Ngaba uye waphawula ukuba kukho abafazi abaneminyaka yabo abanokuthi bazimisele ukujonga? Makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba yiyiphi into eyiqikelelayo: uphawu kumpasipoti, isimo sempilo okanye isimo sengqondo? Yiyiphi ikhalenda kunye neminyaka yobudala bomntu? Yaye indlela yokugcina amandla angakanani kwi-20, 30, 40?
Uneminyaka emingakanani ubudala: amashumi amabini anamashumi amathathu, anamashumi mathandathu? Akunandaba. Zonke ezi manani ziqhelekileyo, zibonisa nje ukuba zihlandlo eziliphi na ozibonayo indlela intwasahlobo ephumelela ngayo ebusika. Ixesha lekhalenda alibalulekanga kakhulu kumntu njengombuso nomzimba.
Fihla okanye cha?
Abasetyhini abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukubuza imibuzo malunga nobudala babo buyinto engcolileyo kwaye badla ngokuhleka okanye bahlale bethule malunga nomntu othile. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba yonke ingongoma ekungalingeni kweminyaka yethu yobudala kunye neenombolo kwipaspoti. Nangona kunjalo, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuziqwalasela iminyaka yakho kwaye uyamkele. Ubomi bethu yincwadi enomdla enemibala yembala. Unyaka ngamnye, inyanga, iveki, yonke imihla iyiphepha elitsha. Funda ukuvuka ekuseni, zama iminyaka yobudala bakho, jongane nesigqoko esitsha: "Ewe, namhlanje andineminyaka engaphantsi kwekhulu ubudala - ndilala embhedeni ngaphambi kokutya", "Ngoku ke amandla okubetha, andinakuhlala nje," " Ngoko, namhlanje ndineminyaka engama-30, ndiyinto enhle, kwaye kwimbono yam esichukumisayo kunye neprojekti ehlakaniphile, wonke umntu ungena. "
Ukhangelelana njani?
Ekuqaleni kubona kunzima ukucacisa ukuba umfazi umdala kangakanani. Ubusuku obungenalutho okanye ukungaphumeleli, izambatho ezingenasiphelo okanye ukutya okungafanelekanga "kunokuguga" iminyaka yakhe ... Ngelishwa, iresiphi yobutsha obungapheliyo nobuhle bufumaneka kuphela kwiingoma, kodwa kukho imigaqo emininzi yemimiselo eyenza ibonakale ikhulu kunanini na.
• Zinakekele. Hlola rhoqo isikhwama sakho sokuzilungisa, utshintshe ama-creams ngokubhekiselele kwiminyaka yobudala kunye nohlobo lwesikhumba.
• Fumana ukulala ngokwaneleyo. Ukugcina impilo kunye nobuhle, umzimba wethu udinga ubuncinane ukulala kweeyure ezisixhenxe. Ukungabikho kokulala okungapheliyo kukuchaphazela umonakalo kunye nemveliso yehommoni.
• Gcina iliso kumfanekiso. Khetha izambatho ngokuhambelana nemimiselo yangoku, iimpawu zomfanekiso kunye nekhono lakho. Amantombazana amaninzi aphakathi kweminyaka eqhubekayo enamathele entolongweni yobutsha bawo. Kwaye oku kuphosakeleyo: bobabini ubomi kunye nefashini akumi.
• Ukusebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo imveliso. Kwixesha ngalinye, siyaqonda imisebenzi ejongene nathi. Kufuneka uzive uvumelaniswe kunye nobudala bakho, unikezele ukubonakalisa kwimpawu zobuso, ukufihla imibimbi ebonakalayo.
• Yivume ngokwakho. Sebenzisa isibuko ukuba ungaboni ukusilela, kodwa ukuze uqonde indlela obukeka ngayo. Zibukele ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa ungacingi. Nokuba yedwa kunye nawe, hlawula ngakumbi isidima sakho, kungekhona iziphoso zakho. Myeke ukulahlekelwa ubunzima: sebenze umzimba kwaye ubukele ubunzima bakho. Abafazi abathandekayo babonakala bebubi kakhulu ngobudala!
• Dumisa. Njalo uqaphele impumelelo yakho! Shaza intloko yakho uze usitshele-namhlanje! - malunga nempumelelo yabo kumntu omnye.
• Qaphela amaphupha. Sisoloko siphinde sithintele iminqweno yethu kamva: akukho mali, akukho xesha,
akukho inkxaso. Ndiva ukuba unayo ixesha, amandla kunye nezixhobo zokufunda okanye ukuhamba.
"Ubudala" iingxaki kunye nemibuzo.
Iintshaba eziphambili zobutsha kunye nobuhle zixinzelelo kunye namava amaninzi. Ikhalenda kunye neminyaka yobudala bomntu abesongela ngokulinganayo. Kubasetyhini, ubunzima beminyaka yobudala banamathelekanga kunokuba bafikelele kwiminyaka ethile yokuzalwa, kodwa kuhamba kwimijikelezo ethile yobomi bentsapho: umtshato, ukuzalwa komntwana, umtshato, ukunakekela abantwana ukusuka ekhaya ...
Ndifuna ukudala! Esi sifiso sivame ukutyelela amantombazana amantombazana asebenza kwiqela "abadala" okanye phantsi kokunyamekela kwabazali babo. Omnye uzama ukulinganisa abo basebenzisana nabo, unamahloni ngamava abo amancinci, kwaye umntu uzama ukuxhathisa uxinzelelo loomama nootata abanomdla kakhulu ... Ngandlela-thile, amantombazana asebekhulile azincipha into ebaluleke kakhulu - ebusheni. Ngeke kubekho ithuba lesibini. Kule minyaka, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukubona ukuba wonke umntu wayemncinci kwaye engenamava (nokuba ngumphathi wakho oqinileyo), ngoko ke unelungelo lokwenza iphutha. Ewe, abazali bafakazela ukuba sele sele ukhulile, akudingeki ukuba wenze iingubo kunye nezambatho, kodwa izenzo ezindala! Ngaba ulwabelana ngesondo kumtshato? Sekuqaleni kunyaka wokuqala wobomi bomtshato, i-honeymoon ihamba ngokukhawuleza ibe yinto ebomvu yobomi bemihla ngemihla. Kwaye yonke into isezandleni zakho kuphela. Ixesha elinzima elilandelayo likhulelwa kwaye unyaka wokuqala emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Kwaye wena kunye nomyeni wakho ngeli xesha ngeke kube nzima ukuya kwisini. Nangona kunjalo, oku akusisizathu sokuhlukana komnye nomnye. Zama ukusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho kunye kwaye ungalibali malunga ne-caresses. Xa uneminyaka engama-30, ukukhangwa kwezesondo ezinamandla kunokuvuselela abasetyhini. Yaye xa iqabane eli lixesha lixakeke kumashishini okanye lenze umsebenzi, akayi kuba kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, ungakhangeli msinya umthandi. Umsebenzi wakho kukumdla. Ekugqibeleni, ukuphumula ngokwesondo kuya kunceda kuphela kwimicimbi yomsebenzi. "Ukuvukela kwamadoda amane aneminyaka engamashumi amane" kubonakaliswe umdla omkhulu kumantombazana amantombazana. Amadoda ethu ngokukhawuleza ayaqonda ukuba ubomi buye bwedlula, akukho nto entsha kunye engaqhelekanga iya kwenzeka, kwaye ukuguga kukude. Fumana amandla kunye nomnqweno wokuphinda unomdla omnye phakathi kwakho, kwaye uya kuhamba kunye novavanyo lo. Kodwa oku kunokwenzeka kuphela ngomnqweno kunye kunye nemizamo ehlangeneyo. Xa sele bekhulile, xa isini esinye isini esithile sidlala indima ekhethekileyo, kwaye enye inesimo esifanelekileyo sezesondo, isithandwa esithandanayo kuphela, i-caresses esondeleyo kunye nokuqonda okufanayo kuya kunceda ukuphepha ingxaki enkulu.
Ukuba okanye kungekhona? Ngaliphi na iminyaka esinokucinga ngayo intsingiselo yobomi. Ngexesha elithile uzibuza: "Ndingubani na? Ndiyintoni na? Ndihlala nobani na? "Yaye ukuba yonke imibuzo ofuna ukuyiphendula" ayifumanga ", ubunzima bakho obuphakathi obudala bubonakala. Ewe, usemngceleni wempumelelo enkulu. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba, xa ulinganise kwaye uyayixabisa yonke inzuzo kunye neengxaki, unquma ukuba akukho nto ifuna ukutshintshwa kwaye akuyimfuneko, ukhetho lobugcisa lwenziwa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye lulandelayo kumntu othandekayo kwihlabathi, kodwa ngenxa yokuziva ulonwabo ngokupheleleyo ulahlekile kuphela .... isiqwenga se tshokoleji.
Ngaba ukuqhawula umtshato kusoloko kuyintlekele? Uphononongo olwenziwa ngabahlali bezentlalo baye babonisa ukuba abafazi abathathu abaqhawulayo abatshatanga abane abafuni ukutshata kwakhona-baqala ukuxabisa kakhulu inkululeko entsha kunye nokuzimela, ukuba baphinde babingelele ngenxa yabantu! Abesifazane abane kwabahlanu bavakalelwa kukuba ukuzithemba kwabo kuphuculwe; ezimbini kwizahlulo ezintathu - ukuba ukwahlukana kwabancedisa ukuba bathathe ukulawula ubomi babo okokuqala. Umfazi ngamnye wesine oqhawule umtshato ukholelwa ukuba ubomi bakhe bobulili buye buphucula kuphela. Ewe, iifomanani zithetha ngokwayo! Ewe, unokuba buhlungu, buhlungu kwaye bubi, kodwa ubomi bakho abupheli apho!
Andiyidingi mntu! Iingcamango ezinjalo, njengommiselo, zihanjelwa ngabasetyhini abaqaphela ngokukhawuleza ubudala babo. Ubuso nomzimba zitshintshile kancane, abantwana baye bakhula, kwaye emsebenzini, nangona ulwazi nolwazi, wawungasebenzi. Ewe, oku kukuphela komgangatho othile wobomi, kodwa emva kokunye okuya kulandela! Uza kufumana ukuxubana kunye nokufunda ukuhlangabezana nazo, abantwana baya kuba neentsapho, kwaye wena (ugogo) uya kuba yimfuneko kubo, kwaye endaweni yomsebenzi uya kuba nemisebenzi emitsha nemincili kunye nezinto ezithandwayo ... Ngokuqhelekileyo, nantoni na eyenzekayo, ubomi iyaqhubeka, kwaye yonke into eyenzekayo - ibe ngcono!