Kutheni ku funeka?
Okokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni ezi zinto zathengwa kuzo zonke, nokuba ngaba ziyimfuneko kakhulu kumntwana okanye, mhlawumbi, zinokuthi zonakalise ukuphuhliswa kwengane. Kuyaziwa ukuba kwamanye amazwe abahambahambayo bendabuko banqatshelwe ngokusemthethweni ukuthengiswa, abanakuyithengwa nakwivenkile ekhethekileyo. Ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene?
Inyaniso kukuba umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa akadingi naziphi na iziphazamiso. Ukususela kwiiyure eziyi-24 ngelixa leentsuku ezingama-20 umntwana elele, ixesha lonke - uyadla. Kodwa, njengoko iintsana zikhula ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza ziqala ukuhlakulela umbono olungcono, umntwana ufunda ukujika, uthathe amathoyizi, uhlale wedwa, ukhawuleze kwaye ekugqibeleni uhambe.
Kwinqanaba ngalinye lophuhliso, umntwana uchitha ixesha elincinci kwaye elincinci ukulala kwakhe kwaye avuke ngakumbi. Kulo xesha ku funeka ahlale ngokwakhe ngento ekhangayo. Ngokuphila koomama banamhlanje, akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane ixesha lokuboleka umdlalo ophuhlisayo okanye ithoyilo elisebenzayo. Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukwenza oku. Ngoko ke, kukho imfuneko yokulungelelanisa okukhethekileyo okuphuhlisa nokuhlala kumntwana xa abazali bexakekile ngomsebenzi okanye ngemisebenzi ethile yasendlini.
Njengoko ekhula, xa umntwana esele ehleli kwaye ekhanda yena, abazali abaninzi banakekelwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Eyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo kwezi zi-annas. Ziyenziwe ngezinto ezinonothileyo, eziphakathi kwazo, umntwana akayi kuzilimaza. Umama unokupheka ngesibindi, ahlambe kwaye enze imisebenzi yakhe yasekhaya.
Kodwa umbuzo wendlela ekhuselekile kwaye iluncedo kwezinye iifowuni - usana lomfana, uhambahamba kunye neempembelo ezahlukeneyo-ingxabano. Kucingelwa ukuba abahambahambayo kufuneka bancede umntwana afunde ukuhamba. I-jumper - ukuhlakulela imisipha yemilenze. Ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene? Hayi, yonke into ayithandi njengokuba sifuna. Ukusebenzisa nokuxhuma, kwaye uhambahamba uyingozi kubantwana.
Kutheni kuyingozi kumntwana?
Enyanisweni, abahambahambayo abafundanga nhlobo. Ngokuchasene noko, xa uhleli ehambahambayo, umntwana akanakufunda izakhono zokugcina ukulinganisela kwakhe ngokwakhe, uhamba kuphela, uqala ngefenitshala kunye neendonga. Ukongezelela, kumntwana ohambahambayo, umntwana akanalo ithuba lokuhlala phantsi, ulala phantsi uze ukhululeke. Kumele ahlale esesimweni esifanelekileyo, esithwala ngokugqithiseleyo umlenze wabantwana.
Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba ekuqaleni abahambahamba baqulunqwe kuphela njengendlela yokulungelelanisa umntwana ngomzuzwana, ukukhulula okwesikhashana abazali. Kwakungengcamango ecacileyo, de kube abazali baqala ukusetyenziswa kakubi ngale mpu melelo. Ngokusetyenziswa rhoqo kwendwendwe, ngokuchaseneyo, kuphule inkqubo yokukhula komntwana. Umntwana onjalo ufunda ukuhamba kamva kuneentanga zakhe ezingagcinwanga kwihamba ixesha elide.
Enye into "yokuzonwabisa" yomntwana ngumntwana we-jumper. Ekuqalekeni kubonakala sengathi intsapho iyakuthandana xa ixuma kwaye iphendulela phezulu. Nangona kunjalo, izazinzulu ziye zafakazela ukuba oku kungenzi negalelo ekuphuculweni okuqhelekileyo komntwana. Ngaphezu koko, ukuzonwabisa okunjalo kunokuyingozi.
Ufuna ukuvumela umntwana ukuba aphephe - isisombululo esona sisisombululo, kukuya epakini lokuzonwabisa kwindawo yokukhanga kwabantwana ngokugxuma. Kukho, ubuncinane unakho ukusondela kumntwana kwaye uqaphele ukhuseleko lwakhe. Ekhaya, uhlala uphazamiseka, kwaye umntwana unokubangela ukukhathazeka kabuhlungu kuye ngokwakhe, ekubeni e-jumpers. Kuninzi ukugxotha kumgangatho, unokushenxisa okanye udibanise (amatyala aqhelekanga) imilenze, unako ukubetha umnyango, ugxininise kwiingcingo, ukhathazeke, ukhathele kwaye awukwazi ukuphuma.
Kukho konke oku kuza ukuba nangona bobabini abahambahambayo kunye nabasemagqabini beentengiso zivulekileyo ngoku, ukugqithiswa koogqirha kwi-akhawunti yabo kubangeluncedo: kungcono ukuyeka ukuwasebenzisa. Banciphisa intuthuko yomntwana kwaye kaninzi kuyingozi kuye.