Kukho umehluko omkhulu phakathi kweengcamango zentloni kunye nokufihlakele okanye ubunzima. Umntwana onamahloni ufuna ukuthetha, akwazi nje ukuba uyaphi kwaye uyamoyika. Ivalwe-ayifuni kwaye ayikwazi. Uhlala kwilizwe lakhe, evumela kuphela izihlobo zakhe eziseduze. Kuphela banokuyithatha "ikhiye": umama, utata, intaka yenkomo okanye i-hamster. Ukuvalwa kuvame ukubhalwa ngabazali ngesipho esithile kunye nokuphuhliswa, bathi, into enjalo encinci kunye nabantwana abaqhelekileyo ayinomdla. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zivumelanisa ukuba le ngumbono ophosakeleyo! Aba bantwana, "amatyala" ahlala entliziyweni entliziyweni yabo ngenxa yokuba abanakuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye neontanga zabo. Abazange bahlale beqonda isizathu sokuba baxakeke, bethwele ukuba babe ngabantu abadala.
Izizathu zokuzihlukanisa kunye nobumnyama
Ezi zizathu zihlala zilele ebuntwaneni bokuqala. Ngokuchanekileyo - kwimpumelelo yokukhulelwa. Abantwana abazalwa ngokukhawuleza, ukufikelela kwiiveki ezingama-33, baninzi amathuba okuba bangenele (abantu abazimeleyo). Isizathu salokhu kuluhlu olude oluvela kumama kwangoko emva kokuzalwa (iintsana ezingaphambi kwexesha zifakwa kwi-kuvez - i-apparatus ekhethekileyo egcina ubushushu obuthile, umswakama, njl.). Ngelo xesha, akufuneki ukuba ubhale yonke into kuphela kwi-prematurity. Abantwana bathambekele ekutheni baxhomeke kubo, ukuba bayagula, batywe okanye banamathele ngenye ingxaki. Enyanisweni, umntwana uhoxiswa kwaye akhathazeke kule meko, kungekhona njalo, kodwa nje ixesha elide.
Le meko ibaluleke nakakhulu, ukuba ukungahlawuli kuye kwavela ngenxa yeemeko zangaphandle. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana wesikolo angasondela ngokuphendula ukuxhatshazwa ngabantwana besikolo xa beyidambisa ngenxa yokugaya, ukugqiba okanye ukugqoka iiglasi. Abantwana abancinci banokuthi bahlukane ngenxa yokuxabana phakathi kwabazali. Kwimeko yokuqala, umntwana ukhutshwe kwizinto eziyinyaniso ngodonga olucingayo, kuba lukulungele ngakumbi kunokuzama ukuzama ukuzikhusela kwabaphuli. Okwesibini, kubonakala sengathi yinkwenkwe ukuba indlela efanelekileyo yokubuyisana nomama nobaba kukuba ingabonakali kangako, kuba abantwana bahlale bebeka isohlwayo kubo bonke abantu abadala.
Umntwana ovaliweyo unakho ngenxa yokuba ayiqhagamshelani nabantwana nje. Ngokomzekelo, uhlala egule, akahlali esikolweni, uchitha ixesha lakhe kunye nonina okanye ugogo. Ekuqaleni, uyamkhathaza: uhlala ecatshulwa ("Akukho xesha lokuba sidlale nawe, sinemicimbi yethu ngokwaneleyo"), kwaye ke uqala ukungena kwinqabileyo. Emva kwakho konke, oontanga bangakwazi ukuphula amathoyizi, baze bathathe konke, kungekhona loo mama nomakhulu.
Kodwa ivaliwe?
Ngexesha elifanayo, kuhlale kuyimfuneko ukufumana ukuba umntwana wakho ungumntwana okanye uyicinge le ngxaki. Ukuba umntwana akanabahlobo abaninzi kwaye uyathanda ukudlala yedwa - akavaliwe. Ukuba ngaba abazali baxhamla, ke isimo sengqondo sokumelana nomntwana kubantu abakujikelezile siba yintlekele. Bacinga, njengoko kungenakuthanda ukuthetha nabantu, kunomdla kakhulu? !! Kodwa kufuneka siqonde ukuba umntu ngamnye unesimo sakhe sengqondo nesimo sakhe. Ukuba awucingeli ubomi ngaphandle koluntu, oku akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu makabe ofanayo. Ngokweengcali zengqondo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyavuya ukuya esikolweni okanye esikolweni, kodwa ngelo xesha axoxananga nabo bonke abantu ngokulandelanayo, kodwa kuphela nabakhethiweyo, oku akukho konke umntwana ongenayo kwaye akayi kuvalwa. Njengokuba kunjalo xa umntwana ehamba kunye noontanga bakhe, kodwa ngelixa begijima bephethe ibhola kwintsimi, uhluthwa kubo kwiimimandla okanye bajonge amacwecwe.
Ingomnye umba ukuba umntwana ufihla ngokwenene. Kule meko, ingxaki idinga ukungenelela ngokungxamisekileyo, ngaphandle koko umntwana uya kuqhubeka edibaneni aze asabise abantu abangaziwa ngaphambi kokuphela kobomi, imeko engaqhelekanga. Akakwazi ukuxoxisana ngokugcwele nabanye kwaye ngenxa yoko baya kukhatywa ngabo. Kubalulekile ukubonelela ngoncedo olufanelekileyo kwixesha elithile, kungenjalo luya kuba ludityaniswe nezixhobo ezintsha, eziya kumthintela ukuba aphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo.
Unokukunceda njani umntwana ukuba ahluleke
Ivalwe kwaye inqabileyo, umntwana ongenakuqhathaniswa kwaye owaziwayo uyafuna ukuncedwa kwengcali yengqondo. Kodwa into enokuyenza kunye nabazali ngokwabo.
- YENZEKA OKUNYE UKWENZELWA KWENTWANA, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uneminyaka engakanani. Bonke abantwana badinga ukunakekelwa kwabazali. Asikho isidingo sokwesaba ukumkela umntwana ngesisa, ukumbumbana nokuwanga - bonke aba bantwana badinga okungaphezulu kunabanye. Ukongezelela, unokunyamezela nokukhupha umntwana, ngaphandle kokuzikhupha zonke ezi nqwenela.
- AKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUBA UKUFUNA UKUFUNA Abantwana abakwazi ukuvavanya ngokuphumelelayo iimpumelelo zabo kunye nokuphumelela. Ngubani, ukuba ayingabantu abadala, uyakwazi ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwabo?
- VUMELA ABANGENZI BAKHO. Makuvumeleke ukuba umntwana afunde ukufumana abantu abahlukahlukeneyo. Kungcono, ukuba iindwendwe ziza nabantwana bazo. Kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo kunye noluntu, umntwana ovaliweyo uya kukhutshwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye afunde indlela yokuthetha noontanga. Wena, kwakhona, kuya kuba lula ukulungelelanisa ukuziphatha kwakhe, ukucebisa indlela yokuziphatha kwiqela.
- XHUMANA NEMI-HOLIDAYS KONKE, khuthaza ukusebenza komntwana kuluntu. Makhe afunde izibongo, ingoma phantsi kwe karaoke, umdaniso, uthathe inxaxheba kwindawo yokudlala ekhaya. Mkhuphe ebudeni bokungakhathaleli, ulungiselele imidlalo ehlekisayo, umvumele ukuba anqobe - inkolelo yokunqoba ibuyisela ukholo kuye.
- XHUMISA UMNTWANA KUNYE NTSHA. Abantwana abavaliweyo bahlala behluke kwi-conservatism. Kubalulekile ukuba bazizwe bezinzile kuyo yonke into: ekudleni, ekulele, kwimidlalo, kwiimbali zobusuku - yonke into kufanele ibe yiseshedyuli. Akuyimfuneko ukunqanda umntwana waloo mvakalelo, nangona ufuna ngezinye izihlandlo ulawulo lwemihla. Ngokomzekelo, i-tale yenkwenkwezi yangokuhlwa ingatshintshwa kwi-cartoon, ukuhamba okanye intetho ngentliziyo.
- KHUMBULA UKUBA UKUQHUBEKA KWESILWANA ESIKHUMBILEYO SIQOQO SOKUPHAKATHI. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana akafakwa kwindawo yokudlala, musa ukumnyanzela ukuba ahlale phakathi kwebhokisi le-sandbox okanye ukumphoqa ukuba adibanise entabeni kunye ne "locomotive". Kubaqalayo, makangadlala nabo bonke abanye abantwana, kwaye ngoko unokuzama ukumnceda ngokusondeza kwontanga yakhe. Kuphela kakhulu okungahambi kakuhle kwaye ngokucokisekileyo.