Okanye mhlawumbi luthando?
Mhlawumbi uvuyo olungenangqiqo emehlweni omntu ongowesihambi ngumphumo wokuba uziva nje ngomntu ngaphezu kokuvakalelwa. Awukwazi ukuyivuma yona, kodwa iimvakalelo zakho zikunika. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ukuhlukanisa umhlobo wakho ngumyalezo ovuyayo kuwe, hlalutya iingcamango zakho. Musa ukuba neentloni kwaye uzive unetyala. Awuzange uzame ukuphazamisa lobu buhlobo. Ngokuchaseneyo, uziphatha njengomhlobo oyinyaniso kwaye akazange avume ukuba uzive ngayo. Khumbula ukuba akukho nto iyingozi kulolu thando. Xa abantu besini esahlukileyo besondelene kakhulu, kunokwenzeka ukuba sikhule sibe luthando. Ngoko, endaweni yokuzijezisa ngenxa yobuncwane, kungcono ukujonga ngakumbi umhlobo wakho. Mhlawumbi, yena uvakalelwa gqitha, uloyiko lokuvuma, kuba akafuni ukuchitha ubuhlobo bakho. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ungaze uzigwebe ngenxa yokugubha nokunyaniseka. Uhlala uziphatha njengomhlobo wenene, ngelixa umfana wayenomnye intombazana. Ngoku lixesha lokucinga ngalo.
Akusibini isibini
Uvuyo lokwahlukana nomntu ondibathandayo lunokubangelwa kukuba uhlale ukholelwa ukuba le ntombazana ayimfanelanga kwaye ifuna ukuba imanyano yabo idibane. Kule meko, nawe, awukwazi ukuzibona ungumntu ombi. Delov kukuba abathandi bathanda ukucinga into yabo yokububula. Abaziboneli ezininzi iingxaki kwaye abaqapheli ukuba umntu akanako ukulungela nje ukucinga. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyavuya gqitha ngenxa yokwahlukana, ngenxa yokuba wayesazi ukuba ngubani umkhwenkwe womhlobo owenene, kodwa akakwazanga ukumxelela, kuba wayengenakukuqonda kwimeko yothando. Kodwa entliziyweni yakho, uhlale ufuna ukuba olu lamano luphele. Kwaye ngoku, xa ekugqibeleni ulwalamano lwabo seluphelile, awukwazi ukugubha uvuyo, kuba umntu osondeleyo akasayi kubandezeleka. Kule meko, unokucebisa omnye: musa ukuvuyisa ekuqaleni. Kodwa ukuba umfana ngokwakhe uthi uyavuya ngenxa yokuba uyayiqonda kwaye uyayiqonda yonke into, ngoko awukwazi ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho. Kodwa kwimeko xa ubona ukuba usaphila kakhulu, thuthuzela uvuyo lwakho kwaye umxhase. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, umhlobo wakho uza kufikelela kwizigqibo ezichanekileyo kwaye uza kukwazi ukubonakalisa isimo sengqondo sakho soqobo kwintsebenziswano kunye nentombi yakhe yangaphambili. Okwangoku, zama nje ukuhlala usondele kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba acindezeleke. Khumbula ukuba kula maxesha, abantu badinga inkxaso. Ngoko ungatsho into ethile kuye ngesitayela: "Ndakuxelele njalo." Mhlala uhlala kumhlobo oyinyaniso kwaye ujabulele ngaye kwaye ngenxa yokuba ebomini bakhe ixesha eliza kuqala liza kuba ngcono kunelo elidlulileyo.
Ndikhwele
Esinye isizathu sokuba sivuyiswe ngokuhlukana komhlobo ngumona wokukhweleka. Kwaye akuthandi ngothando ngaphandle kobubele. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka njalo kula maxesha xa abantu bebahlobo ixesha elide, bachithe ixesha elininzi kunye, kwaye ke umfazi wabonakala ebomini bomhlobo, obaluleke ngakumbi kuye. Kule meko, amantombazana amaninzi aqala ukukhwelela abahlobo. Bathukuthele ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane babo buyeke ukufana nokuqala nangentliziyo yephupha ukuba umhlobo kwakhona wawungowona kuphela. Kwimeko enjalo, isizathu sokuvuya siyacaca. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba le yimeko yakho, kuya kufuneka uqikelele ukuba awukwazi ukubopha abantu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyamthanda umhlobo kwaye ufuna ukuhamba naye, kodwa ngaphandle kwesizathu bathi uthando aluzibugovu. Ngoko ke, ungafisi ukuba umhlobo wakho abe yedwa, kwaye yintoni kanye eyenzekayo. Ufuna umntu abe nawe kuphela, kodwa awufuni ukubona isithombe. Ngako oko, ufuna ukuba umhlobo wakho angaze abe nolonwabo. Ukubonakalisa okunjalo ukuzingca akusiyo isenzo esihle esecaleni lakho. Kodwa akayikrokreli ukugxeka aze azihlakulele. Zama nje ukufunda ukwandisa indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kunye nokuthetha nabanye abantu, ngaphandle komhlobo wakho osondeleyo. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kubona ukuba awusayi kuba nomsindo ngenxa yokuba uchitha ixesha nabanye. Ukongeza, ukwandisa isangqa sakho sazi kunye nokufunda ezininzi izinto ezintsha. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abasondeleyo bazive beziva zethu iimvakalelo. Ngoko ke kunokwenzeka ukuba umhlobo wakho wayevakalelwa kukuba umona wakho, akazange akhathazeke, ngoko wahlukana nawe. Ngoko, xa ufumene ukuba umhlobo wakho ukhulile nomntu othandekayo, endaweni yokuvuya, cinga ngezinto azivakalelwa ngoku, oko kuthethwa nguye. Ukuba usondela kule meko ngaphesheya, ngokukhawuleza uza kubona ukuba akukho zizathu zovuyo kwaye uyayeka ukuphendula kwimeko yangoku ngale ndlela. Ngexesha elizayo, xa umfana eqala ukutshata nentombazana entsha, endaweni yokutyhila umona ofihlakeleyo kunye nobudlova kwisalathiso sakhe, zama ukunyaniseka umhlobo wakho kwaye uya kubona ukuba uya kunxibelelana nawe ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye uya kugqiba ukwesaba ukubonakaliswa okungekho nto emehlweni akho lakhe intombi.
Umona kukuziva kakubi
Kwaye isizathu sokugqibela sokuba uvuyo olufanelekile ukuthetha ngomona. Ngelishwa, mhlawumbi ungazibambeleli ubomi, kwaye umona nje umhlobo wakho. Ewe, kwiimeko ezinjalo ezinzima kunzima ukuzivuma wena, kodwa ukuba awufumani enye inkcazelo yoluvuyo lwakho, cingisisa ngawo. Yaye ukuba oko kuyinyani, kufuneka uhlaziye ngokukhawuleza ubomi bakho nesimo sengqondo kuso. Ukuba uvavanya umvakalelo womona, kungekudala kamva umhlobo uya kuqonda oku, kwaye izimo zengqondo zizopholisa. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufumane ukulinganisela ngokomoya kwaye uzive. Kule meko, uvuyo lwenu luyiyo inkcazo yeengxaki zakho zokomoya. Kodwa musa ukuthukuthela kwaye unqwenela. Ufuna nje ukufumana intsingiselo yobomi bakho, ukufumana iimfuno ezintsha, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukwenzela ukuba ubomi obonwabisayo kwabanye abantu abukwenze ukuba ube nomvakalelo onomsindo, inzondo, umona nokucaphuka. Ndikholelwe, kulobu bomi kukho imisebenzi emininzi enomdla, abantu abaqhelana nabo, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, ezingekho ngaphantsi kwezinto ezibizwa ngokuba nolonwabo. Nangona kunjalo, xa uyeka ukucinga, ukufumana kunye nokukhwele, ulonwabo luya kuza. Emva koko, sisoloko sifumana oko sifuna xa siyeka ukukhathazeka nokuzihlambalaza.