Ngubani ocinga ngeemigaqo xa udibana nabantu abangaziwa? Indlela yokuziphatha nokuzithobela ngendlela efana nokwenza uvakalelo oluhle? Kule nqaku siza kuqwalasela imithetho yeprayimali yokuqhagamshelana nabantu abangabaziyo.
Xa udibana nabantu abangaziwayo, kufuneka udibane nabo "kuwe", kungakhathaliseki ukuba usemncinci okanye umdala, umphathi okanye umntu ongaphantsi, umfazi okanye umntu - isibheno "kuwe" sikuvumela ukuba uqhubeke umgama phakathi kwakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uhambelana njani nalo mntu, okanye nayiphi na imvakalelo evelayo kuwe, ukuthobeka kufanele kube kwindawo yokuqala - kwaye kuya kukunceda ukuba unyibilike nayiphi na intliziyo. Xa udibana, qiniseka ukuba ulinde uze uqaliswe. Umntu onemithetho yokuziphatha, uya kukuxelela ngokungekho semzini. Ziyakhathazeka kwaye zithembele. Emva kokuthandana kungcono ukuba ungatshintshi ngokukhawuleza "kuwe", kunokukhubekisa okanye ngandlela-thile ukhube umhlobo omtsha. Linda uze unikezelwe ukutshintshela "kuwe". Akufanelekanga ukukwazi ukuguqulela ngokukhawuleza ukuba buhlobo obusondeleyo. Wena kunye nolwazi olutsha kufuneka ixesha lokuxabana.
Xa ubhekisela kubantu abangaziwayo baqala unyango lwakho ngobuliso kwaye ngamagama athi "xolela", "ndixolele, ube nomusa". Naka ingqalelo kwigama lakho, kufuneka lifudumele kwaye libe nobungane. Qiniseka ukuba umomotheka. Kwisizukulwana esidala, kubalulekile ukubonisa intlonipho, nokuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo okanye ongaqhelekanga.
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho iimeko ezinjalo ezingabonakali ziyimfuneko. Ingxoxo nje iqale phakathi kwabantu abakwi-line, kwi-minibus, kwi-cafe. Ukuze ukuphosa amabinzana amabini akudingeki ukuba uzenzele, ukuba umntu uqale ukuthetha nawe-thetha emva. Vula, hlalani ngokwemvelo kwaye ububele kunye nabantu abangaziwayo kwaye ububele bakho buya kubuya.