Kuzo zonke ezikhankanywe ngasentla, kunokubonwa ukuba into enjengomfanekiso kayise inempembelelo enkulu kwiimeko ezizayo kunye nomlingane. Kwaye oku kwenzeka kuzo zonke iibhinqa, kuquka nabo abangazange bazi uyise.
Izindlela eziphambili, apho impembelelo yomzobo wobawo kubuhlobo kunye neqabane libonakala.
Makhe siqwalasele, ngantoni na indlela imifanekiso kayise (ngamanye amaxesha kungekho ngendlela ecacileyo) ithintela ubudlelwane namaqabane azayo.
Izindlela eziphambili zintathu, le ndlela ichanekileyo, indlela eyahlukileyo kunye neyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo. Masiqwalasele ngezantsi.
1. Indlela ngqo yefuthe.
Indlela echanekileyo yokuchaphazela umfanekiso kayise, njengombandela, ivela kwiintsapho ezinesimo esihle "sezulu", apho bobabini abatshatileyo bathandana kunye nabantwana babo. Emva koko intombi ekwenzeni ukukhula iqwalasela lo mthando kunye nayo yonke into efanelekileyo. Kulo mzekelo, umzobo wobawo uphonyelwe kwiqabane elizayo (oko kukuthi, intombazana engazi kakuhle okanye ifuna iqabane elisondelene noyise ngokusemandleni akho) ukuze kufezekiswe kuye imvakalelo efanayo, kunye nabazali bayo.
2. Indlela yempembelelo ekuchasene nayo.
Indlela umzobo kabawo uchaphazela ngayo okuchaseneyo (oko kukuthi, umfazi ubheka i-antipode yesoba) ifunyanwa rhoqo kwizo ntsapho apho umoya ongathandekiyo (i-scandals, ukuxabana, ukuphathwa kakubi komntwana okanye phakathi kwabatshati). Kule meko, intombazana ivelisa ukuphikisana okuqhubekayo kumfanekiso kayise, kwaye intombazana ifuna iqabane elingafani naye, ngamanye amaxesha ayilindelekanga kuphela kwiimpawu zomlingisi, kodwa nakubonakala. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyise wayesebudeni obude, ngoko intombazana iya kuthanda i-brunettes ephakathi okanye ngaphantsi kweqondo lokuphakama.
3. Imodi edibeneyo yempembelelo.
Le ndlela yinto eqhelekileyo ngesizathu sokuba ubudlelwane bomzali kunye nabazali bomntwana bafumana amaxesha omabini kunye nexesha lokuvumelana okupheleleyo. Ngale ndlela yokuchaphazela umfanekiso wobawo, umfanekiso wakhe uthathwa njengesiseko kwaye ulungiswe (okwenzekayo, njengomthetho, engaziqondi). Lezo zixhobo ezisekwe ntombazana njengento enhle, zijoliswe kwiqabane elizayo. Impawu ezifanayo ezingayithandi kubaba, zityalwa. Oku kwenzeka kwiimilinganiselo ezahlukeneyo zobungakanani kunye nobunzulu kunye nokudibanisa ngokupheleleyo.
Njengoko sele kukhankanywe, uhlobo lwesithathu luqhelekileyo, luba malunga nama-70-80% amatyala. Amalungu amabini aseleyo ahlula ipesenti ezisele.
Impembelelo yomfanekiso kabawo kwabasetyhini abakhulela ngaphandle kwakhe.
Into ehlukeneyo ingaqatshelwa loo mabhinqa angayazi uyise okanye engenakunxibelelana naye ngexesha elide. Kule meko, akuthiwa ngabazali bomntwana okanye abazali abavayo, ekubeni kunokwenzeka ukuba u-stepfather okanye uyise oyiselayo uhambelana nomfanekiso kayise.
Ndiyathetha ngamantombazana, oomama abakhuliswa ngabantombazana okanye amabanjwa enkedama, okanye ootatomkhulu. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, njengomthetho, kukho umthwalo omkhulu wengqondo kumntwana ngexesha lokukhula (oku kungenxa yokungabikho komzekelo weentlobano zesini kunye nempembelelo yobawo ekubunjweni kobuntu). Kule meko, sinokuthi (ngeqondo elithile lokucinga) ukuba umzobo wobawo uya kuhlanganiswa kwaye yenziwe phantsi kwefuthe leendaba eziphathekayo, iincwadi, imifanekiso yooyise wale ntsapho leyo ibhinqa elijongayo ngexesha lokubunjwa kobuntu. Le miifanekiso ayisoloko ikwazi ukufumana ezaneleyo kwizinto ezenzekayo ebomini, ngezinye izihlandlo ezibangele iingxaki zabesetyhini kwezobudlelwane babo namadoda.
Ewe, umfanekiso kayise akuyona yodwa into echaphazela ubudlelwane kunye nomlingane, kodwa unokuthiwa enye yitshixo.