Unomntwana okhulayo, kwaye kukho kudlula umzuzu xa kuphakama imibuzo: indlela yokukhulisa intombi, indlela yokuchaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo ukukhula kwayo ngokwesondo nangokwenyama, ngaluphi unyaka omele uqalise imfundo yesondo. Imfundo yentsholongwane yamantombazana ifanele iqale ukususela kumntwana. Impilo yomntwana ifanele ithathelwe ingqalelo kwangoko uqala ukuyilungiselela.
Zininzi izinto ezichaphazela impilo yengomso wengane. Kuxhomekeka kwimpilo yabazali, ukusuka kwiklasi lokukhulelwa komama. Kwaye kunye nezibonakaliso zobutyebi. Inkqubo engathandekiyo yokukhulelwa (imikhwa emibi, izifo ezahlukahlukeneyo ezithathelwanayo), ngakumbi kwi-trimester yokuqala yokukhulelwa, kunokuchaphazela impilo yomntwana. Kwiimeko ezininzi ngeli xesha lokukhulelwa izifo ezahlukahlukeneyo zomntwana zenziwa. Oku kunokuba izifo zentsholongwane, ezinokuthi zenzeke ebuntwaneni okanye ebusheni.
Ngeliphi iphupha abantombazana baqala imfundo yesondo.
Uninzi unina ukholelwa ukuba imfundo yesondo kufuneka iqale ngokuqala kokusasa. Kodwa le ngcamango ayilungile, kuba imfundo yesondo ihambelana ngokusondeleyo kwinkqubo jikelele yemfundo yokomoya. Kufuneka uqale ngokuzalwa komntwana. Imfundo kufuneka iqhutywe ingqalelo ezinye iimpawu-ngokuqwalasela iimpawu zomntwana, ngokuqwalasela umlinganiso weminyaka. Kodwa kukho izigaba eziqhelekileyo kunye nemigaqo abazali abafuna ukuyazi. Kwinqanaba lokuqala lemfundo yesondo, amantombazana kufuneka afake ubuchule bokucoceka. Oku kuhlamba, ukutshintsha i-diapers, ukuhlamba, njl. Ngoko ke, xa umntwana ekhula ufanele umfundise indlela yokusebenzisa iphepha lokungasese, ukuhlambuluka kwezilwanyana zangasese.
Ngokuphunyezwa kwansuku zonke yale nkqubo, amantombazana anomkhwa wokuguqula iimpahla rhoqo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwimfundo yesini yomntwana. Ngokucoceka ngokufanelekileyo, umngcipheko wezitho zangasese zangaphakathi nezangaphandle zivuthayo.
4-6.
Xa uneminyaka engama-4 ukuya ku-5, abantwana bahlala bebuza imibuzo, apho ngezinye izihlandlo singayifumani impendulo efanelekileyo. Umzekelo, ndavela phi na kwabanye. Akuyimfuneko ukugwema impendulo okanye ucinge zonke iintlobo zeengcali. Ukuba awukwazi ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza, zithetha ukuba uthetha kamva. Cinga ngendlela yokuphendula umbuzo ukuze umntwana aqonde, ngaphandle kokuhlazeka, kwaye agcine isithembiso. Ukuba umntwana wakho akafumani impendulo, uya kukwazi kwabanye. Kwaye akucaci ukuba ngubani oya kuyiphendula kwaye yiphi na impendulo eya kufunyanwa.
Xa uneminyaka engama-5 ukuya kwe-6, kunokusenokuba novelwano kunye neemvakalelo zothando. Ungesabi ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezinjalo entombi, kuba kule minyaka ayikho inxaxheba kubafana bezesondo.
10-11 ubudala.
Xa uneminyaka eyi-10-11, amantombazana kufuneka azi kakuhle iimpawu zophuhliso lomzimba. Kufuneka balungele ukuya esikhathini. Amantombazana kule minyaka ayifanele akhathazeke xa iinwele zivela kwizitho zangasese kunye nokukhula kweentlanzi zamathambo. Intombazana kufuneka ibe neengcamango zokutshintshwa kwangaphambili phambi kokuqala kwezi nkqubo. Kumele ukuba azi indlela yokugcina ucoceko ngeli xesha. Kubalulekile ukubamba iintetho kwesi sihloko. Incoko kufuneka iqhutywe ngumama, okanye kwengqondo okanye utitshala. Ingxoxo enjalo kufuneka iqhutywe kwifomu efumanekayo yokuqonda. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ikhefu kufuneka ihlanjwe ngamaxesha amaninzi ngemini, ukujonga ukucoceka kwezambatho kunye nomzimba. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuba igazi lokuya kwimihla yindawo efanelekileyo yokuvelisa ibhaktheriya. Ngokungahlambulukanga, umngcipheko wokuba nezifo ezivuthayo ziyanda. Fundisa intombazana indlela yokulondoloza ngokufanelekileyo ikhalenda, ukuze ulandele umjikelezo wokuya esikhathini. Ukuba isisemzini asiqhelekanga, ngoko kufuneka uqhagamshelane nomgulane wezilwanyana.
12-14 ubudala.
Ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwe-physiology kwenzeka kubantwana abaselula abaneminyaka eyi-12-14. Emzimbeni kukho utshintsho, kwaye kukho ukukhangwa kwesondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abangathethi nabazali kwizihloko ezahlukahlukeneyo bafumana impendulo kwenye indawo. Ngokuqhelekileyo bafumana ulwazi oluphambukile. Amantombazana anomnqweno wokuzimela nokuziqinisekisa. Iingxaki ezininzi zinokuphetshwa ukuba ubuhlobo bokwethemba bubekwe kunye nabazali. Amantombazana anomnqweno wokukholisa isondo esahlukileyo, kwaye lo mnqweno unesondo. Ukuba ngaba abazali banengqiqo nabantwana babo kule minyaka (kuba abantwana abaselula banengqondo ecacileyo yokuzimela), ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ugweme iintlobo ezingathandekiyo zoqhagamshelwano nentombi kunye nabahlobo abangathandabuzekiyo. Kufuneka uvumele intombi yakho ukuba uyayijonga njengobuntu obunjalo - ngoko akayi kubafihla abahlobo bayo.
Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-15.
Kwixesha leshumi elivisayo liza ixesha elibalulekileyo lokubhinqa. Eli lidala lisukela kwiminyaka eyi-15 ukuya kwe-18. Utshintsho olunzima luvela emzimbeni kule minyaka. Ekupheleni kweli xesha, kubakho ubushushu. Ngokuqala kwesi sikolo, amantombazana kufuneka aqonde ukuba ubomi besondo obungaphambi kwesikhathi bukhokelela ekukhulelweni okungafunekiyo. Amama, izazi zengqondo, oogqirha kufuneka bafunde abantwana ngeendlela zokukhulelwa kwezilwanyana (ukhuselo lokukhulelwa). Amantombazana kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukukhipha isisu kule minyaka kuyingozi. Oku kunokukhokelela ekungabikho komntwana, kwaye izifo zonyango ziyakhula emva koko. Kodwa ukuba kukho ukukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa - intombi ayifanele ikwesaba ukuxelela abazali bakhe malunga nayo. Imfundo yamantombazana yinkqubo, kwinqanaba elithile, lokudala. Yiba ngumntwana wakho nje ngokuba ngumama, kodwa njengomhlobo. Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye nabantwana bakho, ukuya kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo kunye. Ukuba udala umoya wokuthembela olwalamano lwakho, intombi ayiyi kufihla iingxaki zayo kuwe, kwaye uya kukwazi isangqa soqhagamshelwano lwakhe.