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efanelekileyo yentsapho?
Ekugqibeleni, wanquma ukuzala umntwana wesibini - ingcamango enkulu! Kodwa, ke, musa ukuthembela kwi-idyll ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuze singadangali, masilungele ezinye iingxaki ngaphambili. Asiyi kuthetha ngezinto eziphathekayo kunye nezinto zansuku zonke, zihlala zithathwa kwi-akhawunti yokuqala yazo zonke izinto: ukutya, ukuhlala phi, ukufumana phi ixesha lokukhulisa abantwana ababini kunye nemicimbi yekhaya ... Nangona kunjalo, kukho enye enye, engabonakaliyo, kodwa engabalulekanga Ingxaki yimeko yengqondo yomntwana omdala. Khawucinge nje ngolu hlobo: wayehlala ngoxolo, ethandazelwe ngumntu wonke, eyingqayizivele kwaye engenakwenzeka, kwaye nasi "isipho" kuwe! Uyakhala, akaniki ubuthongo, wonke umntu ohamba naye, abaqapheli, kwaye bafuna ukumnyanzela! Ungayidlala nayo, kakuhle, ngubani na omele adlale apha? Yaye xa eguqukela kumntu oqhelekileyo! Bafunga kwakhona, bathi ndiyingozi. Ewe, akukho mntu uyandithandayo, akukho mntu uyaqonda ... iingcamango neemvakalelo kunye nomntu omdala ngaphambi kokuba uxinzelelo lulethe, ngoko yintoni na umntu omncinci?
Njani ukuba? Musa ukuzala ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuze ungalimazi umntwana wakho? Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku akunjalo. Masizame ukujikeleza onke ama-angles abukhali ngaphambili.
Awudingi ukulinda inyanga yesithoba (okanye, ngakumbi, ukuzalwa kwintsana) ukuba "nceda" umntwana omdala. "Umntu kwiminyaka emibini, ezisixhenxe, anamashumi amabini anesixhenxe (khumbula indlela umyeni wakho asabele ngayo kwiindaba zokukhulelwa kwakho) Kuthatha ixesha ukuqonda kwaye uyamkele le nyaniso. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuqala ukulungiselela umntwana ukucinga ngokuzalisa intsapho kwangaphambili - ngoko umbuzo wesisu okhulayo uya kutshabalala ngokwawo.
Xoxa!
Akunabo bonke abantwana abavuyayo ngalo myalezo, ngoko ngegama, kwaye ngandlela-thile, ukuvusa isisa kumntwana. Masizibethe i-tummy yakho, uvale ukugubha (sibone, intsana ikuthumela imibuliso!), Funda ndawonye "isisu" seenganekwane, kucula iingoma, njl njl. Yiyo ke, ungalibali ukubandakanya nomntu omdala kwaye "ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba" omncinci, ngaphandle kokubandakanya ngqalelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana ufuna, ngokuqinisekileyo, okanye ubuncinane uyavuma kuphela udade (okanye kuphela kumzalwana) kwaye akafuni ukuvuma ngokuphathelele umntwana wesini esahlukileyo! Kule meko, unokuzama iindlela ezimbini zeengxoxo.
Inketho yenombolo 1 . "Sasingazi ukuba ngubani oza kuzalelwa, kodwa waphuma. Ubawo kwaye ndiyakuthanda kakhulu, kodwa ukuba uyintombazana, ngoko asiyi kukuthanda. "
Mhlawumbi ucwangcise umntwana wesini esahlukileyo, unganqikazi ukuxelela umntwana ngale nto. Qiniseka ukuba ugxininisa ukuba uyamthanda ngendlela ayenayo!
Inketho yenombolo 2 . "Unayo intombi, uMasha. Ngaba uyamthanda? Uthanda ukudlala nayo. Kwaye udade uya kuba njalo, ngaba kubi? "
Ukuba awuqhelelwanga ngokusuka kwintsana yakho ekuzalweni, okokuba umama oguqula omnye umntwana unokuba ngumothuko.
Oku kunokuphetshwa njani?
1. Ede ngaphambi kokufika komntwana wesibini, ngokukhawuleza ufunde umntwana ukuba axubushe nabanye abantu ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba.
2. Ukuba uceba ukumnika umdala kwi-kindergarten, yenza okungenani iiveki ezimbalwa, kwaye mhlawumbi inyanga ngaphambi kokuzalwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana angabandakanyeli ukunciphisa ixesha elichithwe kunye nomama ngokuzalwa komncinci! Isidingo sokutyelela i-kindergarten, unokuqonda, njengomnqweno wokuwususa! Ngoko mnike ixesha lokufunda, thanda iqela.
3. Ukuba umntwana omdala uhlala elala nawe, kwaye ngoku uya kuhamba naye kwelinye igumbi, cwangcisa "ukuhamba" kwangaphambili, kuba uya kufuneka anikezele indawo eduze kwabazali bakhe abathandekayo "kumfokazi"! Gxi ninisa ukuba ngoku umdala uya kuba nekamelo lakhe. Masiza kuthatha inxaxheba ekulungiseni, qwalasela iinqwenela zayo kwifowuni yokukhetha, iphepha-udonga.
Ukuba uthe wabuyela emva kokutshintsha kwamagumbi kwaye umntwana usuvele ubonakala, unako ukuzalisa okwesikhashana uyise kunye nomntwana omdala. Emva koko uqala ukutshintsha ukutshintsha imeko, kwaye emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa uya kufunda ukulala yodwa. Ukuthotyelwa kunye nokungahambisani nalo mbandela ngokucacileyo akuyi kuba yingozi.
Kukho indlela yokuphuma.
Xa encinci ivele ivele, kukho ingxaki entsha: ukusetyenziswa kwempahla yomdala (isikhalazo, ukulala, iitys, iincwadi, njl.). Vumelana, kuwubuqili ukuthenga ingubo entsha nge-crumb, ukuba umdala kunabo bonke okhulile. Kwaye kutheni umntwana oseneminyaka emine ebhaqa? Kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile, umyalezo oza kubelana nomncinci, ubangela isiphepho sengqondo kunye nesikhalo. Abanye abazali abayithobeli loo nto ("Will perebesitsya!") Okunye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuze bangacasuli umntwana, bathenga yonke into entsha ("Abantwana kufuneka babe nezinto zabo, abanako ukususwa!"). Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali banyanzelekile ukuba baqwalasele iimfuno zomntwana. Kodwa yilapha kuphela i-litter indlu, nayo, ngandlela-thile ayifuni. Kwaye, ngokunyanisekileyo, akusibizi nonke ... Ngoko kwakhona sibonisa ubuqili kunye nobuchule. Siza ngeendlela ezininzi ukuze singaphindeli.
Inketho yenombolo 1 . Ngamanye amaxesha unako ukuthi: "Usube mkhulu, kungekudala uza kuba njengoTata!" Kodwa khumbula ukuba ukuzikhukhumeza akusoloko kuphumelela umnqweno wokuba usencinane kwaye uyintanda kakhulu.
Inketho yenombolo 2 . Masidlale neemidlalo ezindala ezifihliweyo. Yikholelwa, ngokukhawuleza ukuba nomdla kubo kuya kuhamba. Emva koko sizinikezela ukunika okulungileyo kumncinci. Ngenyameko, ngokungahambi kakuhle, ukuba iqhinga livela, njengokungathi livela kuye. Asiyi kukulibala, ke sitsho (kumntwana) upapa okanye ugogo, yintoni inyana enhle, kungeyona inceba (okanye intombi), kwaye yintoni imbono ebalulekileyo yokwenza isipho esinjalo!
Inombolo ye-3 . Sithenga amabini amatsha amatsha okanye amathoyizi omntwana omdala. Kodwa "sihlula ngokulinganayo" - ngamnye ngomnye, kwaye ke sinikela ngokutshintshana egameni lomncinci.Aye akazange afunde incwadi yekhadibhodi endala ngeColobok, ngoko ingatshintsha. Ngenxa yoko, uthenge umdala into oye waqokelela ngayo into ethile.
Kancinci abaphakamileyo baya kufunda ukwabelana, baya kusetshenziselwa ukwabelana nothando kunye nenkathalo yabazali kunye nomnye umntu omncinci, kwaye kungekudala uza kuthandana nomntu ongekho. Into ephambili kukuba umama nobaba abayikufuna oku, kodwa ngobumnene bancede bavuse uthando nothando. Kwaye, ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukukhusela umona wabantwana, kuba kubangelwa imbambano enkulu. Le ngxaki ngandlela-thile iphakama phambi kwabo bonke abazali. Kwaye kubonakala ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo.
Umntwana omdala unokuba ngumsindo, ukhawuleze, okanye unokuthi, ngokuchaseneyo, uhoxiswe kuye. Akuyimfuneko ukuba nethemba, ukuba ngexesha elifanelekileyo bonke baya kudlula ngokwabo. Ikhwele ngumvakalelo owonakalisayo onokubangela iintlobo zesaba kunye neengxaki.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umama kufuneka ahlalutye ngokuzicokisekileyo ukuziphatha kwakhe, kwaye uya kuqonda oko kuphazamiseka ngokobuhlobo bakhe nabantwana kwaye uya kukwazi ukuzisa uxolo nokuthula kwintsapho.
Makhe sinike imizekelo.
Inketho yenombolo 1 . Umama wasebenzisa iinyanga ezilisithoba ezambethe intliziyo yakhe, ngoku uyondla umntwana wakhe, akahlali kunye naye imini okanye ubusuku. Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba uzive enye naye. Kodwa ukwenza oku kuphela, uyazichasa kumdala (thina kunye nawe). Kwimeko efanelekileyo, upapa ungene "kwinkampu" ngokubhekiselele kunina, ekugqithiseni umdala uhlala yedwa ngokuchasene nale ntathu.
Inketho yenombolo 2 . Umama unesibindi sokuthi umdala ungabangela ingozi kwi-crumb, ngoko ayikuvumeli ukuba usondele kwakhona, kungekhona ukuba uthinte. Unxibelelwano luqulethwe izikhokelo kunye nezikhokelo: "Musa ukuza! Musa ukuthetha ngezwi! Yiya kwelinye igumbi! ", Njalo.
Inombolo ye-3 . Kukho isicaka esinjalo: "Qala umntanini, ke u-lilk." Kodwa intsingiselo yenkinga kule mzekeliso ibonakaliswe ngokuchanekileyo, kaninzi oomama bayashintsha eminye imisebenzi yabo kumntwana omdala, othe wangena ngokukhawuleza "sele ekhulile." Ndixolele, kodwa ngaba wazala ubani? Ewe, umama ufuna uncedo. Kuphela apha ukuphucula ubudlelwane kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya kulungele ukwenza kunye, kungekhona esikhundleni somama.
Oomama abathandekayo, jonga ngokwakho ukusuka kwicala. Ukuba ubona iimpazamo zakho, uya kufumana indlela yokuzilungisa. Emva kwakho konke, akukho mntu owaziyo abantwana bakho bhetele kunani. Mthande nje abantwana benu, banakekele ngokwaneleyo, kunye kunye, kwaye ngamnye ngalunye. Emva koko intsapho yakho iya kuba yomelele kwaye ibe nobungane.