Nonke ixesha kunye nawe. Uphawu oluphawulekayo lwenqweno lwabathandwa bonke luhlala lusondele kumhlobo wakho. Kwaye ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, xa beqala kuphela, oku kubonakala ngokukodwa. Le yindlela elula kakhulu yokufumanisa ukuba umntu unothando ngani, nangothando nonke.
Ukuba umntu ngokucacileyo akanandaba, kuya kuboniswa ngo:
- umntu uya kujonga nayiphi na isizathu sokukubona;
- "ngokukhawuleza" ukuba abe kwindawo efanayo nawe: iqela, umbukiso, umwendwendwe;
- akunzima ukuba indoda ikhansele enye intlanganiso ngenxa yokudibana nawe;
- iququzelela iintlanganiso ngendalo, kwi-cafe, kwi-cinema.
Ucinga nje kuwe. Enye indlela efanelekileyo yokufumana ukuba uthetha ntoni kubantu kukunyamekela indlela aziphatha ngayo phambi kwakho. Ukuba uyintanda kuye, ekutyeleleni, mhlawumbi, umntu uya kufuna ukuba ahlale kufuphi naye. Yaye ukuba unesinye indawo yegumbi, ngoko uya kumbamba ngothando lwakhe. Ukuqhagamshelana kwisangqa sohlobo, ngokuqhelekileyo isibheno sento yakho yothando siya kuqondiswa kuwe, ngokungathi ungaboni abanye.
Namela amagama. Uyazi njani ukuba uthetha ntoni kumntu ngentetho yakhe? Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uthanda igama lakho - ngoku lifana negama elithi "intanda", elingenalo ukuzimisela ukuvakalisa ngokuzwakalayo. Mhlawumbi i-lexicon yakhe igcwele ukunyanzelisa "ilanga," "intlanzi," "inqatha" ngokumalunga nawe. Ekubeni kwakho, indoda ayikhohlisi, ayisebenzisi ulwimi oluhlambalazayo, uzama ukulandela intetho yakhe, ukwenzela ukuba ungabangeli iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Phawula indlela yokuziphatha. Uyazi njani ukuba uthetha ntoni kuye, ngokuziphatha kwakhe? Kwaye zonke izinto zilula. Ukuba uziphatha ngendlela yomntu ongaqhelekanga, akufani nokokuqhelekileyo - ngokuqinisekileyo awukhathaleli. Ngokomzekelo, yena:
- uhleka ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uzama ukufihla imizwa yakhe;
- uxela malunga nezinto zakhe ezindala okanye uqala ukubonisa;
- Unomdla xa ilizwi lakhe liqala ukuthuthumela, ukuphefumla kuyakhawuleza, xa ihlahlela intende, ibonisa ezinye iimpawu ezibonakalayo;
Ukukhangela i-adventure, kubangele abanye ukuba babonise i-side side.
Ukuba ungaziqhelani nendoda, yazi ukuba abahlobo bakho bobabini baya kuqaphela utshintsho lwakhe kunye nento engaqhelekanga eyenzekayo phambi kwakho. Kwaye, ke, baya kufuna ukwabelana ngalokhu nawe.
Kwakhona, iimvakalelo zangempela zamadoda xa unika umlinganiselo ofanayo wothando njengoko ufumanayo. Awunayo ingqiqo ekuthandeni. Xa umntu enomona, uyakhathalela, xa ugula, uyakhathalela. Indoda ibalulekile kwimbono yakho, uyavuma ukunikezela ukuze ujabule. Kwiingxabano nomntu, uhlala ecala.
Ukuba umntu unomdla ebomini bakho - wenza ntoni, ziziphi iingxaki zakho, izinto ezithandwayo, oku kuthetha ukuba uthetha kakhulu kuye. Xa engonwabi nje kuphela ukufaneleka kwakho, kodwa uyathinteka nakweempazamo. Andizange ndivume ukuba uyamthanda ngokukhawuleza, kubonisa ukuba ndicinga ixesha elide malunga nendlela yokwenza oku kwaye yintoni na umzuzu ofanelekileyo oya kubakho kule nto. Uyakuthanda ukuba uwanga. Ukuba ubhalisela iisms ngegama-"ngokupheleleyo", "uthando", "ukukhathazeka", "ngothando" okanye okufana.
Nesaba ukulahlekelwa nguwe. Umnqweno oqhubekayo wokukuthinta, ubukele, ulale ngesondo (nangona oku kungenzeka kuphela ekuqaleni kwesiqhelana nabo).
Kodwa ukungathandabuzeki kuthinteka kwiimvakalelo zomntu, xa engafuni ukukuvumela ukuba ube yingxenye ethile yobomi bakhe. Xa uziva ukuba into ayigqibekanga. Xa engafuni ukuthetha ngothando oludlulileyo, nokuba uthe waxelela wena. Oku kubonisa ukungabi nokholo kuwe. Ukuba umntu akafuni ukunyamekela, okanye akacingi nhlobo, xa ufuna uncedo ngokwenene. Xa ekhetha yonke into, akayikuphulaphula umbono wakho. Akafuni ukukubonisa kubahlobo bakhe, okanye bakudonsa kunye naye-kwibhar, ukuya kwibhola okanye ukuloba. Ukuba emva kwentlanganiso yokuqala okanye yesibini uva uninzi lwamanconywa kunye nothando lokuvuma.
Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokufumanisa ukuba uthetha ntoni kumntu ngezinga elingengomlomo. Njengoko uyazi, amadoda anemiqondiso emininzi ethile, apho kungenzima ukuqiqa iinjongo zakhe. Ininzi yale miqondiso ayifuni. Kubalulekile ukuwaqonda ngokuchanekileyo.
Ukuba iilishi zivuswa. Xa sinento ekhangele ingqalelo, iinki zethu ziphakama kwaye ziwa. Oku kwenzeka nangakhathaliseki ubudala, kuyo nayiphi na indawo, kumntu weliphi na isini.
Iilomo i-ajar encinane. Ukuba umntu uvula umlomo wakhe, umzuzu odibana naye, ujonge yena.
Amathumbu amancinci. Xa iimvebe ziphakanyiswa, umlomo uvulekile kwaye amacinwa atyaliwe kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo-oku kwenza umntu ukuba abukeke ngobungane. Kwaye imeko echaseneyo yomntu ithi, mhlawumbi, uyabhuqa.
Xa umntu emela ngokuthe tye, edonsa isisu sakhe, ufuna ukuzibonakalisa kuyo yonke inkazimulo. Ubukhulu beentsimbi kwi-shoulder width, uphawu lwezesondo. Yaye nangona uhleli emilenzeni yakhe, ubonisa ukuba unento ethile yokunika le ntokazi.
Ukubukeka kwendoda iyayeka kwiindawo ezintle zomzimba wesifazane, ngaloo ndlela kucacisa ukuba uyakuphatha njengomlingane wesini.
Xa iisokisi zezihlangu zendoda zijoliswe kwicala lakho, unomdla kuwe. Indoda ikubambe ngegxeni okanye ibhokhwe, ngoko ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba awuyi kulahleka kwisihlwele kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, kuya kubangela ukuba abo bantu bangenako, ngenxa yokuba sele usondele kumntu.
Ukuba unika i sweta okanye ibhatyi. Uthi, njengokuba kunjalo, ukuba kuye "Yintoni yam, iyakho", ngaphandle kokuba i-proprietary, ikhusela isenzo somntu. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, umntu unesizathu sokuba avele ekugqibeleni kwakhona, nokuba uthetha nje indawo yakho.