Kutheni abafana bengathandi ukusibalelwa. Okokuqala, makhe siqale ngento yokuba intlungu ihluke. Andiyicingi ukuba loo mfana uya kuba nomsindo kwiintombi zakhe xa elala embhedeni kunye nobushushu obungaphantsi kwama-mane. Ngentlungu yakhe intombazana ibonisa uthando nokunyamekela insizwa yakhe. Kodwa, ukuba umfana ucinga ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kumcaphukisa aze amcaphukise, ndicinga ukuba intombazana yenza ukhetho olungalunganga malunga nomfana.
Ukuba, lo mfana ixesha elide uphelelwa ebomini bakhe okanye kwindawo yecandelo lobuchwepheshe, kwaye abanye abakwazi ukumbheka ngaphandle kobubele. Emva koko, unako ukuchaza isizathu sokuba loo mfana akafuni ukuba novelwano. Kule meko, unesihe kwabanye, unciphisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Insizwa inokuqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba uyisidalwa esingenakunceda, apho kukho imvakalelo eyodwa kuphela - le ntlungu. Kwaye ukunyaniseka ukuya ekupheleni, akubonakali kuye nonke, uluntu lukholelwa ngokwenene ukuba akanayo amandla.
Usizi, ngakumbi kumntu, luyakhathaza kakhulu ukuzithemba kwaye linciphisa ukuzithemba. Ngokwemvelo, xa kubonakala kuwe ukuba uyabonwa njengento ebonisa intlungu, iimoya esivela kulo ayiphuculanga.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uphendula umbuzo othi: "kutheni abafana bengathandi ukusibalelwa". Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba inceba ingabonakalisa ukhathalelo kunye nokuxhalaba ngomntu okanye ukubonisa, ngokuchaseneyo, uluvo oluphantsi kakhulu lomntu onobubele obhekiswayo. Ekubonakaleni kokuqala, ububele bungenza kuphela iimvakalelo ezintle. Owesibini uyakwazi ukuphazamiseka nokuphazamiseka.
Ngubani olungele ukuba nosizi . Njengoko unokuqiqa, ngokuqhelekileyo uninzi lwababantu ababa nesisa bafumana amava. Abasetyhini bavame ukwakha ubudlelwane. Ndadibana nomfana omncinci kwaye ngokukhawuleza wazaliswa ngumhawu. Intloko yentombazana ngokukhawuleza ibonakala ingcamango yokuba luthando, kwaye yedwa kuphela ongasindisa isithandwa sakhe kuzo zonke iingxaki eziye zawela kuye.
Kodwa, inceba abafazi abonisa ngayo ngokumalunga nomfana ibonakala ngesondo esinamandla ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi oku: insizwa yakho iyayilahla inceba yakho yonke iiseli zomzimba wakhe. Ukholelwa ukuba intlungu ihlazisa ukuzithemba, iyonakalisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Usizi luphela kubabethatywayo, izilwanyana kunye nabantwana. Kwaye, ngokwakhe, akacingi ukuba kuhambelana nenye yeli candelo.
Inketho yesibini kukuba akayi kulugatya inceba yakho, mhlawumbi ibonakala ngathi kuwe, kwaye sele usuqulunqe yonke into. Ngaphezu koko, wazisola kanye, okwesibini, okwesithathu. Kwaye, ngokukhawuleza ufumana amagama amaninzi afanelekileyo kwiimeko ezithile. Ekugqibeleni, kuvela ukuba insizwa yakho isetyenziswe kwinto yokuba ukuba unenkathazo kwakhona, unokuhlala uziva uxolo kuye kwaye uqikelele. Uwasusa uxanduva lwakho kwizenzo ezenziwa ngezandla zakho.
Abafana abathandwayo abathandi ukuxolisa, kwaye kunjalo. Kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu kumntu omncinane ukuba angavalelwa inceba, kodwa inkxaso evela kwicala lakho. Inkxaso kwaye ihluke kwiintlungu ongazigxininisi ukuba umntu wakho akayena mntu ophumeleleyo. Ngokuchasene noko, usebenzisa ukugxekwa okukhawulezayo kunye namazwi ambalwa okuxhasa, uya kuvusa kumntu wakho umnqweno wokuthatha isenzo kwaye unqobe iintonga ezintsha. Akasoze akhuphe isityholo kwiimeko ezizungezile, uya kuziqonda iimpazamo zakhe, asebenze ngeempazamo aze azame ukuphucula ngokwakhe.