Kwaye asikhuselekanga kwintlanano ephikisanayo, eyinkimbinkimbi kunye nobunzima? Ubudlelwane phakathi kwezihlobo eziseduze yimibuzo ebalulekileyo yosuku namhlanje.
Zinyani nje
Hayi, kodwa, ngaphandle koko, ngokucacileyo, ayiyi kusebenza - ngokuqinisekileyo siyazibandakanya kulo mbambano ooyise nabantwana, umalokazana noninazala ... Kodwa njani? Ukuba sinenkxalabo enkulu malunga neengqungquthela zamaqhawe kwimibukiso yamabonwakude, ngoko umtshakazi wonyana unomxholo ongapheliyo wamava angapheliyo, iinyembezi, iziprofeto kunye neengxabano. Izibalo zibuhlungu: engaphezulu kwama-60% yemitshato iyahlukana ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba koomamazala, umama-mkhwenkwe, wakhiwa kwaye uyathemba, kodwa ke, oomama bakhokelayo. Unina womyeni kunye nonina lomtshakazi, oko kukuthi, umkhwekazi noninazala. Bafaka iipesenti phakathi kwegazi labo kwaye "oku" okanye "oku", abavela ngaphandle bephethe i-charter ehlukeneyo kwi-"monastery" yabo ethule.
Ubulumko bamadoda amakhulu
Kukho iintsapho ezonwabileyo apho izalamane zabatshatileyo, nangona zingathandi kakhulu "intombi" okanye "unyana" ozukileyo, ziyahlonishwa kwaye ziqwalaselwe ngoluvo lwabo. Ngokomgaqo, oku kukwanele, kodwa njani ukuza kuleso silingano? Soloko silindele ubulumko nobulungisa kulabo abadala. Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile: kwezo ntsapho apho umama-mkhwenkwe ozayo akazange angene ubuhlobo bomntwana kunye nesini esahlukileyo ukususela ekuqaleni, kodwa aphandle umgaqo-nkqubo wokubonwa obuqilima, akukho nto ingabonakaliyo, iingxabano ezimbi kunye neengxabano emva koko. Kwaye kungekhona nje kuphela kuba oomama abanobuchule kunye nasemva komtshato wabantwana babo "bahlala bengenandaba" babo kubomi babo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba baqondisa izenzo zabo zomntwana ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ndithandana, umzekelo, ngunyana entombazana engafanelanga abazali bakhe kwiziphi na izikhundla. Kwaye uthini umama othungayo? Awuqali umzabalazo ovulekileyo - kulo mzekelo akuyona into engenamsebenzi, kodwa inobungozi: umoya ovukelayo uya kuvuswa ngunyana, uya kwenza konke okuphambene neminqweno nokuthanda kwabazali, kwaye imeko iya kuphuma ekulawuleni kwabo. Umzali okhangele phambili, ngaphezu kwakho konke, uzama ukuthetha ngokuthula kunye nendodana yakhe kwaye afune izicwangciso zakhe. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanelekileyo uchaze ngokucacileyo imbono yakho kwimeko. Kukho iindlela ezimbini kuphela zokuphuhlisa iziganeko ezongezelelweyo: mhlawumbi unyana uya kubelana ngeenkolelo zonina, okanye akayi kuvuma. Kwaye ke kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba akunakunceda ukuqhubeka nokulwa, kuya kufuneka sibale ngokukhetha kwakhe kunye nesiqingatha sakhe sesibini. Ufuna ulonwabo kumntwana wakho?
Uxolo
Kodwa apha uhambo lukaMendelssohn luye lwadlalwa, kwaye iintsuku zeveki ezinzima zafika. Ngomama wabantwana abadala, i-metamorphoses iqala ukuvela: ukuba ngaphambi kokuba baphuphe ukuba umtshato womntwana wabo uyonwabile kwaye ubude, emva kokubhalisa kwi-ofisi ye-registry, i-70% yomama-mkhwenkwe iqala ukuthembela ekupheleni kweli nyunyana. Ngokuqhelekileyo akusiyo umbuzo wokunika "umntwana" wakho okhulayo kunye nowatshatileyo ithuba lokuzicwangcisa iinjongo zakho. Ewe, usencinci kwaye uthembele! Intsapho kunye neengxabano zingakhokelela kakhulu. Kwaye umfazi osemtsha kufuneka acinge ngendlela engafanelekanga ngayo loo nto kwiimeko zokungaziqondi, oko kukuthi, ngaphambi komtshato. Ukwenza oku, sifuna ukufumanisa ukuba, ngokwenene, ukhokela umkhwekazi, kwaye usebenzise amaqhinga afanelekileyo.
Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeentlobo
Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe okanye umama-mkhwenkwe ungumlawuli wecawa kwaye uyicinga ukuba umsebenzi wakhe ukugcina nokuhlalutya yonke imizuzu yobomi bentsapho yomntwana wakhe, kungcono ukuseka ngokukhawuleza imida yobudlelwane, okwenza kucace ukuba ukungenelela okunjalo akukufanelanga. Ekuqaleni, ulwalamano lunokuba lubi kakhulu, kodwa emva koko baya kwamkela inqanaba kwaye bathuthuzele kuwe. Ukuba umama wakho umyeni akayinyamekeli yimizuzu emfutshane ngento eyigugu kwaye yonke indawo ibeka impumlo, zama ukukhubekiswa. Mthabathe ngqalelo. Ngethamsanqa, umama onjalo ulula ukwenza umthamo, uthandana nokuthoba kwaye uyamkela ukuqinisekiswa kothando kunye nokubaluleka kwixabiso lomntu. Kukho enye indlela: unina usoloko ekhononda ngokungabikho kokunyamekela kwakho, uhlala ephazamisa into ethile, kwaye "i-ambulensi" isebenza emnyango wakhe. Le yinto yokumangalisa imiqobo kwaye ulahlekile xa unokukhawuleza. Ngaloo "mama" unjalo kufuneka uziphatha ngokuthe ngqo. Njengomntwana. Ngaphandle koko, unako ukugalela ulwandle lwezinyembezi zakhe kwaye uphathise ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe, oqinisekileyo ukuba unina akanako ukuxoka. Kukho oomama-mkhwenkwe-abafana "nabahambahambayo" ebomini bomalokazana wabo. Bamba emagqabini abo kunye needereki, bakhulume iingxoxo zefoni baze bafunde ngokucophelela umbala wokungcola kwiidada zesitalato. Ukulwa nabo akunakwenzeka, baya kuba banolwazi ngakumbi kwaye banobungozi kwimanyano yenu yentsapho. Kunengqiqo kwifomu engalindelekanga ukuxelela lo myeni wakhe, mhlawumbi uyazi malunga neempawu zomama.
Yiba nomusa
Ewe, abafazi bomtshato, kunye nabathandekayo babo, nabo bafumana isiqhelo sonke seentsapho zabo, unokucebisa ukuba ugcinwe kwaye ube nomusa. Yiyeke lula, kunzima ukwenza. Kunzima ukuthanda unina womnye ongakuthandiyo. Kodwa nenja iyeka ukukhahlela emthini owawuthengisa umoya. Ngoku, u-swing, ngaphandle kokuva okanye ukuziva oko ungafuni ukuva okanye ukuziva. Gwema iingxoxo ezingathandekiyo, ungathethi amagama angonakalisa oko wakhayo ngothando olunjalo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungakanani ubudala, qinisa kwaye ulungele. Ukuba nomona kumyeni wakhe unomphela wokufa. Ngako oko, makamthande ngamandla akhe onke, aze ahlale eyedwa kwaye eyingqayizivele, ekhumbula ukuba ubusika i-cuckoo isoloko lusuku lwe-perekukuet. Gweba isimo sengqondo sakho "somama omtsha" kwaye ube kunye nabalingani bakhe, kulula ukwenza, akufuneki nje ukuba ungayibanga indawo yakhe engcwele ebomini bakhe, kodwa ungamvumeli kummandla wakho.