Kakade unako. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ikhaya lakho likhulu indlu yelizwe, apho ungenakubona iiveki kunye nonina okanye umkhwekazi wakho. Okanye ukuba uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukuhlala kunye nentsapho ixesha elide kwaye uza kuba ngabanikazi bezindlu zakho kwiminyaka engama-1-2. Kule meko, iingcebiso zesizukulwana esidala aziyi kubonakala zingenakuchukumiseka, kwaye izimvo ziya kuqondwa ngokugqithiseleyo: "Ewe, kubonakala ngathi lixesha lokulungiselela uqeqesho lokuvala itompu - mhlawumbi siza kukhukula umnyango wonke!" Kwaye amabango kukho ifomu lokuzonwabisa: "Mama, musa ukupheka i-sausages ekuseni." Ukuvumba kwawo kugxininise kwiingubo: zonke iikati zesithili ziza kum. " Mhlawumbi uya kuthanda ukuhlala kunye kwaye, ukuhambahamba, uya kuba nokudabuka okuncane ... Ukuba kufuneka uhlale kwindawo encinci, kwaye amathuba okubaluleka komntu ngabanye alindeleke, ngoko ke ukulwa, nangona kwindlela elula kakhulu, akunakwenzeka. Ngenxa yokuba akunjalo malunga nokuba ngubani kunye nendlela yokulima okanye ukukhulisa abantwana. Ingundoqo yenkquzulwano "ababini bezilwanyana zasemhlabeni" nangona kunjalo kubonakala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwimida yobomi, eqinisweni, kunzulu kakhulu.
Unabantu abadala
Kwaye kunzima abantu abadala ukuba baphile ngesizukulwana esidlulileyo. Kwaye le sizathu sokuqala seengxabano. Emva koko, umntu omdala ngumnqweno wokuzimela, ukubonakaliswa kwamanyathelo kunye nokuqinisekiswa kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Kodwa abazali bahlala benomnqweno ongathandabuzekiyo: ngakwesinye icala, bafuna ukwenza umntwana ozimeleyo ukuba amkhulule ekubeni ngumntu omdala, kwaye ngenye indlela, bayaqhubeka bemnyamekela! Xa uhlala ngokwahlukileyo, unonophelo olunzulu olukuchaphazelayo. Xa ukudibana-ngumthwalo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uzive ukhulile xa uxelelwa njalo kusasa: "Hamba ngokucophelela, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba udla kushushu ngokuhlwa!"
Isizathu sesibini ukungabi nendawo. Ngexesha elifanayo, ngokukratshi, inani lamamitha ayi-square kunye namagumbi akubalulekanga kakhulu - ngoku malunga nesithuba somntu. Ngamnye kuthi, nangona ngezinye iinkhathi, kufuneka sihlale sodwa kunye nathi: ukucamngca ngombuzo othile obalulekileyo kuthi (singaphazanyiswa ngabanye), ukulala ngokulala ngentlungeni (singalindelanga umzuzu ngalunye uhlambalazo) okanye sisuka entliziyweni ukuhlabelela kwindawo yokuhlambela (ungabi neentloni ukungabikho kwezwi nokuva). Xa sinqatshelwe ithuba lokuziphatheka njengento ethandayo, kukho uvakalelo lwengcinezelo kunye nokuqina, uvakalelo oluqhubekayo: "Andikwazi ukuphumla umzuzu!" Ngenxa yoko - ukucaphukisa okwenyukayo kulabo abakukulahla eli thuba. Isizathu sesithathu ngumlinganiselo wobudala. Abantu bezizukulwana ezahlukeneyo banemikhwa eyahlukileyo kunye nemibono yobomi. Unokuthanda kakhulu ugogo okanye umama, kodwa umkhuba wabo wokuhlamba iimpahla ngesandla ("Ngoko umbala ugcinwe kangcono") kwaye ukuxhoma iingubo kuzo zonke izindlu zingenakulinganiswa. Yaye ukuba umsikazi wesibini okanye umama-mkhwenkwe-umfazi osemdala, unokuba ngumandla onzima. Uhlala umnika amandla kunye nemizwa yakho kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, uzive uphelile. Isizathu sesine yiengxaki zobuntwana. Ulwalamano lomzali phakathi komamazala kunye nentombi-mkhwekazi inzima kakhulu. Ukuba useneminyaka yobuncinane uye wafumana izikhalazo, iimvakalelo zokushiya, ukungabi nthando, ngoko oku kucinga kunokukuhlambalaza ubomi bakho bonke. Kubonakala ngathi xa usukhulile, kufuneka ubalekele yonke into, ngakumbi ukususela ngoku unokuqonda kakuhle iinjongo zezenzo zabazali bakho. Kucacile ukuba udade omncinci wayebuhlungu, kuba uMama wayishiya nayo yonke ihlobo e-sanatorium, akazange akushiye! Kodwa hayi. Iimvakalelo zobuntwana azihambi, kwaye xa zihlala kunye kunye-zikhona izibambano, izikhalazo zabantwana zenziwa ngokutsha ngamandla. Ngenxa yoko, ubomi phantsi kophahla olulodwa lunokunyanzela unina nentombi ukuba adibanise ixesha elide kunye neziganeko zedlulileyo kunye nokufumanisa ukuba ngubani oye wamcaphukisa lowo.
Uloyike uxinzelelo!
Kuze kube nini unokubekezelela ukukhathazeka kwengqondo? Oko akuzange kuqale ukuvela iingxaki zempilo - iminyaka emibini. Kukholelwa ukuba ngeli thuba umntu uya kuba nezixhobo ezinokwenene zokwenzela ukujamelana nokukhathazeka nokugcina ukuzithiba. Ukuhlala ngokubambisana kunokudala imiphumo emibi kwi-psyche. Kwaye iinguqu ezintle zikwazi ukuzibonakalisa kungekhona kwiindawo ezihlaziyiweyo okanye izihlazo zomsindo. Uhlala unciphisa umongo, ukulindela ngonaphakade "into embi" kunokubangela ukuphuhliswa, okubizwa ngokuba yi-syndrome yokufumana uncedo. Yilapho umntu eyeka ukucinga "ngendlela yokwenza ngcono," kodwa ngokukhawuleza, uxinezele ingxaki. Ukunganakwa okunjalo kunokubangela ukudandatheka. Ubundlobongela obuqhubekayo bubuhlungu kwaye buhlala emzimbeni: umva uqala ukulimaza, iintloko kunye nomoya wokulahlekelwa amandla.
Ukuba, ekhaya lakho, iimpikiswano zivulekileyo - ngokumemeza, ukunyanzeliswa kunye kunye nokutshitshisa izitya, ngoko ukhululekile ukukhululeka kwengcinezelo. Kodwa kwiminyaka embalwa kunokuba nomva wokukhathazeka okungenanto kwaye ukwesaba okanye iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuzilahla ...
Ewe, ukuba unokwabelana ngesithuba sokuhlala kunye nabazali kunye nendoda okanye iqabane eliqhelekileyo. Okokuqala, unenkxaso yemoya, ithuba lokuxoxa ngezinto zonke kwaye into ephambili kukuthetha! Okwesibini, indoda ayidla ngokukhawuleza ekubandakanyekeni kwekhaya kwaye ngoko ibe yinqaba yokuthula endlwini.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ukuziqhelanisa nombono: "Kukwesikhashana." Nangona kungekho zizathu ezicacileyo zethemba elinjalo. Akukho nto igxininisa njengengcamango yokuba imeko engathandekiyo iya kuhlala ngonaphakade. Ucinga ukuba oku kuya kuphelisa kamva okanye kamva, uya kukwazi ukubheka okwenzekayo emehlweni omntu ongaphandle, kwaye ungabi nzima.
"Ndifuna ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa akunakwenzeka" - ukugxotha ezi ngcamango ezingalunganga. Kwaye iinjongo ezilungileyo xa ungakuchaza umnqweno wakho ngeenkcukacha kwaye udla ucinga ngako. Kwaye akusiyo ukuba xa ungena kwilizwe lefantasti, ugwema ukunganyaniseki. Iingcali zengqondo zithi yonke into esiyifunayo iyinyani.
Jonga amadoda kwaye ufunde kuwo. Yintoni eyenzekayo xa wena nonyoko (umama-mkhwekazi) unyathelo kwi-warpath ngenxa yezinto ezingenakulungiswa ezifakwe kwikhefu? Le ndoda, njengomthetho, iyanyamalala ngokungabonakaliyo, ithatha indawo kwiTV. Yaye ukuba ucela ubukho bakhe, uya kuphulaphula njengoko ecinga ngokufudumala kwehlabathi. Le ndlela yokuziphatha (ukushiya imeko) iya kukunceda ugcine iingxaki zakho. Kwaye unina (uninazala) awuyi kubonakalisa nantoni na.
Ukuba ekhayeni lakho uhlala udibana kunye nokuhlambalaza, indlela engcono yokulwa nayo ayiyikukubona. Khawucinge ukuba umthombo wobubi ungemva kweglasi, kwaye unokucinga ngokutshintsha umbala nokuxininisa kweli glasi. I-Potolche - ukuba intetho iya kuba yintlupheko engenangqiqo, yincinci - xa ubona ukuba umnxibelelwano ulungele inkhulumiswano eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa uva iimangalo, ingilazi epholileyo ingena phakathi kwakho. Kwaye emva kwakhe kukhwelisa umntu odakeni, ukukrokra, ukugubungula izandla - kakhulu kubonwa ...
Kwakhona kunyanzelekile ukuba ugxothe ulwaphulo lomntu. Kuphela ngeendlela ezingalimazi nabani na. Eyona nto elula kakhulu iyasebenza, nayiphi na imisebenzi yomzimba. Ehloniphekileyo - yoga, iiklasi kumaziko okufaneleka. Kukho imidlalo yekhompyutheni apho ufuna ukufumana abahlali kwaye ulondoloze uluntu kubo.
Bhalisa amabango ngamanani amancinci. Kungcono ukwenza amazwana amancinci rhoqo: abantu basabela kubo ngokuzeleyo kwaye musa ukukhubeka. Ukuba uhlala uthule ixesha elide, kukho ukuhlazeka okukhulu - emva kokuba uxinzelelo oluqokelelweyo luya kufuna i-out out.
Musa ukulwa nelungelo lokugqoka isihloko esithi "ummamkeli omhle." Akuyi kunika nayiphi na inzuzo evela kumalokazanazana. Kodwa ilungelo lenqila lakho likhusela uninazala! Kufuneka ube nekona lakho, apho kuphela izinto zakho, apho unokuyonwabela imizuzu emininzi yoxolo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo unako ukuzama ukuzinqabisa, uzama ukungayithobeli ingcikivo kunye nokuhlambalaza, ukuzenza ukuba awukhathaleli umntu ocacileyo okhuphayo. Kodwa wonke umntu, nokuba ngumonde wesibindi, ngamanye amaxesha uya kufika kumda, kwaye ukuba unomuva wokuba uphume, zama ukusebenzisa iindlela ezilula ukukhupha ukuxhatshazwa. Banceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo.
1. Ngezinye iimeko zokuxinezeleka, iinxalenye zomzimba - intamo, amahlombe, isisu, isisu - zihlala zizinzima. Fumana emzimbeni wakho kwindawo ovakalelwa ngayo. Vala amehlo akho, gxininisa kule ndawo, ngokugqithiseleyo ungayinzela imizuzwana engu-3-4, uze ukhulule. Uya kuziva ukuba uxinzelelo luya.
2. Hlala emva, hlala phantsi, vala amehlo akho, ucinge ngomlobo phambi kwakho. Kancinci uthathe umoya ophefumlelweyo kwaye ... faka iphezulu kakhulu ebomvu. Kwaye ekuphumeni kwemimoya - yishiye njenge-slide.
U vavanyo:
Uziva njani ekhaya?
1. Xa iveki okanye iiholide zisondela, ucinga ukuba uza kuthabathela ekhaya kule mihla.
2. Uyacaphuka xa uva ingxoxo ekamelweni elilandelayo, izandi zeTV okanye isandi samanzi.
Z. Awuzilungele ukutya etafileni enye, kwaye uzama ukuphepha ukutya kunye nabanye oonxibelelwano.
4. Kukho iintlobo, apho isimo sengqondo siphela khona.
5. Ujongene nelokuba izicelo zakho kunye nezifiso malunga nobomi bemihla ngemihla zinyanzelwanga.
6. Unxibelelwano lwakho luyintlanzi (iziphakamiso zomlomo, izikhalazo, ukuhleka usulu).
7. Ukubuyela ekhaya, ucinga ukuba "Kuya kuba kuhle ukuba yena (a) awayekho ekhaya."
8. Uziva ulunge xa usuka ekhaya (emsebenzini, kubahlobo, esitolo, kwi cafe).
9. Awufuni ukumema abahlobo kunye nabaziwayo.
10. Unesivakalelo sokuthi uphosakele.
Iimpendulo ezahlukeneyo:
"Hayi, oku akukwenzekayo" - Iphuzu eli-1 "Oku kwenzeka okungafanekiyo" - 2 amanqaku "Ayenzeka, kwaye kaninzi" - 3 amanqaku "Kwenzeka njalo ixesha" - 4 amanqaku
Ukuqulunqa:
Ufumene amanqaku angama-10: ngokuhlala kunye kunye noninazala, ubona i-pluses kuphela, kwaye kule ... ingxaki. Ithetha nge-infantilism yakho. Ulindele ibhunga labadala kuyo yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba yonke into ikulungeleyo, ngaba kufanelekile ukutshintsha into?
Ufumene amanqaku angama-10 ukuya kuma-20: ufumana ubunzima bokuphila kwansuku zonke: abantu abahlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo baqala ukuva iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo. Kubalulekile ukuba akukho nto ayithandayo. Kubonakala ngathi intsapho ibhetele ngendlela ehlekisayo - xabisa! Ufumene amanqaku angama-20 ukuya kuma-30: Ukunyamezela kukuphezulu. Ukuba uhlala kunye nentsapho yendoda yakho, oku kuqhelekileyo, kwaye ukuba ngabazali bakho, zichaze ngokucacileyo kwizicelo zakho: "Ungangena ekamelweni lam xa ndiphumla, kwaye vumela ingubo yam ingxande apha." Ngokukhawuleza? Ngamanye amaxesha ubunzima bezonxibelelwano basombulula kuphela ngale ndlela.
Ufumana amanqaku angama-30 ukuya kuma-40: ufumana uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo. Musa ukuzama ukwenza ulwalamano olungcono. Gcina unxibelelwano kumncinci: "Ekuseni." Phila ngoxolo njengabamelwane. I-Paradox: kule meko, ubudlelwane phakathi komkhwekazi nomalokazana banokufudumala.