Ndiyithande intombazana, ndandifuna ukuthetha kunye nomoya osondeleyo-ngoko ke, uyazi ukuba uya kwenzeka. Abanye baqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba abayi kutshata kwiminyaka embalwa ezayo.
Ukuzihlonela intombazana engenzi iphosakelo ekukhetheni intlani, indlela yokufumana umntu olwalamano oluqinileyo kwaye ungayichitha ixesha? Okokuqala, sifuna ukuqokelela isimboli sengqondo somntu olungele ulwalamano olunzulu.
Ininzi, mhlawumbi iya kuba sele ikwazi ukuqonda, ukugqithisa umgca othile weminyaka, kunye nento ephumelele ebomini ngumfana oselula. Iphupha elincinci elincinci likwazi nje ukuba lingajongene nezobini. Indoda enomsebenzi ohlawulelwayo kakuhle, ikhaya elithile okanye ubuncinane indlu yokuhlala, isenokukwazi ukukhangela iqabane lobomi. Kwindoda, umtshato uyinyathelo elinoxanduva, ngoko de ukuva ukuba unyanzelekile kwiinyawo zakhe ade afike enkundleni, akayi kufuna ukuzikhupha inkululeko
Ngokwemvelo, kunokwenzeka ukuba, kufuneka abe nokuzola, ukuqiqa kunye nokuhlala ekhethayo. Umntu onomlutha omkhulu unokubonisa ukuthambekela kokungcatsha. Ngendlela, abantu abanokuthula nabathobekileyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuxhatshazwa kunye nobukrakra, baqinisa ubudlelwane obuqinileyo. Yithande ithambileyo, mhlawumbi abantu abanamahloni indlela elula yokuwina. Umntu onjalo oza kubonisa ububele kunye nokuzinikela kwakhe kwaye akayi kutshabalaliswa ekudlulelaneni nokuxhumana ngokungaqhelekanga.
Uphi na umfana ukufumana ishishini kunye nzulu? Kwiindawo zokutya, ii-bars kunye neendawo zokutyela oku kunzima ukuzifumana. Ukuba umntu uninzi kwaye atywala ngokuzonwabisa, ngokulula kwaye ngaphandle kokungabaza, uya kudanisa nabo bonke abantombazana ngokulandelelana - akuyena iqhawe leveli yakho. Kodwa ukuba indoda ibhekise kuye ixesha elide kwaye ithulile, ngaphambi kokusondela kwintombazana, ikhulumisana ngokuzithoba kwaye ingacingi ukuba umhlobo wakhe "ukhululekile", ngoko unako ukuthetha naye ngokuthe ngqo.
Umntu onzima kufuneka akhangelwe kwindawo enzulu. Unokumhlangabeza ngengozi kumboniso othile, kwiimyuziyam, kwisitorethi esikhulu seekhompyutheni, ukuwela naye emsebenzini. Kunokwenzeka, kodwa ayimfuneko. Efuna "ukudibanisa" imijelo yemigangatho kunye neelayibhrari - inkqubo ayiyikuthokoza.
Amantombazana athandayo azama ukufumana umntu nge-intanethi. Iingenelelo zala maqhinga ebusweni. Kwinkqubo yoqhagamshelwano lwenxibelelwano, unokufumana ulwazi malunga neminqweno, iimfuno kunye nezinto ezikhethwa ngumntu ngaphandle kokuhamba ekhaya. Ngeenkcukacha, ngefowuni, unokwenza umboniso wokuqala womntu, ngokusekelwe kwizitatimenti kunye nokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, unokukwazi ukuphelisa ukunxibelelana nomntu ongeyithandiyo kwaye wayebonakala egxeka. Inani elikhulu labaviwa liyakwandisa amathuba okuphumelela.
Enyanisweni, kukho imipu apha. Ziyinyamekele ekudumeni. KwiWebhu yeWebhu yehlabathi kuza inani elininzi labathandi bamantombazana abaqeqeshiweyo, balungele ukuguqula intloko yomfazi baze bamkhonze imali ehlekileyo. Bayazi kakuhle kakuhle oko abesifazana bafuna kwaye bangenza umvelelo wendoda ehloniphekileyo nengqiqo. Umntu oqhelekileyo akayi kukhawuleza ukutshata rhoqo.
Intombazana ekhangela umntu onxulumene nolwalamano olunzulu kufuneka kusebenze nzima. Kubalulekile ukujongana ngokucophelela kwi-knight nganye kwaye ungabandakanyeli ubudlelwane obungaxelwanga. Kukho inani leempawu ezibonisa ukuba umntu ukhangele kuphela ukuzonwabisa okungenziwanga. Masithi umfana ongenakulinganisela ubonakala kwaye uyanyamalala, uye wabeka umgomo ocacileyo ukunyenga intombazana, kwaye akafuni ukungena kwilizwe lakhe elingaphakathi, ngokukhawuleza uyabiza kwaye uthi uke wathatha itekiti kumdlalo wezemidlalo, kunye nokudlala ngeeyure ezimbini. Ezi zinto ezintle azikhokeli kwiingcamango ezintle.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba kungekuphela ukufunda kwiincwadi ezihlukeneyo, indlela yokufumana abafana ngobudlelwane obunzulu, kodwa nokucinga ngendlela intombazana enokubheka ngayo, enokutsala ingqalelo kwindoda efanelekileyo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, umntu onjalo ufuna intombazana engatshintshiyo ngokunikezela kwaye uyayazi.
Ukwazi ukuba uqobo lwakho akuthethi ukubonisa. Ngoku amaninzi amantombazana afundile oko kuthiwa "ukuzalana" kubafana izipho, iintyatyambo kunye neevenkile. Oku kukude kwindlela efanelekileyo yokufumana nokugcina ulonwabo ezandleni. Umfana olwalamano oluqinileyo uya kukhetha intombazana enhle, enomusa, ethandekayo. Iimpawu ezimnandi kunye neengqungquthela ezide zingakwazi ukuma.
Naluphi na umntu omangalisayo odibana naye, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kufuneka ube nokwalamano oluhlala. Ziinkwenkwezi ezithe ngqo zithe ngqo kwaye ziphuculise ubudlelwane. Ukulawula ngexesha lokuxhasa okanye ngokuphambene nokwenza ngathi into engazange iphawule, ukunyamezela, ukuyihlaziya nokukhuthaza ingcamango yokubaluleka kwayo - ubugcisa obupheleleyo kwaye kuya kufuneka kufezekiswe ubomi bam bonke.