Igama elithi "ukunxibelelana" livela kwigama elithi "jikelele". Umntwana uqala ukunxibelelana nabantu abadala. Unxibelelwano lwale hlobo lunempembelelo enkulu kungekuphela kokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntwana, kodwa nakwimeko yophuhliso lwenyama. Zininzi iintlobo zonxibelelwano ezinokuqatshelwa. Umzekelo, kwiinkonzo zentlalo ziqondwa njengendlela yokugcina isimo semeko yentlalo yoluntu, oko kukuthi, kwimeko apho ubudlelwane phakathi koluntu nendoda buboniswa. Kwaye kwinjongo yengqondo, ukunxibelelana kukugcina ukusebenzisana phakathi kwabantu. Unxibelelwano luqhagamshelwano lwababini okanye obuninzi abanobuchule obufanayo, okokuba, ukuseka ubudlelwane. Nawuphi na umntu uzama ukwazi nokuxabisa abanye abantu. Ngaloo ndlela, unelungelo lokuzimela.
Ukunxibelelana nabantu abadala kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuphuhlisweni komntwana. Unokuziphatha njani xa ekhuluma nabantu abadala. Imisebenzi ephezulu yophuhliso lwe-psyche kwinqanaba lokuqala lidalwe ngaphandle kwaye akukho mntu omnye kodwa ababini okanye ngaphezulu bathathe inxaxheba ekubunjweni kwayo. Kwaye kuphela ke bangaphakathi. Kubantwana abancinci, ukuthetha nabantu abadala kuhlolisisa, i-sensorotor kunye neminye imithombo yempembelelo. Umntwana kule minyaka uhlala elandela imisebenzi yabantu abadala kwaye uzama ukuxelisa yonke iminyango yawo. Kwabaninzi, abazali ngokwabo bayinto yokuxelisa.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantwana nabantu abadala. Abantwana bafanele baziphatha njani xa bethetha nabantu abadala? Ukuba ukungabikho kokubambisana phakathi kwabantwana nabantu abadala kulandelelwaniswa, ukunyuka kwe-psyche kuyancipha, ukunyanzelwa kwezifo kwanda. Kwaye ukuba akukho dibana nabadala, abantwana banzima kakhulu ukuba babe ngabantu kwaye bahlala befana nezilwanyana, ezifana noMowgli nabanye. Nangona kunjalo, ukunxibelelana phakathi kwabantwana nabantu abadala kumagangatho ahlukeneyo kunobunqabileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ebuntwaneni umntwana usabela kwizwi labantu abadala ngaphambilana nawuphi na omnye umqondiso. Xa kungabikho uqhagamshelwano nabantu abadala, ukuphendulela kwizinto ezivakalayo kunye neziboniso ezibonakalayo zinciphisa. Ngokomzekelo, emntwaneni, ixesha lokufunda esikolweni lithathwa ukuba lixesha lokuba ithuba lokusebenzisana lusetyenziswa ngokuxhumana nabantu abadala. Ngeli xesha, kubaluleke kakhulu ukunxibelelana noontanga kwindawo yokuqala. Ukuba lo mntwana uye wakha ngokuthe ngqo ukuxhumana nabantu abadala, ngoko akukho nto ingabikho phantsi kwe-inferiority complexes. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uya kutyelela, apho baninzi abaontanga nabadala, uya kuba nokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo kunye noontanga kunye nabantu abadala. Kwaye abo bantwana banqatshelwe ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nabantu abadala, banokungabikho ngqalelo kwinqanaba elinokuba ngaba nabazali. Ngexesha lobudala besikolo, ukunxibelelana nabantu abadala sele sele kwinqanaba elihlukeneyo lophuhliso. Isikolo sibeka imisebenzi emitsha kumntwana. Unxibelelwano kweli phepha lenziwe njengesikolo sokusebenzisana kwentlalo. Yonke intuthuko yomntwana ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi ukuya ekupheleni kobomi kukunxibelelana. Ekuqaleni umntwana uthetha nomntu omdala osondeleyo, kwaye intlalo yakhe yentlalo iyanda, abantwana baqokelela lonke ulwazi, bahlalutye, baze baphathe kakubi.
Unxibelelwano olupheleleyo phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana lukhokelela ekuphuculweni kwengqondo ngokupheleleyo kwengane kwaye akuncedisi kuphela inkqubo yokuphuhliswa okuqhelekileyo kunye nokuqhelekileyo kwengqondo, kodwa nayo ingaba "impiliso yokuphulukisa" kwimeko yokuphuhliswa kwemvelo.
Ngokomzekelo, abantwana abanokukhubazeka kwengqondo bahluke ngamaqela amaninzi: ukuhlola nokulawula. Xa uneminyaka emithathu, abantwana babekwe ekunyamekelweni kwabasetyhini, nabo banenkinga yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo. Kwakhona nakumaziko akhethekileyo. Kwaye elinye iqela labantwana lahlala kwiinkedama. Kwiminyaka elishumi elinesithathu emva koko, abaphandi bafumana idatha kwiimeko zabantwana. Phantse iibhozo ezisibhozo-ezilishumi elinesihlanu zabantwana abakwiqela lolawulo bakwazi ukugqiba isikolo, kwaye ezine zazo ziikholeji. Abaninzi baba ngabantu abazimeleyo kunye nabahlali bezeleyo kwaye banokuzivumelanisa nokuphila. Abaninzi babantwana abashiye kwiqela lokulinga bafa, kwaye abo basinda nabo bahlala kumaziko akhethekileyo. Ubuntu yinkqubo yengqondo ehambelanayo eyavela kwiinkqubo zobomi bemisebenzi yabantu kwaye yenza umsebenzi ohambelana nabantu abakujikelezile. " Ukunxibelelana kwabantwana abanabantu baneempawu zabo. Abantu abadala, nabo, baneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha, abalinganiswa abahlukeneyo baze bahlakulele ubuhlobo obuhlukeneyo phakathi kwabo nabantwana. Kukho iimeko xa kungekho luthando lomama, ukufudumala, ngenxa yoko abantwana abangathembeli kubantu abadala okanye nakubantu bonke abajikelezile. Kwaye ukukhuliswa kakuhle kwabantwana kuxhomekeke ekunxibelelaneni. Ukuba umntwana ubona intlonipho, thandana kwintsapho, ngoko akakwazi ukuziphatha ngokungafaniyo xa ekhuluma nabantu abadala.