Ukuziphatha komama ngokuphathelele kwintombazana yakhe kwintombazana kunakhokelwa yimoya yakhe ngqo kwintombi ngokwakhe. Ewe, ewe, kwimeko ebonakalayo efanayo, ebizwa ngokuba nothando lomama, abantu banemigca yokuziphatha ngokukhawuleza.
Apha, khumbula indlela umama wakho aziphatha ngayo kwixesha elihlukeneyo lobomi. Wabonisa njani iimvakalelo zakhe kuwe? Ngaba wayekulungele ukwenza nantoni na ayifunayo intombi yakhe?
Ewe, bambalwa kakhulu abantu baya kuthetha ngokucacileyo ukuba unina unomntu ongabanda kunye nomntu ongenamonde, ukuba wazifihla bonke ubomi bakhe emva kwesigqubuthelo somntu onobunzima nompempiki. Nangona oku kwenzeka, kwaye akunakwenzeka kangako, njengoko kuya kuba kuyinqweneleka. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Izizathu zinokuba lukhulu kakhulu - ukuqala ngokuthintela ngokwemvelo, okuvela kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla ihamba ngokukhawuleza ibe yedwa, iphele ngezinye iimeko ezenza umfazi abe namandla kwaye anzima kakhulu. Mhlawumbi lo luhlobo oluthile lokulimala, lubonakaliswe ngale ndlela kwisimo sengqondo sakhe kubantwana bakhe. Ayikho ingongoma. Into ephambili - ukuba uyazi ukuba umama wakho wesaba yonke impilo yakhe ukubonakalisa ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zakhe - oku kunokuchaphazela isimo sakhe sengqondo kumfana wakho.
Umfazi omdala, umama, uzijonga ngobomi obunobulumko - kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene. Ngokuchanekileyo, kuyinyani ukuba unamava amaninzi ayeza kumnceda ukuba athole eli lizwe elingabalulekanga. Kodwa ingaba wawasebenzisa ngokunjalo la mathuba-oku kuhambelana ngqo.
Masithi unyoko unengxaki kumadoda ngexesha lakhe (mhlawumbi nobawo). Uya kuyenza njani xa ufika ekhaya kunye nesoka lakho? Kukho iindlela ezimbini ezibalulekileyo.
Eyokuqala kubo: lonke ixesha ukumazi isithandwa sakho esitsha, umama uziphatha ngokufanelekileyo. Mhlawumbi yena uyamncuma ngokuzama ukuzama ukumisa umoya odibeneyo kwintlanganiso. Uyamnika indebe yetiyi kunye nomtya wokutyikitya. Kodwa akayi kuphinda. Emehlweni akhe, uya kuba nako ukufunda imizamo eyenziwa ngumama wakho ukuba "angabikho kwi-coil." Kodwa xa umfana wakho evala umnyango - kufuneka uphulaphule "amanqaku" amaninzi malunga nomkhethiweyo wakho. Ukuba unyoko wakho uzimisele ukuvelisa, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuva ukuba "bonke bafuna intombazana kuphela kumantombazana" kwaye "ulungile kakhulu ukuhlala ethembekile kuwe - ndicinga ukuba ngoku uye waya kummelwane wakhe". Kule meko, kungcono uhlale upholile kwaye ungenzi uhlazo. Zama ngokunyanisekileyo umama wakho ukuba iqabane lakho lilungile. Kuya kuba mnandi ukuba umnike umzekelo wezinto ezimbalwa ezimangalisayo ezibonakalisa iqabane lakho njengomntu othanda nokukhathalela. Hlela uphendlo lwamanqaku "lwamaphulo eenqwelo-moya" akuyimfuneko - okokuqala, ukusuka kulo mva yakhe kwintombi yakho ayiyi kutshintsha. Kwaye, okwesibini, unyoko, unxungubele ngawe kwaye akafuni ukuba ube ngumntwana wakhe (kwaye ubudala bezingane kubazali babo bahlala bebubele) abazange bangene enkingeni. Oku akuthethi ukuba unyoko kufuneka afumane ukungathobeli ngokupheleleyo, kuba kunokumcaphukisa. Kodwa ukumphonsa ebusweni bendima engalunganga, akufuneki. Ngaphezulu kweminyaka yokuphila kunye kwafuneka ufumane loo mida yomphefumlo womama, apho ungadlala ngaphandle kokwesaba ukulimaza. Mbonise ukuba amava akhe ayilutho. Bonisa ukuba unomdla ngamazwi akhe. Zama ukuphepha iingxabano - kwaye, mhlawumbi, kwixesha elizayo uza kuthatha inkwenkwe kayise ngokunyaniseka.
Enye indlela yokwenza ulwalamano lwakho lokuqala nomama kukudibana nokuphuhliswa kobundlobongela nokungathandekiyo kweziganeko. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba phakathi kwabesilisa nabasetyhini ababizwa ngokuba ngabakhohlisi abathanda kakhulu ukubeka imithetho yabo kwaye abamesabi ukuguqula umbono weentsapho zonke. Abantu abanjalo banokungalingani, abazi ukuba baziphathe njani kwaye bakhetha ukuveza yonke into ebusweni babo abayicinga ngayo. Kwaye ukuba kwezinye iimeko zilungile, ngoko ngaphambi kokuba uholele kumama womfana, kufuneka ucinge ngokucophelela.
Ingaba uyayifana neengcamango zakhe zomntu ohloniphekileyo? Ukuba kunjalo, awudingi ukulungiselela umhlaba ixesha elide. Mhlawumbi, ukuba ubona indoda epholileyo e-jacket ene-bouquet ye-roc roses ngokungaqhelekanga idlala kunye nezihluthulelo zemoto, unyoko uya kunyibilika kwaye angathethi nto. Kodwa oku kwenzeka kakhulu kunqabile - akukho mntu uzama ukukholisa ukuthanda umama xa kuziwa kwiimvakalelo. Ngako-ke, ixesha elide ngaphambi kokucwangcisa umntu omaziyo, qalisa umkhankaso wokuqulunqa umama kunye nomfana kwintlanganiso enobunzima.
Umama makaxelele ngokukhethiweyo wakhe ukuba uya kwamkela nangayiphi na imeko. Emva koko, akayena umfana wakhe. Yaye ukwazi ukuba nayiphina impawu engathandekiyo yomlingiswa womfana akunjalo. Wayeza kufumana oko wayelenga ngaphandle. Kodwa umfana kufuneka alungiselele into yokuba ngaphaya komda wendlu yakho unokulindela ukuvakalelwa kwemvakalelo, kwaye akuyonto imnandi. Mcebisa umgaqo othile wokuziphatha, apho kuya kwenzeka ukuba ugweme ukungqubana. Kodwa yenza ngokugqithisileyo: akudingeki ukuba uzilungiselele ngaphambili. Ngako oko, xelela i-knight malunga naluphi uhlobo lwe-monster unyoko onakho, awudingi - ngokukhawuleza ukwesaba kwaye utshintshe ingqondo yakho? Ekugqibeleni, ukuba imeko iyanzima, unganciphisa uxhulumaniso lwabo, okanye ubencitshiswe kwi-zero ngokususa zonke iindawo zokudibanisa.
Kodwa kukho namantombazana anako ukuthetha ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba banenhlanhla kunye nonina. Hayi, anditsho ukuba abo oomama abanomlinganiselo obunzima bayazintloni. Kodwa ukusuka kumbono womntu, kukhangeleka kakhulu apho, apho uncinci uhlonishwa ngokungabikho, kwaye ungakhange ufune isizathu sokuba iipods.
Ukuba uye waba nobuhlobo obunokholo kunye nobomi kunye nonyoko ukususela ebuntwaneni - kuhle! Ukuba sele usabelane ngamava akhe malunga namakhwenkwe esikolweni kwaye ufumana inkxaso kunye noncedo kuye - unokucinga ukuba akukho nto unokukhathazeka ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo unina ongenamakhwenyana ufumana onyana kwintombi yakhe ekhethiweyo. Emva koko umfana akayi "kuguqulwa" ukusuka ekunyamekelweni nokunakekelwa ngumama wakho. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, banalo ubudlelwane obufudumele, ngamanye amaxesha banokuba nomona kuwe! Kodwa oku kusenokukuvuyisa!
Kodwa ukuba imeko echazwe ngasentla ifanelekile kumda ophakathi komama nentombi yentombi, kukho isimo sengqondo sokungathathi hlangothi, esoloko samkelwa ngabantu. Umama wakho akayi kuveza iingcamango zakhe malunga nokhethiweyo wakho, uya kwamkela ukubonakala kwakhe njengenene kwaye uya kumphatha ngokufanayo, njengomhlobo. Kungenzeka ukuba awuyi kuthanda - kodwa kulunge ngakumbi kunokuba usoloko uhlala ekhaya ulwa nomntu othandekayo.
Kwaye, ngokubanzi, sinokuthetha ukuba ngeendlela ezininzi ukuziphatha komama kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo kumntu kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ngokuchanekileyo, ukusuka kwindlela ohambisa ngayo ulwazi lwakhe ngaye, luhlobo luni lomfanekiso oza kudala ngaphambili kwintloko yakhe. Kodwa uyazi umama wakho, uyazi ukuba wayefuna ntoni kuwe njalo-ngoko ukuba wenza konke ngokuchanekileyo nangobunono, ngoko ulwalamano phakathi komama nomfana luya kukhula ngokuqhelekileyo. Mhlawumbi bengenalo uthando olukhethekileyo, kodwa ngaphandle kobutshaba - kodwa ubutha phakathi kwabantu ababini abalulekayo nabasondeleyo abakhokeli kukho into enhle. Awufuni ukulahlekelwa ngabo bobabini, ngaba?