Ngaba ucinga malunga nento eya kunika umntwana wakho? Nguwuphi ozokhetha isipho, ukuze umntwana anelisekile? Siyakunceda ukhulume malunga nendlela yokukhetha izipho ezifanelekileyo kubantwana. Ngoko ukuba umntwana unelisekile, ukwenzela ukuba isipho asikhathazi ngokuzayo, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba luncedo ekuphuhlisweni kwayo.
Izipho kubantwana.
Iholide yomntwana injengeenganekwane, ngokukodwa ukuba ngumnyaka omtsha okanye iKrismesi. Ukhangele phambili kulolu suku, kuba yonke into ejikelezayo iyashintsha ngokuphawulekayo. Kwizitrato, izigulane kunye nezibane zikhanya, zonke ezijikelezayo zigqamile kwaye zimibalabala. Yonke into ihlotshiswe ngamathoyizi kunye nezinye izinto zokuhlobisa. Kulo gumbi kukho ivumba elimnandi lokutshabalalisa ngokugqithisa, indlu igcwele zonke izinto. Kujikeleze yonke imilingo, yonke into ibonakala ihle kakhulu kwaye ingavamile kakhulu.
Kodwa kubantwana abaninzi, elilinde ixesha elide ngumthi weKrisimesi. Inomdla kakhulu kubo bonke abantwana, abantwana banomdla kakhulu wokubukela abantwana bexubisa umthi ohlaza. Abantwana ngendlela ekhethekileyo yokubukela umthi, bajonga ukusuka phezulu kunye ukuya kwi-spruce ehlotshisiwe. Umthi weKrismesi uthathwa njengento engokomoya kubantwana. Kubonakala kubo kuba uhlobo oluthile lokuphila olukwazi ukuthetha nokuhamba. Abantwana balindele ukuba uNyaka omtsha ungabikho nanye, kubo, isi-spruce sinxulumene nesihloko phantsi koMnikelo oNyaka omtsha ogcinwa ngawo. Nangona umntwana wakho engakholwa kwiSanta Claus, uhlala ekholelwa kwimimangaliso yonyaka omtsha. Nangona umntwana uyazi zonke izenzo zakhe ezimbi nezenzo zakhe, uyazi kwaye ukholelwa kuMlingo Wonyaka Omtsha, kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kufumana isipho sakhe esilindelwe ixesha elide. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uloko uqaphela ukuba abantwana bayazicwangcisa ngokweenkonzo ngaphambi kweNyaka entsha. Ngamanye amaxesha babhala i-Santa Claus, umntu ubhala nje iileta, aze azifihle phantsi komqulo, kwaye umntu uzinika abazali babo okanye abafihle phantsi komthi.
Ukuba umntwana uye wayala isipho, ke le isipho esibaluleke kakhulu kuye, kwaye uzama ukungacasuli umntwana, kuba ngale ndlela uza kumnciphisa ummangaliso osindelwe ixesha elide. Nangona abazali abayithandi ngempela lesi sipho, zama ukuyifumana kwaye uyinike umntwana wakho, kuba uyayifuna. Mhlawumbi, esi sipho siyimfuneko kakhulu kumntwana, ukwenzela ukuba sikhulise imeko yayo phakathi koontanga. Kodwa isipho esinjalo asiyi kulibala ixesha elide, nangona kubaluleke kakhulu kuye ngoku.
Izipho ezifanelekileyo zihlukeneyo. Unokunika umntwana into ebalulekileyo. Umqathango obaluleke kakhulu ekukhetheni isipho kumntwana kuyimfuno yakhe. Kodwa oku kuphela kubazali, oku akusebenzi kubantwana. Ukuze umntwana abe nesithakazelo kwisipho osikhethile, sidibanise kwisipho esisisiseko esiyalele ngaphambili.
Iingxelo ezifanelekileyo.
Esinye sezipho eziwusizo ziincwadana. Ingakumbi luncedo yincwadi enemixholo yabantu. Umntwana ngamnye uya kuluqonda le ncwadi, kwaye uya kuphendula ngokuthe tye. Ininzi yabo bonke abantwana bayayithanda xa abazali befunda le ncwadi. Iingxelo zefeyto zichaphazela ngokupheleleyo uphuhliso lwabantwana. Zinegalelo ekuphuhliseni ukucinga, ukucinga, inkumbulo kunye nezinye iinkqubo zokuqonda. Iingoma zabantu ziza kuvumela umntwana ukuba aqonde into elungileyo nento engendawo. Yintoni enokuyenza kwaye ayikwazi ukuyenza. Iingxelo zefestile zizama abantwana ukuba bavavanye naziphi na iimeko zengxaki, ukujonga imeko kule ngcamango yokuziphatha.
Xa umntwana efunda ngakumbi iindaba ze-fate, ngakumbi ufunda ukucinga. Ngenxa yokuba abantwana banengcamango ecebileyo, kwaye bafunda iindaba zeenkcukacha, bacinga bonke abalinganiswa, amaqhawe, zonke iziganeko ezenzekayo. Kanye kunye namaqhawe eenganekwane, umntwana ohlangabezana nazo zonke iimeko kunye neengxaki, kunye nabo uthatha inxaxheba kwiintlanga.
Iimidlalo zokufundisa zomntwana.
Isipho esihle kakhulu, mhlawumbi, sinokuba ithoyiji elithambileyo, equkethe imibala eyahlukeneyo. Emva koko, abantwana kufuneka bahlale bechukumisa into ethile, ichaphazela yonke into ephakathi kwayo, kwaye ngoko iyazi umhlaba. Eyona nto ibonakalayo kwimidlalo yengane evela kwiindawo ezinobunzima, ukusuka kwi-soft or slippery. Baza kukuvumela ukuba ube novelwano kumntwana. Idayi kufuneka iphephile. Unokwenza umdlalo ngokwakho, ekhaya, usebenzisa iingubo ezahlukeneyo zengubo. Ukuba abantwana bakho bebekhulile, ngoko unako ukubanika i-mosaic okanye iphazili. Iimidlalo ezinjalo zihlakulela ngokugqibeleleyo ukucinga. Unokunika umyili. Iimidlalo ezinjalo zinceda kakhulu kumntwana. Unokunika umntwana wakho iiglavu zebhokisi, akukho nto unokukhathazeka ngayo. Emva kwakho konke, ngoncedo lwabo, kunye nephepha lebhokisi, umntwana unokuphelisa ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo ezimbi, ulaka kunye nomsindo. Kodwa jongela ipeyari kwindawo ukuze ingaphazamise nabani na omnye, kodwa umntwana wayehlala ekhona.
Abazali emdlalweni.
Ukuba wanika umntwana isipho, yidlale nayo ngetekisi okanye kulo mdlalo. Ungalungiselela imincintiswano, yeyiphi na oya kuza kunye nemifanekiso emininzi, okanye ngubani oza kuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Ukuzinikezela kumntwana, ukuba wayeva uvuyo ekunqobeni kwakho. Emva koko, abantwana banomdla wokuncintisana nokuphumelela. Izibonelelo zabantwana izipho zihluke kakhulu. Udinga ukwabela usuku ukufumana isipho esifanelekileyo, kwaye uqwalasele izinto ezithandayo kunye neminqweno yomntwana, xa uthenga isipho.