Indlela yokutshata ngokufanelekileyo, ngubani oya kuthixelela?

Uyenze ube ngumnikelo, kwaye unganqikaza ngempendulo - ngokukhawuleza akayena iqhawe leveli yakho ... Indlela yokutshata, ngubani oya kuthixelela? Wena ungumfana osemncinci, onomdla, othabisayo, onobungane, kwaye unamaninzi amaninzi. Yaye njengabo bonke banomdla kwaye banomusa, banomdla kwaye banomdla. Kwaye ngamnye wabo ukhawuleza kwaye ufuna ukuba ekugqibeleni wenze isigqibo kwaye uthi unqweneleka kakhulu: "Ewe, ndiyavuma ukuba ngumkakho!" Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ukukhawuleza, nini kubalulekile ukuba wenze, mhlawumbi, ukhetho olukhethekileyo ebomini? Akukuhle ukuthabatha ixesha, ukuyeka ixesha elide ukususela kunye nokuziqonda?

Symphony of Love
Ukuba ulindele ukutshata ngokukhawuleza kwaye ixesha elide, ukufana okufanayo phakathi kwakho kunye nabo kuyimfuneko nje. Khawucinge ukuba imiphefumlo yakho iyimishini yomculo: akuyimfuneko ukuba ivakalise ngokubambisana, into eyona nto kukudlala ngokuvisisana kunye kunye, ukwenza i symphony yothando. Jonga ngokucophelela, yiyiphi yabalandeli ababelana ngeminqweno yakho. Yaye wenza ngokunyanisekileyo! Ngokomzekelo, ukuba nonke niyazi ukutya okulungileyo, awuyi kuba naluphi ukungavumelani xa uthengela ukutya, ukupheka nokukhetha indawo yokutyela. Ukuba ngaba unqabile ukukhwela kwezulu, akuyi kuba nepikiswano malunga nendlela yokuchitha ikhefu. Kodwa ukufana akufanelekanga! Ukuphila kunye nekopi yakho efanelekileyo kunokuba kunzima. Bonke abantu bafuna uhlobo oluthile lweentlobo ezahlukeneyo.
Kwakhona siziva sisidingo somntu osondeleyo ukuzalisa ukungaphumeleli kwethu. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ningenazo iitalente zemali, ngubani na oya kulawula uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali? Ukuba zombini ayisetyenziselwa ukugcina umyalelo, ngubani oza kuthatha amasokisi akhe kunye neebhola zakho? Ukuba bobabini nithanda ukucula ngokuvakalayo, ngubani na oya kukuphulaphula?
Ukuba ufuna umtshato uphelele, khetha umyeni waloo mntu unaloo mpawu ongenayo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kunzima kunzima: okhethiweyo wakho kufuneka afane nawe kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uncedise ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka.

Ngubani na onyathelo?
Ngubani oza kukuxelela indlela yokutshata ngokuchanekileyo: omnye uyakuthanda, kodwa engabonakaliyo umnxeba, omnye ongenabubele kancinci kuwe, kodwa olala nge-imeyili kunye ne-SS-masks - akukho ukubuyela kwiimemo ukuya kwiintlanganiso? Indoda ngokwemvelo ngumnqobi kwaye uhlala ezama ukufeza injongo yakhe. Ukuba ufuna ukuba ube naye, uya kufumana ixesha kunye nezindlela zokuphumelela intliziyo yakho. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba uya kukugubha, ukubiza, ugxininise ukuba uchithe ngokuhlwa kunye kunye, uye kwindawo yokutyela, iqela.
Kodwa abanye abantu baziphatha njengokuba bengavunyelwe ukukukhathalela. Yintoni eyenzekayo? Ukwesaba okwenene ngamanye amaxesha kuthintela isibindi, nesibindi kwaye siphumelele (xa kungengowesifazana) kuqala ukuthatha inyathelo eliqinileyo malunga nawe. Uloyiko lokuthotywa! Ukupheka kwezinto zonke, indlela yokuncedisa ukuzithiba kwakho, intle, ayikho. Intukuthelo enye yowesifazane, exhaswa yi-delicacy, iya kunceda ukufumana indlela yokuphuma.
Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho ludinga ngokuqinisekileyo ukuqinisekiswa, zama ukukhangela ... ukuhlukana. Wayephela nje ixesha elide ukusuka kwinqanaba lakhe. Ukuba uthetha kakhulu kuye, uya kukufumanisa. Kwaye ukuba akayi kwenza - kakuhle, mlibale ngaye: ngokunyanisekileyo awuyi kuba mnandi. Inketho eyona nto, xa ingabonakali ngeveki, ayiyikubhala, ayiyi kubhala, kwaye emva koko kwiintlanganiso uhlabelela i-serenades ngothando, ekuqinisekisile ukuba uyayidinga njani. Cinga, mhlawumbi kufuneka ufumane amandla kwaye uyilahle ngaphandle kwentloko yakho okanye ubhale phantsi nje ngokuba "ngabahlobo nje."

A yibala!
I-Sexologists ikholelwa ukuba kulungile xa iqabane likhulile kunomfazi iminyaka emithathu ukuya emine. Ngokombono wabo, oku kuluhlu oluphezulu lwamaxesha phakathi kwamaqabane, apho ubudlelwane bezesondo obuhambelanayo bukhula.
Nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu uthi le nto iyisiqinisekiso sokuphila kwentsapho. Umtshato ovuyayo kunye odibeneyo awunakwenziwa yimithetho. Ngubani ohlala kwintsapho ekhulile - indoda okanye umfazi-akubalulekanga. Into ephambili kukuba ukwazi ukuphazamisa, ukuhlonela iimfuno zenye iqela kunye nokuva umlingane.
Izifundo zibonise ukuba ubuchopho bomntu buhlelwe ngokuhlukileyo kunowesifazane.
Ngokwemvelo, lona wesifazane ungumgcini wendlu, kwaye indoda ngumzingeli kunye novavanyo. Kwaye lo mahluko ubonisa ukususela ebuntwaneni bokuqala: amantombazana adlala kwiintombi zomama, amakhwenkwe - kwimfazwe aze adibanise amathoyizi.
Ingqondo yomntu iyakwazi ukuhlalutya, fumana iindlela ezakhayo zokusombulula ingxaki. Iingcamango ezingabonakaliyo ezivela kwintsimi yeemvakalelo (uthando, ithemba), akakwazi ukusebenza. I-palette yemvakalelo nemvakalelo yowesifazane inamawaka eetoni kunye nemigangatho, kwaye indoda inemibhobho eyisixhenxe ephambili. Singahlela amacwecwe amaninzi njengoko sifuna, kodwa badidekile nje kuphela: yintoni into ephikisana ngayo?
Hayi, ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba intanda yakho yindoda esatshatileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha uhlala ebusuku, ngamanye amaxesha uyakuthatha "ekukhanyeni" (apho kungekho zihlobo kunye nabo osebenza naye), uchitha inxaxheba yeholide nawe. Kwaye uyasondla rhoqo ngezithembiso zokuqhawula umfazi wakhe. Ngoko unokuhlala iminyaka, kwaye akufanele uqikelele kwi-chamomile ukuqonda: ukuba akayi kukhawuleza ukudibanisa isiphephe nawe, ngoko akayi kuyenza. Uchitha ubomi bakho bodwa kuye, uguqula ube yintlungu. Ngaba awunayo intliziyo yakho? Bese ubuncinci uhlolisise ubudlelwane bakho: nwabele ubudlelwane naye, kodwa ungalindelanga ngaphezulu.