Ukuqulunqa uhlobo lwesimo somntwana

I-Choleric, i-sanguine, i-melancholic, i-phlegmatic-ngaba abantwana bangabelana ngeentlobo zesimo sengqondo? Umntu unikezelwa ngumntu osusela ekuzalweni. Ayikwazi ukutshintshwa, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukufunda ukuqonda nokuqikelela. Usana luza kwihlabathi sele lunezixhobo zeprogram yeentlanzi, ngaba ngubani oza kulandela ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo yakhe, umlingiswa, indlela yokubonakalisa iimvakalelo, ukukwazi ukufumana ulwazi olutsha, ubungqina bentlobo ethile yomsebenzi, njl. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uzuza i-temperament yomnye wabazali okanye ngokufanayo uthatha iimpawu ezivela nganye. Ngoko ke, ukubonakala kwabantwana abaneentlobo ezahlukeneyo zengqondo kunokwenzeka kwintsapho efanayo. Ukuqaphela uhlobo lomoya womntwana kukunceda ufunde okuninzi malunga nosana lwakho.

Ewe, iintlobo!

Inkolelo yokuziphatha ibuyela kwimfundiso yonyango wamaGrike uHerpocrates. Wayekholelwa ukuba "umlinganiselo wezinto ezine ezenza umzimba womntu unquma inkqubela yokugula ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo." Ngokutsho kukaHippocrates, uhlobo oluthile lobutyebi luxhomekeke kwi-fluid ebalulekileyo emzimbeni womntu (obomvu nobomnyama omnyama, igazi elitshisayo, i-mucus ebandayo). Ngokuhambelana nale nto, wahlula abantu kwiintlobo ezi-4.

Ngaba siyakuyiqonda?

Isimiselo sinobukhulu bomgangatho, kodwa ukubonakaliswa kwayo kubonakala kuphela kumzuzu wokuba ngumntu kwindawo yentlalo (ngo-3-4 iminyaka). Ngokuqhelekileyo ngamnye kuthi kukho zonke iintlobo ezine. Into eyona nto kukukunikwa inkokheli. Kusekelwe kwisiseko sokubunjwa komlingiswa nokuziphatha.

Umgaqo wakhe oyintloko "Ndifuna yonke into kanye!" Ukuguquka kwemizwelo kunye nokungazinzi kweemeko zizinto eziphambili zomntu we-choleric.

♦ Ekuqaleni kobuntwaneni, i-choleric temperament ibonakalisa ukukhala okungapheliyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye ngaphandle kwayo. Iphoso lonke liyi-system engazinziyo kwaye engazinzileyo.

♦ Abantwana be-Cholers baxakeke ngokukhawuleza, yonke i-psyche yabo idinga ukubonakala kunye nokufumana izinto ezintsha, ngaloo ndlela kubangela umsebenzi ophezulu.

♦ Ungumntu ongenakunqwenela ukwenza izinto ezimbi kunye noqhaqhaqhoqo, ekulungele ukulungelelanisa iingxabano kunye nokuxabana. Uhlala ezama ukunyanzelisa abanye umbono.

♦ Ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza, kunye nokugwinya kwamagama ngamagama, kodwa ngokucacileyo nangokwemvakalelo. Iimfudu zikhawuleza, zibukhali, zinamandla.

♦ Ulwazi olulula kulula ukuyifumana, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukhohliwe yonke into. Iyakwazi ukuguqulela kwindawo engaziwayo.

♦ Ngaba unomdla wokudlala esidlangalaleni, ufuna ababukeli, abavela kulindeleke imvume. Ingqungquthela yabangane bakhe ibanzi, ngelixa edlala nabanye, kwaye ixoxa ngeengxaki kwabanye.

♦ Ucinga ukuba uluvo lwakhe kuphela yinyaniso. Akakwazi ukunyamezela, ulinde kwaye ubambe iimvakalelo zakhe.

♦ Ulala ebunzima.

♦ Naluphi na isohlwayo, uphendulwa ngokusondelana okanye ukuxhatshazwa.

Zakho izenzo:

♦ ukuhambisa amandla omntwana ngendlela elungileyo, uncede ukufumana umdlalo okanye umdlalo othakazelisayo;

♦ Musa ukugxininisa inkqubo yesantya yomntwana;

♦ Ezinye izinto ezihambayo nezisebenzayo kunye nokuzinza;

♦ ukuhanjiswa kweenkonzo;

♦ Chaza umntwana ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuzisa ityala ekupheleni;

♦ Musa ukumemeza, ungavumeli ukunyaniseka;

♦ Sebenzisa ulwimi olucacileyo kwizicelo zomntwana wakho;

♦ Musa ukuvusa ukuqubuka kwengcinezelo yengane nomsindo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ziphatha ngendlela efanelekileyo, uchaze ngokucacileyo umntwana ukuba uyancipha nje ukuziphatha kwakhe;

• qiniseka ukuba umntwana uyazi ukuba uluvo lwakhe lubaluleke kakhulu kuwe;

• Thatha umntwana kwimidlalo: ukubhukuda, i-tennis, i-athletics. Ngako oko amandla angenakuphikiswa kwe-choleric aya kubhekiswa ekuphuhliseni ngokomzimba, kunye nokugqithisa ngokweqile-ukufikelela kwimiphumo ephezulu yezemidlalo.

Umgaqo wakhe oyintloko "Ndiyakholwa wena, kwaye undixelele?" Umntwana wesondlo unobungane, uvuyo, kodwa kunyanzelekile kwaye unengqiqo.

♦ Unxibelelwano kunye nentetho yesondlo idla abantu abatsha kunye neendawo ezintsha, baqhelana kalula.

♦ Ukungabikho kokukhathazeka kwabantu besifo kuxhomekeke kwintlalontle yemvelo kunye nobuchule. Kuphakathi kwabantu balolu hlobo abaninzi abahambi kunye nabashenayo.

♦ Zithathwa yizinto ezintsha kunye ezingaziwa. Umntwana ulungele ukujongana nayo yonke into kanye, ngokungaqhelekanga ukuba angayithobeli umgangatho wokusebenza. Uhlala ephonsa ityala, engagqitywanga, kodwa, ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza uhambelana nolwazi.

♦ Umsebenzi kunye nokuthobeka kubonakala kubantwana kuphela xa bethanda abanye. Ziyizinto zendalo.

♦ I-child-sanguine idibanisa ngokulula, ikwazi ukufumana ukusilela lula. Ngaphandle kweengxaki, ujoyina nayiphi na iqela kwaye uguqulela kwindawo engavamile. Intetho yesondlo ibonisa ngokucacileyo, ehambelanayo, echanekileyo.

♦ Ulale ubuthongo ngaphandle kokubambisana kunye nokulala, njengoko besithi, ngaphandle kwemilenze.

♦ Ukuze ujeziswe, umntwana uyasabela ngokuzinzileyo, ngaphandle kobugwenxa obukhulu kunye nomkhwa wokuxabana.

Zakho izenzo:

• Into ephambili kukufundisa umntwana ukuba agcine izithembiso zakhe aze agcine ilizwi lakhe;

• Jonga indlela yokuziphatha kunye nezenzo zentsana, ungabi buvila ukumkhumbuza ishishini elingapheliyo;

• ukubeka iliso kwinkqubela yomsebenzi, qaphela umgangatho wabantwana nokuchaneka kwezenzo;

• Khangela umsebenzi womntwana;

• Ngomntwana wesondlo, umntu kufuneka alumke kakhulu kwaye ahlalutye ekudumiseni, xa kuthengiswa ngamanconywa, abantwana abanjalo bahlakulela ngokukhawuleza ukuzithethelela;

♦ Ungazami ukuba unzima kakhulu. Ngokukhethekileyo umgaqo woqhagamshelwano olulinganayo;

♦ Zama ukwenza ikhonkrithi kunye neenjongo eziqondakalayo zomntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho kufuneka ahlale ekhetha ukufumana iindlela zokusombulula imisebenzi eyabelwe yona;

♦ ngokunyanisekileyo ukhethe umdlalo kunye nokuthanda umntwana wakho - kwindawo yokuqala kufanele ukuba umdla kwaye uyamdla. Amacandelo alungileyo kumdlalo wezemidlalo kunye nezicatshulwa.

Umgaqo wakhe oyintloko "Ndiya kwenza konke, kungekudala! Abantwana be-Phlegmatic bahlukaniswa ngokuzinza nokuzinkani. Kukunzima ukumkholisa.

♦ Umntwana onjalo uhlala engaphazamiseki kwaye ezolile. Ukuba khona kwabanye abantwana kuye akuvumelekanga.

♦ Ngokuphathelele ukutya kunye nokutshintsha kwendawo yokuhlala, iintsana zibonisa i-conservatism. Bajwayele kakhulu ukuzisebenzisa ngokukhawuleza bazame izitsha ezintsha, bengeke balale kwindawo entsha. Ayikwazi ukulungelelanisa ne-kindergarten.

♦ Amazwi athetha kunye nezenzo. Kunzima ukungena kwiintlalo zentlalo. Khetha ngokukhethekileyo abahlobo bakho.

♦ Uvakalelo lwe-phlegmatic luzinzile, olusisigxina, kodwa. Ukukhathazeka, ukukhwela, umsindo, umona - zonke ezi mpawu zikhokelela abantwana ukuba badideke kwaye badideke kuphela.

♦ Unjalo umntwana ngokungahambisani nokukhawuleza, kodwa ukukhankanya ukukhumbula, ukunyamezela, ukunyamezela, ukunyamezela, kulungelelaniswa ukuzenza izinto ezizimeleyo kunye nezenzo ezizimeleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo esikolweni, la bantwana babizwa ngokuba yi-zubrilkami, bonke bahamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye bahamba kakuhle.

♦ Abantwana be-Phlegmatic abayizona nkokheli, abayithandi ukwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo. Ngelo xesha baxakeke kakhulu kwaye baqhubeka. Azingatshintshi izigqibo zabo, banenkani kakhulu.

♦ Abantu basePhlegmatic abazi ukuthi baxoke njani kwaye baqaphele, ngenxa yoko bafumana iimeko ezihlazo.

♦ Abantwana banobungane kwaye banokuthula, zama ukungena kwiimeko zokungqubana kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, uhoxise kulwe. Abafuni ukuphikisana neengxoxo.

♦ Kucinga ukuba uqale ubale yonke ihamba kunye nokuphuma. Iziganeko ezizayo zilungiselelwe ixesha elide, ukulungelelanisa kwisenzo kunye nokuhlaziya yonke into emva kwexesha. Wonke umntu ukwenza ngomzuzu wokugqibela, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuba oku kuvela ngandlela-thile.

♦ Ingxoxo yomntwana we-phlegmatic ayiyixhala, ithule, ingenasenzo kunye nesimo sombuso. Kwintetho, akalisebenzisi ngokuphindaphindiweyo ama-epithets, amazwi akhe alula kwaye aphindaphindiwe. UKrosha uyalala ngokukhawuleza aze aphele, kodwa akavuki ngokukhawuleza. Ukuze abuyele, udinga ixesha, ngelixesha apho angenelisekile.

Zakho izenzo:

• Ngexesha elifanayo musa ukuvumela ukuba i-crumb ihlehlise ishishini emva koko, imfundise ukusebenzisa ixesha lakhe ngokufanelekileyo;

• ungayifaki phambi kweenjongo zempilo kunye nemisebenzi efuna isivinini kunye nesantya, musa ukumphoqa ukuba aphumelele ukuncintisana nabantwana abakhutheleyo okanye abadala;

• Ungalokothi utyumle imivumba (ngokukodwa kuluntu) ngokulumkisa ngokugqithiseleyo okanye ngokukhawuleza;

• Khuthaza umdla womntwana kunoma yimaphi imidlalo ephathekayo, imisebenzi yomzimba kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, ngokuqhelekileyo umdumise;

• Musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ixesha elide, umcele ukuba athathe ikhefu okanye utshintshe ulwalathiso lweeklasi zakhe ngezikhathi ezithile:

♦ Ukuqhelisa umntwana ukuba enze izigqibo ezizimeleyo, gcina eli lizwi uze uthathe isinyathelo kuqala ezandleni zakhe;

♦ uzame ukufaka emntwini wakho izakhono zonxibelelwano kwiqela - tyelela iikhosi zophuhliso, i-kindergarten, uhlala uhamba kwindawo yokudlala;

Umgaqo wakhe oyintloko kukuba "andiyiyoyiyo, kuba ndidabukile!" Iintloni, iintloni zizinto eziphambili zomntu.

♦ Ukususela ebuntwaneni, oku kubonakaliswa ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu ezinjengezinyembezi, uthando, ukwesaba. Kwixesha elizayo, zongezwa iintloni, inzondo, ukukhuseleka.

♦ Ngenxa yokungazinzi okukhulu kwenkqubo ye-nervous, umntwana uyasiphazamisa kwaye ahluthe into encinci.

♦ Ngeentlanzi, kufuneka ube mnene, uhlale uphawule, uqaphele, ulawule amazwi kunye nezenzo zakho. Iinyembezi kubantwana abanjalo - imbopheleleko enyanzelekileyo, zihamba kunye naziphi na izikhalazo zabo. Uluhlu lweemava - ukusuka kwi-hysteria ukuya kungabikho nto.

♦ La bantwana bavelisa iimpawu zesimo sengqondo, ezibonakaliswa ekuphenduleni, imfesane, ukuvakalelwa. Abantwana basengozini, banyamezela nantoni na ixesha elide.

♦ Ezi ziyi-cowards zangempela, ziyesaba yonke into. Abahlali kunye noqhelwano olunzima kwiqela elitsha. Azikho iinkokeli, zivame ukuvalelwa ngokwabo.

♦ Isijeziso sibonwa njengentlekele. Nangona kunjalo, kwinto enokubangela ukungalingani kwimoya yabo. I-little melancholic iyakhathazeka kakhulu kuzo zonke iinguqulelo. Kwizinto ezintsha, ngokukodwa ezingekho phantsi kweemeko ezilahlekileyo, zilahlekile, zizama ukuya emthunzini.

♦ Xa kwenzeka iingxabano, amandla akhe engqondweni nangokwenyama ayancitshiswe ngokukhawuleza, yena, ngokungafunekiyo, uqala ukuthobela amandla akhe emvelo. Ukukhumbula ulwazi olutsha lwe-melancholic lunikezelwa ubunzima. Ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwengqwalasela, inkunzi ihlala iphazamisekile ngezinto ezingaphandle kwaye ayikwazi ukugxila kwi shishini. Abantwana abancibilikisayo badinwa nayiphi na imisebenzi-nokuba ingaba idlala, ifunda okanye imfundo yomzimba. Kungenxa yokukhathala abadla ngokutshintsha imizwa yabo. Yonke iveki ekhangele phambili ukuya e-zoo, kodwa edinwe ngexesha lokuhamba, i-melancholy ingaba yinto enqabileyo kwaye yashiye ngokupheleleyo ukuhamba.

♦ Intetho e-melancholic iyathula, ikhuselekile, kodwa ifundela kwaye icebile.

♦ Zonke iintshukumo nezenzo zizinzileyo kwaye zincinci, njengokungathi ityala.

♦ Kunzima ukulala, kwaye uvuke ubunzima.

♦ Naphezu kwalo mlingiswa, abantwana be-melancholy bahlala enye yezinto ezizimeleyo kunye nokuqonda. Bayakwazi ukuphulaphula enye yeengxaki zakho, kodwa baya kubonisa uvelwano lokwenene. Bakha ukunambitheka okumangalisayo kunye nokuva kakuhle. Kule ndawo, ubugcisa bobugcisa buya kukhula ngokuqinisekileyo.

Zakho izenzo:

• Into ephambili kwimfundo yabantwana abancibilikiyo ayiyikunyusa ukunyamezela kwabo. Xa uthetha kwintsana, ungasebenzisi amagama anesibindi nehlazo. Ungalokothi ukhwankqise umntwana onjalo uze ungabi memezo, indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kunye neziphakamiso eziphakamileyo zinokuyidlulisela into yokuba "ingqungquthela" okanye iqhube iimeko ezixinzeleleyo kuye;

• Indlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana iya kubonakaliswa rhoqo uthando lwakho, ukunyamekela nokunyamezela, induduzo yasekhaya kunye nokufudumala;

• Musa ukukhupha amagama athando kunye nobumnene, udumise kwaye ukhuthaze ngisho nempumelelo encinci;

• Zama ukuchazela umntwana rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ihlabathi aliyonto yonke imvi, njengoko kubonakala kuye. Masibe nesizathu sokuhleka, musa ukugxininisa kwiimeko ezibuhlungu kunye nezibuhlungu;

• Musa ukubiza umntwana wakho nge-crybaby okanye i-whiner. Musa ukumgxeka phambi kobanye abantwana okanye abadala;

• Khuthaza nayiphi na inkcazo yokuzithemba, isenzo esisebenzayo kunye nokuzama ukwenza izigqibo. Nika iinkonzo ezilula, ezilula ngokuphumelelayo;

• xa ukhetha iiprogram zoqeqesho, ukhokelwa ngamakhono aphakamileyo eengqondo;

• Umntwana akakwazi ukuba ngumdlali, ngoko nayiphi na imisebenzi ayifanele ibe ngumthwalo. Izifundo ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kumculo okanye kwisikolo sobugcisa.