ithuba lokufumanisa into engaziwayo, indoda iya kutshata. Amadoda, abesondo sabo asikho kwindawo yokuqala, angene kwiintlobano zesini kunye nabasetyhini abaneembono ezifanayo.
Uthando.
Isizathu sokubhanqa: indoda ikhangele intanda yakhe kwaye iyayiqonda - apha iyingqayizivele kwaye iyingqayizivele, ebomini. Ugcwele uthando kunye nothando. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha amaninzi xa umntu ekulungele ukuba nguyise, kodwa umfazi akavumelani ukuba nabantwana abangekho mthethweni, kwaye kuvela ukuba indoda iya kutshata. Ekubeni umfana omncinane ufuna ukuba nomntwana wakhe, kwaye kwintombazana ethandekayo, ngoko kufuneka siphumelele emtshatweni womthetho. Kodwa esi sizathu esinengqiqo siphendulela ukuba sisona sizinzileyo sonke somtshato. Emva koko, uthando luvakalelwa. Kule minyaka, iphosa, kwaye iza emva kokuzisola nokudumala.
Kha thalele ekhaya.
Isizathu esincinci, kodwa amadoda amaninzi akafuni ukujongana nemisebenzi yasekhaya. Ngako oko, bathabatha inkazana eya kwenza yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya - kwaye ipheke, ihlambe, isuse ... Indlela yokukhetha umfazi walolu hlobo ilula - ukugcina iliso elihle kwizoqoqosho kwaye lithandeka ngaphandle. Nangona kunjalo, njengesiphumo -yiphi ikhethelo, ezinjalo kunye nobudlelwane kwixesha elizayo.
Izizathu zengqondo.
Esinye isizathu, ngokubhekiselele kulokuba ummeli wesini esomeleleyo ufuna ukutshata, umnqweno wokuzibiza njengenkokeli. Amadoda anjalo ukhetha umfazi oya kuzalisekisa zonke iimfuno zabo ngokungahambelani. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba, emva kokuya kwiofisi yombhalisi, umfazi osandul 'ukwenziwa wenqabe ukuzalisekisa indima yenceba, loo mntu uya kuziva ekhohlisiweyo kwaye imiphumo ayiyi kudala.
Iziganeko eziqhelekileyo apho ukuzithemba ukutshata umntu ufuna ukuphindisela kwindoda elalidlulileyo, eyamkhawuleza okanye yamkhohlisa ngaphambili.
Kwenzeka ukuba indoda enesithakazelo ishada nomfazi onamandla kwaye unamandla, ukuze abe ngumxhaso othembekileyo kuye. Kodwa musa ukubeka umtshato onjalo nethemba elihle-olu lwalamano aluyi kuba namandla, ukuba umfazi akahlangabezane nokulindela kwamadoda.
Uloyiko lonwabo.
Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo linyusa umntu ukuba aye kwiofisi yokubhalisa. Umtshato uthatha intambo yokuzibamba, ebopha umthandayo. Ngelo xesha, uthando kunye noloyiko luhlangene kakhulu. Umnqweno okhulayo wokubambisana ngokubambisana - namhlanje ndiza kuwe, kusasa - ungenxa yam, esekelwe ukwesaba uloloya. Nangona kunjalo, iqabane, ekuboneni uthando olukhulu kunye nothando lomlingane, luyaqala ukulusebenzisa ukuze luzuze kwixesha elizayo.
Ngomkhwa, okanye "njengabantu bonke."
Isisusa sokubambisa asifumaneki. Amadoda amaninzi atshada kuphela ngenxa yokuba "kwakunjengomntu wonke". Emtshatweni, unokukwazi ukwenza yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya, nangona engathandi umfazi, akayithandi kwaye akafuni abantwana, kodwa nangona kunjalo watshata waza wahlala nomkakhe. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba bonke ababaziyo baye batshata ixesha elide, yingako kufuneka abe njengomntu wonke. Unako ukudibana nomfazi omnye iminyaka emininzi, ungaqalisi ukuxoxa ngomtshato, kodwa ngelinye ilanga usetshatile kwaye uyatshata, kuba kuyimfuneko, ngoko wonke umntu uyayimfuneko.
Ukukhulelwa kwangaphandle.
Mhlawumbi, oku kungenye yezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuba kutheni umntu atshade. Kodwa, ngokukrakra ngokwaneleyo, imitshato enjalo yomeleleyo. Indoda ethatha uxanduva lomntwana ongenakulungiselelwa ibonisa uthando kumfazi kunye nobunzulu beenjongo zabo. Njengomthetho, umfazi uyawaxabisa oku. Inyaniso eyaziwayo ukuba indoda emtshatweni iyafana nayo xa imthanda, kungekhona umntu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ayikho into yokuba wonke umntu uya kuba nomthwalo wemfanelo kunye nomnqweno wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane xa efumana iindaba zobomi bakhe bozayo.
Umtshato wokulula.
Okumangalisa kukuba, imitshato enjalo ayisekelwe kuphela ngabasetyhini, kodwa nakwabantu. Umdla wokwenene kwindoda enobudlelwane obokuqala: indawo yokuhlala, imoto, ukukhula komsebenzi, ubemi, isimo sezenhlalakahle ... Emva koko, umfazi ongeyena ngokwakhe naye unomntu othandekayo, liqela elikhangayo. Enyanisweni, imitshato enjalo inamandla kakhulu. Emva koko, umfazi ophumelele kwisicwangciso sezinto eziphathekayo uyayilumko, kwaye uya kwenza indoda ixhomekeke kuye ngokupheleleyo kwaye ayiyi kuvumela ukuhamba kwakhe.
Iqhinga lamakhosikazi.
Ngethuba elide lokuhlala kunye, indoda ayinandaba nokuba buhlobo babo buya kuthiwa. Kubalulekile kuphela ukuba intanda ethandekayo. Indoda inokunikela kwiimfuno zowesifazane kwaye iyavuma ukuba yindoda yakhe, ngokude nje ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nomthandekayo wakhe bungagxininiswa yiengxoxo ezingenakuzixhamla. Ewe, kwaye iimbilini zakho zifanelekile ukugcina.
" Ukuhamba ngakwesobunxele".
Ewe, ebomini, kwaye kwenzeka njalo. Emva kokudibana nomfazi, ummeli wesondo oqinileyo akazivumeli ukuba "aye ngakwesobunxele" ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumthandi wakhe. Kodwa, ekungeneni komtshato osemthethweni, unokuqala "ukuphuka" phantsi kweprogram epheleleyo. Ininzi la mabhinqa lijonga ukuba isitampu kwipasipoti inqande kakhulu. Nangona umntu angenza nantoni na ayithandayo, ngakumbi ukuba loo mfazi sele sele engaphezu kwama-30. Emva koko, kule minyaka, mhlawumbi akafuni ukuqhawula umtshato - usapho olusisiseko, ubudlelwane obuhle, ukukhulisa abantwana, indlu. Ukuba nentsapho, umntu unokundwendwela inkosikazi, kwaye ngelo xesha ayikayiki ukuba uya kushiywa. Ngokuqinisekileyo umfazi uya kubandezeleka, ecinga ukungcatsha komyeni wakhe, kodwa akayi kukhwela - uyamthanda.
Kukho amadoda atshate ngokuqhelekileyo. "Batshatile ngaphambili, kwaye ndiya kutshata." Abanye bahamba kunye nezihlobo zabo, kwaye abanye bayesaba ukungabi nelungu ekuguga. Apha achazwa kuphela iinjongo eziqhelekileyo zamadoda ukutshata. Ebomini, xa wenza isigqibo, izinto ezininzi ezikhuthaza ukuba zisebenze.