Kodwa ngaba ufanelekile ukuba usabeke? Le nkqubo yokukhula iyenzeka kakhulu kubantwana. Loo nto ufumaneke ebuntwaneni kunye nabazali, musa ukukhumbula. Abantwana abaneminyaka eli-10 ubudala sele behlakaniphile ngokwaneleyo ukuba bathathe indawo yokuziphatha kwengqondo yabantwana kunye nefuthe elithile "eliphambili" elinempembelelo kubantu abadala. Esikhundleni sokucela into enqwenelekayo yi-hysteria okanye ukumomotheka, abantwana baphendukela kwiindlela ezininzi eziyinkimbinkimbi: ukukhohlisa nokuxoka. Abazali bavame ukuthabatha izibango. Yaye inqwenela yabantwana ifuna ukufumana iindlela zokukhupha izibambiso eziqinileyo. Yingakho abantwana bekhohlisa. Kwinqanaba elithile, ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntwana. Kodwa abazali bayesaba ukuba abantwana baya kuhlala bebaxoxela ubomi kunye ne-alamu ephilileyo.
Indlela yokuqala ubuxoki
Uphuhliso lwabantwana luya kusuka olulula ukuya kunzima. Abadala abantwana, kunzima kakhulu ukufundiswa. Abantu bayakhohliswa nanini na ubudala kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuphelisa ubuxoki. Kubalulekile ukuba inkohliso ayiphenduli. Ukulala akukhuthazi kuphela ukuphuhlisa ubuntu kwiminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Ikhokelela ekuxabaneni, ukungaqondani esikolweni, iintsapho, abahlobo. Futhi ukungathembeki kwabo nokungathandeki kunokukhokelela ekubunjweni kweengxaki ezahlukeneyo.
Ngaba ulala ngokuqhelekileyo?
Iingqondo zanamhlanje zifunda ukuba ukuxoka kuyinto eqhelekileyo ekuphuhliseni abantwana. Kutheni? Kwiminyaka emi-5 yokuqala kukho ukubunjwa kwengqondo ngokukhawuleza nangokwenyama komntwana. Abantwana bafumana ulwazi oluninzi kwaye bafunde indlela yokuyisebenzisa ngayo ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukucinga kwabo kuzama ukwahlula inyaniso kwimvelaphi. Ngokukhawuleza xa abantwana beqala ukuthetha, baxhomekeka kwiingcamango ezinengqiqo. Abantwana bafunda ihlabathi elibangqongileyo, kunye noko bangenakukuqonda, bazalise ngeengcamango. Oku kukhanyela umdlalo "umama-ntombi", apho yonke into eyenzekayo kumnandi.
Abantwana abaselula banomdla kakhulu kwizinto ezindala. Abantwana bafuna ukuzama iimpahla zabantu abadala, thintela into ebalulekileyo, zama ukutya "abadala". Kodwa abantu bahlala bengavumi ukuthinta izinto zabo. Kwiimfuno "Ndifuna" kwaye "inike" impendulo enye - "awukwazi! ". Kodwa inzululwazi yabantwana iyomelele kunokuba ikhutshelwe. Baqala ukucinga indlela yokufumana into engavumelekanga. Funda iimpembelelo zempembelelo kwi-psyche of parents. Ngezilingo kunye nephutha, izitshixo zikhethiweyo. Kwaye ngenye indlela bayaqaphela ukuba enye yeendlela ezisebenzayo yinto engabonakaliyo, kwaye xa libuxoki. Imithintelo yabantu abadala iyimfuneko yokuvelisa okokuqala umntwana. Ekuqaleni abazali bahlula ngokucacileyo amabali amnandi amaxoki eqinisweni. Kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe abantwana, ngokukodwa kwiminyaka eyi-10, beza kunye neemeko ezingakumbi eziza kwenzeka. Kwaye kunzima abantu abadala ukuba banqume ukuba kukho ubuxoki, kwaye apho inyaniso iphi.
Izizathu zokukhwabanisa kwabantwana
Ngokudla kaninzi, abantwana bathatha inkohliso xa bexubana nabanye abantwana. Ngokumalunga nabantu abadala, abantwana babona isimo esibalulekileyo - oko bacinga malunga nabahlobo kunye namantombazana. Bafundisa ngenye imeko echaphazelekayo, bafaka imiphumo yabo kubazali babo, baxhomekeke kwimeko yendawo. Kwaye umdlalo wabo wekhompyutheni unamandla, kwaye uTata unamandla kunene, kwaye umama uyona mhle kakhulu.
Esinye isizathu sokukhohlisa sinomnqweno wokuma kumanzi ngexesha lokuxabana kwabantwana. Abantwana bahlala besola omnye umntu. Basayiqondi imiphumo emibi yobuxoki babo, ukuba umntwana ongenacala uya kufumana phantsi kwenani lokuqala. Kwaye oku kuyanxusa - ukuba netyala ngaphandle kwecala. Kwaye bonke abantwana bonke abaya kuhlutha ityala. Ingaba ngabanye abantwana, kunye nenja encinci uJuchka, into engaphiliyo okanye into engokwemvelo. Kwaye abaxoki bavikela inguqu yabo yento eyenzekayo. Kunzima ukufumana inyaniso.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abadala bafundisa imimiselo yabo yobuxoki. Ukuphishekela izinto eziphathekayo kudla ngokugqithiseleyo ekukhangekeni kwezinto zokomoya. Kuphawula ukuba kubazali abazinikeleyo, abantwana baqhelana nokukhohliswa ngenxa yenzuzo ethile. Kwaye kwiintsapho apho imali isetyenziselwa yonke into, ubuxoki buyinto eqhelekileyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukukhohlisa kubangelwa ngumnqweno wokubukeka bekhulile phakathi koontanga. Kule meko, imimiselo ye-embellishment, hyperbole, ne-grafting ifanelekile. Kodwa phakathi kweengcamango, ubuxoki obunenkohliso obuninzi bobuhlobo buya kuzalwa. Abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-10 ubudala, kunye nokuqhagamshelana rhoqo kunye nabantwana abadala, baqala ukuphendulela kwiindlela "ezingavunyelwe" kwiminyaka eyi-9 neye-8.
Ukuqhayisa amanga kunokubangela ukuba uvakalelo olufanayo - umona - phakathi koontanga abangenakunzima kakhulu ekukhohliseni. Abantwana banokholo kwilizwi lefestile eliqhwithiyo lomhlobo okanye intombi. Akwazanga ukwahlula ubuxoki beqiniso. Ngoko ke, baqala ukukhwele abanye. Umona ongabantwana ungabangela ukutshitshiswa kwabantwana. Okanye utshintshe umlinganisi nge-avarice. Ukukhohlisa kuyimfesane efanayo yomntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana banamanga xa abazali bengabhathali kakuhle. Ukungabikho kokunxibelelana, abantwana bafuna iindlela zokufikelela kubazali babo.
Indlela yokukhusela ubuqhetseba
Musa ukwenza inkathazo kwinkqubo yokufunda yemvelo. Inkohliso yabantwana idla ngokumnandi, umdlalo weengcamango. Ukuqhelanisa neengcamango ezinengqiqo abantwana abaneminyaka engama-10 abakwazi ukuwusebenzisa. Nangona abamkeli abalula kodwa basebenza. Umbuzo: "Vovochka, ngaba wenze umsebenzi wesikolo? "Ngubani phakathi kwethu ongaphenduliyo kwi-affirmative, nje ukuba aphumele esitalato kubahlobo? Nangona kunjalo, xa ubuxoki bubucayi bubalulekile ukucinga ngezizathu. Kwaye balala rhoqo kwiintsapho. Abantwana emva kokufunda bonke kubantu abadala!
Ukuba abazali beqaphela ukuba umntwana ulala kunye neenjongo zobugovu, kunokuthi kubekho izikhalazo phakathi kobudlelwane bomzali nabantwana. Kufuneka sihlalutye le meko. Umntwana nje akaqambi amanga ngathi. Into ethile imyanzela ukuba asebenzise "iindlela ezingavunyelwe". Kubalulekile ukuba ungachukumisi ubuxoki kumanga, kodwa ukucaca ukuba abazali basayithanda umntwana wabo okhulileyo njengangaphambili. Abantwana bafanele babone ukuba baxabisa kakhulu kubazali ngaphezu kwe penny eyongezelelweyo.
U-Mayakovsky wabhala umsebenzi oqaqambileyo ngezinto ezilungileyo nento embi. Abazali akufanele bafunde kwakhona. Umntwana ulungile ukuba wazi xa akwenza kakubi. Akunakwenzeka ukuphelisa ngokupheleleyo ubuxoki kubantwana. Kodwa unokucacisa iingcamango "zobuxoki", uxoke ngokulungileyo. Ukuba unika isipho esingathandekiyo kumhla wakho wokuzalwa, akufuneki ukuba uthethe ngokukhawuleza ngako kwaye uphukise isivakalisi. Wayefuna ukukholisa!
Kutheni abantwana abakhohlisayo kwiminyaka eyi-10 banzima kakhulu abazali babo? Ewe, kuba abantwana babonakalisa abazali babo. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abadala bazama ukukhohlisa kwaye abafuni ukuyivuma.