Yonke into eyenzekayo ngoku inegama layo-isithandwa okanye "uthando olugulayo". Le ntliziyo ayibuyiseli uvuyo, kodwa ikunciphisa kuphela kwaye ibangela intliziyo yesifo nentlungu.
Ingqondo yakho iyaqaphela ukuba lo mbono awunakho ukuqhubeka, kwaye awusoze ujabule nalo mntu. Kodwa, ukuze unqobe le ntlungu yokubulala, awukwazi.
Ungalususa njani umnqweno owenza isigqila sakho sonke? Ungayinqoba njani lo xho mekeke kwaye ufumane ulonwabo?
Indalo eyimfihlelo kaThixo yintokazi. Akunabantu nje kuphela, kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha iingqondo zeengqondo azikwazi ukuqonda ingcamango yezenzo zethu, izizathu zokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi kunye nokuxhomekeka kwamadoda.
Abasetyhini bahlala behlushwa ukuxhomekeka kwothando, ngamanye amaxesha amadoda. Ukunyamezela kuyisiza esonakalisa umzimba wakho wonke, sinika kuphela okwesibini. Ngelishwa, isithandwa sisoloko siphosakele ngothando.
Indoda eye yabona uthando kunye nesithando ngokuqhelekileyo ididekile ngothando kunye nabasetyhini. Kuloo mfazi ngamnye ozayo udibana naye, kwaye ngubani oza kubonisa imfesane ngaye, unokuthi wamkele utshaba kunye nomthombo wentlungu kwixesha elizayo.
Kubasetyhini, izinto zihlukile. Ukuba ulawula ukususa umnqweno womntu oyedwa, ngokuhamba kwexesha, wathola isilwanyana esitsha.
Ngelishwa, ukunyamekela nothando kuxhomekeke kumandla omntu wokuthanda kunye nokuvuya. Uhlala engaphelelekiyo kwimiva kunye neentlungu ezidlulileyo, ngokokuthetha, ubudlelwane bakhe bamsondeza.
Ndiyazibuza ukuba kutheni kukho "uthando lokugula"? Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba abantu abanokuzithemba kakhulu bahlala bexhomekeka ekuthandweni. Ukungabi noluthando kwabanye kubangela ukuba umntu uya kuxhomekeka kwintando yakhe. Aba bantu, abanalo uthando olwaneleyo, ngakumbi kubo. Bazama ukuzalisa ubuhlwempu obungenanto, befuna ingqalelo yomnye umntu. Ngokwemvelo, iimvakalelo abazifumanayo abathandi. Kukho ukuzingca kunye nokuphulwa.
Esinye isizathu sokuvela kwenkanuko yenzondo yinto engafanelekanga yokuba into yokudumisa ingumlingani ofanelekileyo kwixesha elizayo. Umnqweno wokuthandwa uphinde uxhaswe yinkolelo yokuba umntu ulungile kuyo yonke into.
Ungayikhupha njani inzondo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunceda umntu akhuphe umlutha wothando, kungenelelo lobuchule kuyimfuneko. Emva kwakho konke, izizathu apho umnqweno wento yokubonga ivela, uvela kubuntwaneni.
Ukuqonda izizathu, ukuqeqesha ngokuzenzekelayo kunokunceda.
Ukuzenzekela ngokuzenzekelayo yindlela esetyenziswa kwi-psychotherapy. Ndiyabulela kule ndlela, umntu ufunda ngokuzimela. Unceda ukuzola iimbilini zakho, ukuphelisa uxinzelelo.
Ukuze uzincede ulawule uthando kunye nokuthanda umlutha, fundisa ukuzithandayo. Zi phu laphule. Ukuba ayisebenzanga, zonke iintsasa ziphefumlele ngoku - "Ndiyithanda"! Khumbula ukuba uwedwa. Emva kwakho konke, ufuna ukuvuyiswa, kutheni ukuzithiba kwakho ukuhlupheka kwaye uhlupheke.
Funda iincwadi, uphulaphule umculo, khuphela umsebenzi wakho, udibana nabahlobo. Indlela enhle yokuzilibala kukuba uthenge ithikithi kwi-resort okanye kwindawo ophupha ngayo ukususela ebuntwaneni.