Njengoko uyazi, ebomini bakhe umntu omncinci ufumana iintlungu ezinzulu. Bonke abazali bazi ngokwabo malunga neengxaki zonyaka omnye, ubunzima beeminyaka emithathu, ukulungelelanisa nzima kwi-kindergarten kunye nesikolo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, akukho nto inokuthelekiswa nenani lexhala kunye nokwesaba ngokulindela kwabazali baselula.
Ukukhathazeka kwabazali ngale nto akuyiyo yonke indawo. Ubume beendaba zolwazi buzele amabali ngokutshintshwa, apho iintsholongwane ziwela khona. Umtsalane wamagnet ukhanga abo babesele intombi yendodana yenyameko, beguqula ngaphandle kokuqaphela, bahlwayele ukungavumelani kunye nokuxabana kwiintsapho. Kwaye nabantwana "abahle" banokungcipheka kwintsimi yemfuyo. Igunya lomntu omdala liwa ngokukhawuleza, kunye nekhefu phakathi kwabazali kunye nezingane ezingenakunceda. Indlela yokuphila kunye nokwakha ngokufanelekileyo ulwalamano nomntwana wakhe kule nkalo enzima, kodwa ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe? Indlela yokulahlekelwa ukuzithemba omnye nomnye kwaye wenze le nto into eya kubakholisa intsapho ngakumbi? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukukhusela umntwana wakho kwimpembelelo engalunganga yesitalato?
Ngoko, owokuqala: siyaqonda ukuba umntwana wethu ukhulile kwaye ixesha lokuzikhangela kwakhe ngokwakhe kwaye indlela yakhe ebomini ifikile. Ixesha lokuthobela ukuthobela nokuzaliseka kweemfuno zethu kuye kwahamba ngokukhawuleza. Kububugugu ukulindela ukuthotyelwa kweminye imizuzu emininzi, akasayi kuphinda ayilandele. Ixesha lokuthatha amanyathelo okuzimela. Into engcono kakhulu esinokuyenza kule meko kukubonisa ukuba simthembe ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, simnika inkululeko enjalo njengoko ayifunayo. Ukuze wenze le nyathelo elibalulekileyo kubalulekile okokuqala kuba ubuntwaba lixesha lokuguquka ukususela ebuntwaneni kunye nokunakekelwa kwabazali ngokupheleleyo kunye nokukhuseleka ngokugcwele kubantu abadala, ngezinye izinto ezingalindelekanga, ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha imithetho nemimiselo ekhohlakeleyo. Yaye ukuba sifuna ukuba umntwana azifumene kwaye ekugqibeleni abe ngumntu omdala ngokwaneleyo, simele simvumele ukuba afunde oku. Ngale ndlela, iziphene ezizimeleyo ziyakwazi ukuphepha. Kodwa ngaba abo, ukuba bazimisele ukunyamezela, baya kumthabatha umntwana wethu kwi-whirlpool yenkxalabo ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Inyathelo lesibini: thabatha indawo efanelekileyo. Ukukuchonga ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka ufunde ezinye iimfuno ezisisiseko zantoni na. Ngexesha lokuguquka komntwana, isidingo sokuba ubulungu kummandla ongeyentlalo yoluntu sanda, okona, ngombono wakhe, uphila ubomi obuzimeleyo, unemithetho yakhe nemithetho. Xa ulutsha, uluvo lwakhe kontanga luba ngumzuzu obalulekileyo kakhulu. Ngako oko, ufuna ukuphumelela kwinkampani ekhethiweyo nangayiphi na indlela. Umnqweno wokuba "ngowakho" unamandla kakhulu kangangokuthi ngokuqhelekileyo kubangela ukuba umntu ahlasele. Nanku uncedo lomntu omdala lubalulekile. Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza. Iindlela zokufundisa kunye nokuziphatha kakuhle kuya kuba nzima. Kukwafanelekile ukuba ugweme naziphi na izigwebo zentengo, ingakumbi ezimbi, ngokumelene nenkampani entsha yomntwana wakho. Hlonipha ukhetho lwakhe. Kungcono ukubonakalisa isimo sengqondo sokuzola, ukucinga, ukubuza umntwana imibuzo malunga noko kumkhangela ngqo kwinkampani ethile, into ayifunayo, into ayifumanayo, noko kukulahlekelwayo. Incoko kufuneka iqhutywe kwindawo ekhululekile.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, okwesithathu. Yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho kule nkqubo enzima kuwe incitshiswa into enye into elula - uzijonga yena. Olu phando luyinkxalabo kwaye lubuhlungu kwintombazana. Ukwahlukana nabazali bakhe, bezama ukuzimela, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uwela kumnatha wezinto ezahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhomekeka okubi kakhulu - izitrato, amaqabane akhulileyo, inkampani ethile. Kwaye kuphela ukuqonda iimfuno zabo eziyinyaniso, umntwana uyifumana kwaye uthatha indawo yakhe yokuphila ngaphandle kwesiqhelo. Yenza okulungileyo, fumana iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo eya kuba nayo. Kodwa ukuba uyazi ukuba kukho abo baza kwamkela kwaye baqonde isikhundla sakhe, amathuba okuphumelela kwimiphumo yenyusa amaxesha amaninzi.