Ungayinqoba njani umnqweno wokuphindezela?

Inzondo, njengothando, inamandla kakhulu. Mhlawumbi akukho mntu emhlabeni ongeke amkele umnqweno wokuziphindezela kumntu owonayo, ukumphoqa ukuba ahlawule intlungu ebangelwayo. Kwaye ukuba xa unomdla onjalo umnqweno ubonakala ngathi yindlela kuphela yokuphuma, ngoko ngexesha abantu baqala ukuzibuza: ngaba bekufanelekile ukwenza njalo? Makhe sijonge kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo ezibangela ukuba abantu abahlekileyo abahle balahlekelwe iintloko zabo.


Umdlali othandekayo okanye ukungcatsha

Ukutshutshisa akunakwenzeka ukuxolela okanye ukuqonda, kwaye ukuba oko kukungcatshiswa komntu othandekayo, unomdla othandekayo, ngoko nangakumbi .R Rana kusuka kwishayi, ehlaselwa emhlane wakho ngumntu osondeleyo, ivelisa ukutya kwaselwandle, kwaye akumangalisi ukuba kufike umnqweno wokuziphindezela. Amaxesha amaninzi amaxhoba aloo mpuphelo yeentaba yiimoto, ngoko unyanisekileyo ngabantu. Ku-nihostavlyayut evelela imibhalo, ukukhala komphefumlo, njengoko bethethayo, kunye neengcikivo zesazela okanye ukukhangela ukuphula ingilazi.

Ukuba izandla zitsalwe ngedonga okanye ipial enobutyhefu, ke kungcono ukhethe ukukhwabanisa okulula okanye ukukhanyela lo mfanekiso okanye umfanekiso, onokuthi, ngokuzityhalela imvakalelo, ukuphululela kwiincinci ezincinci uze uphonsa kwiinqanawa, apho yena, umthengisi ngokwakhe, .

Nangona ukuphindiselela kungasetyenzwa ngokusesikweni, konke kuxhomekeke kwisimo sakho kunye nokucinga. Kukho imbali xa ibhinqa ifumene ukuba ibhinqa isebenzisa iinkonzo zesayithi lokuthandana. Akazange aqalise ama-scandals kwaye aqale ama-hysteric. Yena, ngokuchaseneyo, ngokwakhe ubhaliswe kule ndawo, wathandwa ngumyeni wakhe ngobuntu bakhe (ngokwenene, ukuba umyeni wakhe wacinga ukuba wayethetha nomntu ongeyena mfokazi) kwaye wamkela isimemo somhla. Ndiyakwazi nje ukumangaliswa ngumntu xa umfazi wakhe ebonakala ngosuku, kwaye kunye nonyana wakhe.

Ngoko ngaphambi kokuba uhambe malunga neemvakalelo uze uziphindiselele kumntu, cinga ngako, ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda kwaye kungekhona nje ngokuba unento eninzi. Futhi ungakulibali ukujonga ubungqina benkcazelo yakho. Mhlawumbi kwakungekho ukungcatshwa, kwaye sele usenokuba nexesha lokwenza izinto eziyimpumputhe uze uphukise othandekayo.

Iintloko ze zaubovinenie okanye ukungabi nabulungisa

Xa siziphindezela kumphathi, asisoloko sithatha ngokungathandekiyo, kodwa senze ngokusemgangathweni. Kodwa ukuba sithatha indawo yamagunya apho sisebenza khona, sinokuzilimaza kwixesha elizayo. Nestoit ukutshisa ngonaphakade amabhuloho kunye nokuvakala kakhulu umnyango, mhlawumbi ngokuhamba kwexesha uza kufuna ukudibanisa, oonxibelelwano okanye uya kukwazi ukubuyela kwindawo yangaphambili yomsebenzi.

Ngoko ngaphambi kokuba uziphindiselele kumphathi wakho, cinga malunga nokuba uya kulufuna ngekamva. Akuyimfuneko ukusabalalisa izibophelelo, ziya kuhlala zi luncedo.

Oogxa malunga nabo baye bafaka endaweni

Esinye isisusa esifanelekileyo sokuphindezela - iincinci zincinci kwindawo yokusebenzela. Kodwa ekuphandeleni okusisigxina "ngubani" ocinga ukuba, akunakwenzeka kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha elichanekileyo kunye namandla kule mivuzo. Kutheni ukufudumala ubudlelwane kwiqela, kungcono ukuzama ukulungelelanisa umoya kwiqela. Ukuba abaculi bakho bafumana ukukhwaza kwabo, kukufanelekile ukuziphatha ngokuthobeka nangokuthobeka. Kunzima ukuba ngumdlalo onomdla nomntu obekezelayo, ophethwe kakuhle. Ndikholelwe, ngamanye amaxesha ukuzola kukucaphukisa ngaphandle kokumemeza.

Ngoko, isiphelo sichaza ngokwayo: xa usichitha ixesha elide usebenzayo, kunengqondo kakhulu ukuyisebenzisa kwizinto ezimbi.Kufumana abahlobo abatsha emsebenzini.

Abalingani benyaniso yokuba

Imithetho yezo shishino inzima, kunzima ukufumana indawo yobudlelwano bobuhlobo. Xa ufuna ukufumana imali, amaqabane akho, owamthembayo, anokukhohlisa ngokulula. Ukuze ugweme umnqweno wokubuyisela ukulahlekelwa kwemali yokulimala kokuziphatha kakubi, kungcono ukucinga ngemingcipheko engenzeka kwaye uqale uvumelane nayo yonke into. Kodwa akuyimfuneko ukuthembela kumlingani ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kwixesha lethu, ishishini elithembekileyo eliphucukileyo lingenanto.

Ngoko phambi kokusayinela iikontraka, jonga iqabane elizayo kwaye uhlolisise imbali yakhe yezoshishino. Ubuninzi bubaluleke kakhulu kwixesha lethu, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu oqinileyo uya kuba neengozi zokuthatha ingozi.

Indlela yokuziphindezela?

Impindezelo iyahluke. Unako ukumthatha umntu ngokupheleleyo, kangangokuba iminyaka imphoqa ukuba azingele into endiyithiyileyo, ukukhusela izicwangciso ezinokungahambiyo ukufumana nokutshatyalaza. Ukuziphindezela okunjalo kubhubhisa umntu, kwenza ukuba ahlale engqongqo, ongakwazi ukuva nantoni na ngaphandle komnqweno wokubangela intlungu. Kwaye akunandaba, ngenxa yokuba konke kwaqala, nokuba ukuziphatha kakubi komntu kwakunzima kakhulu okanye, ngaphezu kweminyaka, waphukisa, ukwanda kwintsebenzo. Umntu akayiqondi ukuba yena ngokwakhe uya kuba lixhoba.

Kukhona enye impindezelo, njengoko besithi kwimeko yesithando. Ngokuzi kakuhle izenzo zabo, abantu benza izenzo zokuhlambalaza, bahlambela ipropati, bayifake indawo, bayayigculela. Oku kufana ne-antligan's antics yeyona nto ingenayo.

Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukuwuthintela iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi, unokuzisebenzisa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ukuyeka kwakho akukupheli, kodwa ngokuchasene, kuya kuba yinto ekhuthaza ukufikelela eziphakamileyo. Ngaba ulungiswe ngabalingane emsebenzini, wenza ukuba uzive ugcwele isipho? Kwaye uza kuba ngumsebenzi ogqwesileyo kakhulu kule ntsimi. Umntu ozithandayo uyakucatshulwa, utshintshile, washiya intsapho? Ngoko zifumene enye, bhetele, umntu okwazi ukukuxabisa ngokwenene, owamthanda ngokwenene, ngokuba iimvakalelo zangempela azihambeli ndawo. Kuphela ukwenza oku akufanelekanga, njengoko besithi, kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo.

Ngamanye amaxesha ukungaziboni kunokuba ngumvuzo omkhulu kwiintshaba zakho. Benza kakubi kwaye isazela sabo sinokuzihlafuna ngenxa yento eyenziwe, ngoko balindela ukuba intukuthelo isondele kuwe ukuba ngandlela-thile iqikelele ngaphambili. Njengoko, yena ngokwakhe ungumfazi, kwaye ndenze into efanelekileyo, ukuba ndimmise endaweni. Ewe, makungabamkeli isizathu esinjalo, bazise ukuba abayikho nto kuwe kunendawo engenanto, ukuba izicwangciso zabo zobuqili zincinci kwaye abanakukulimaza. Musa ukuphazamisa ingqalelo yakho kulabo abazama ukukucaphukisa. Kungcono ukubiza kwakhona abo baninomdla ngokwenene kunye nothando.

Ukuba ufuna ukukhulula i-steam, kukho iindlela ezininzi. Into ephambili kukuba izenzo zakho zijoliswe ekudaleni, kungabonakalisi. Yenza into ebalulekileyo, ebalulekileyo. Yiya kwi-priutvolteraterom, ncedise ummelwane omdala ukuba alungiselele, tshala intsimi ejikeleze indlu yakho. Into ephambili kukuba ukujonga emva, awuzange uzisole oko kwenziwa, kwaye mhlawumbi, ngokuchaseneyo, ufanele uxabiso lomntu.

Ngaphambi kokuba ucofe ipeyinti emotweni yakhe okanye usike iingubo zakho ezizithandayo zibe zi-tatters, cinga, akuyi kuba neentloni xa abanye befunda malunga nokuvuma? Ngaba ukhangeleli emehlweni abantu abaqhelekileyo abazele amahlazo? Khumbula, impindezelo yinkalo yabuthathaka, ngoko masibe namandla.