Ukubonisana nge-intanethi yeengqondo zeentsapho

Ukubuyisa ubuqabane bokuqala obudityanisiweyo, ububele bexesha le-candy lingaphezu kwamandla kwanoma yiphi na ingcali yengqondo yengqondo, ukubonisana nge-intanethi kunokubanceda abo bambalwa abakulungele ulwalamano olusisigxina, oluhlala ixesha elide nolunzulu. Ngoko kutheni uthabatha uncedo lweengcali?

Ingcali yengqondo yengqondo: kunye nokuchasene
Kakade, akulula ukulungisa iingxabano ngokwabo. Intsapho inamanzi amaninzi "angaphantsi kwamanzi" kwaye ayibonakali kwiso le-icebergs ezininzi. Akulula ukuzibona, njengokufunda ekugqibeleni ukuthetha nomnye.

Ukuphelelwa lithemba kunye nokungakwazi ukuqonda nantoni na ukunyusa abantu ekugqibeleni baye kwi-psychologist okanye kwi-psychotherapist. Kodwa ukuba uninzi okanye ungacacile ngokwakho, kwaye ingxaki ihlala kuphela kulwalamano, ngoko-intetho iya kuhamba kunye. Uninzi lwengqondo (akunandaba nokuba babambe iqhagamshelwano kumgca okanye "baphile") nezibini ezitshatileyo zisebenza kuphela phambi kobabini bomtshato. Emva koko, xa kuvela iingxaki ezinzulu kwibini, ngoko wonke umntu, njengomthetho, unenyaniso yakhe.

Wonke umntu ulungile, akukho mntu ubeka ityala
Iingxaki ezinzima kakhulu zihlala zijongene nemiba yehlabathi. Nantsi nje uluhlu oluthile lweembono zabafazi, obangela ukungafani:

- Liliphi ikamva lomlingane elihle kubo, oko bafuna;
- Ngaba bafuna ukuba nabantwana, ukuba ewe-buninzi kangakanani na kwixesha elingakanani;
- Umsebenzi ebomini bobabini bomtshato;
- Indawo yokuhlala;
- Ulwalamano phakathi kwezizukulwana;
- Ngubani umntu oyintloko kwintsapho, owenza isigqibo, ngubani owenza oko ayenzile "kwiintsapho zonke"
kunye nezinye ezininzi, kungekhona imibuzo elula.

Ngomnye wabo akukho nto enye okanye imibono emibini (abaqhelekileyo abaqabane, ukuqonda okukhethekileyo kwimeko nganye ngomtshato ngamnye, kwizizukulwana eziliqela). Ukongezelela, ukongeza kwezikhundla ezivakalisiweyo, kukho izibini zombini kunye neminqweno esemva.

Umzekelo: Umfazi usebenza kwaye uyayifumana kakuhle, kodwa ngokwenene ufuna ukuhlala ekhaya nokukhulisa abantwana. Kodwa uyazi ukuba umlingane, nokuba ukucinga kwakhe ngobomi obunjalo, uya kutshabalalisa. Kwaye ke, ngenxa yokulondoloza intsapho, akugcini nje ukuthula ngesifiso somntu, kodwa uyakhohlisa ukuba indoda ilungile.

Yonke le mibuzo ngeli xesha, ngelixa kwintsapho phakathi kwabatshatileyo ubuncinci inxalenye encinci yothando lwangaphambili, bayadumala. Ngoko, banakho nawuphi na umzuzu waba ngongoma eyongezelelweyo (kunye nzulu kakhulu) kwingxabano.

Okubi nakakhulu, le ngxabano iya kufakwa kwifomu eguquliwe - njengokuthi "Awuzange uliphulaphule imbono yam," okanye "Awundiboni." Uhlazo olunjalo luvakala ngokubanzi ukuba iqabane lesibini, elivuthayo, lilahleka kwiingcamango. Emva koko, eqinisweni, uyayixabisa, uyayithanda, kwaye uphulaphule uluvo - wayenelisekile ukuba abe neyakhe kwaye ayinyanzele yakhe intsapho.

Iingcali zengqondo
Okumangalisa ngokwaneleyo, kodwa ukubonisana nge-intanethi yentsapho yengqondo yengqondo inako ukunika ngaphezulu kokubili indoda kunye nomfazi. Umyeni uya kuba noxolo, kuba akudingeki udlale ngemithetho yomfazi-oko kukuthi, ukuthetha. Uboniswa phantse kwisikimu sezenzo, ukucacisa iinkolelo zakhe kule nto okanye kweso sihlandlo.

Nangona zonke izinto eziphikisanayo, umntu uyazibona ngentsapho ngokubhekiselele kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi ngokubhekiselele-kuba ubongoza ukuba abe nengqiqo kunye nesizathu. Ibhinqa lifuna ukuxhaswa, uvelwano, iingcebiso kunye nokuxubusha ngokubambisana kwimeko yakhe.

Iiseshoni zokwelapha kunye nengcali yeengqondo kwisixeko sazo zingaba yinkcitho yemali "ye-cookie". Kwaye ke ufumana uncedo oludityanisiweyo, kunye neenxeba zokuthetha nomyeni wakhe ngeemfuno zakhe kunye neendlela zokupheka ezilungiselelwe, njengoko kungenziwa kwimeko yakhe.

Ukongezelela, kunzima indoda ukuba 'iphume' kwindawo ethile, kwisaweni yokudlala. Ukungathethi naziphi na iingcali zengqondo apho. Ukuyitshintsha ingxaki, indoda idla ngokugqithiseleyo ityala ngenxa yowesifazane - "awuyithandi, kodwa iyangifanele." Incwadi evela kwi-psychologist okanye umbuzo ebuzwe nguye ingambiza ukuba kucamngce kunye nokuqiqa.

Indlela 'yokuyinyanzela' ukuba ixoxe ngeyona nto?
I-psychologist engaziwayo yangaphandle (ngendlela, indoda) yabelana ngamava njani ukunceda amadoda ukuba afikelele ekubonisaneni. Emva koko, emva kwakho konke, akukho ntanethi, kwaye ukubonisana kwakukho "kumntu". Ngoko, umyeni waphika ukuba unengxaki - "Ndikulungile." Kodwa i-psychologist yaphendula yathi: "Unenkinga, ukuba nje ngokuba umfazi wakho unenkinga."

Kwezinye iimeko, i-psychologist, ukusuka kumagama omthengi, ichaze indlela yokuziphatha komyeni kwimimandla enzima kangangokuthi wayethetha ngokubambisana ukuze angaphikisani nembono yesazi sengqondo.

Kwintsapho, wonke umntu uhola "umdlalo wabo"
Nangona inyaniso yokuba indoda kunye nomfazi bahluke (balingana, kodwa akufani), ngamnye uhamba kunye nemidlalo yakhe kwintsapho. Kwaye banomgomo omnye-ukuba "uphumelele". Kodwa oku kunqoba yiPyrhic, ngenxa yoko akukho mntu uzuza nantoni na. Umsebenzi we-psychologist kukunceda abatshatileyo bevela kukhuphiswano (ndingcono) kubambiswano (kunye sinobuhle, ngaphezulu kunakho).

Ukuxazulula zonke iimpikiswano ngokwabo, ukuqhawula zonke iingxabano ezivela kule miba engeyingozi, ukukhutshwa kwamabango acacileyo ekuqaleni komsebenzi kunceda. Ukucaciswa kobudlelwane kunokuhlehliswa kwithuba elisemva - emva kokuba wonke umntu azwakalisa indlela abona ngayo ubudlelwane obukhoyo ngaphakathi kwintsapho.

Ukusebenza ngeemvakalelo ezicacileyo, umsindo, umsindo (ezininzi izibini ezingaboni kakuhle ukuba zibonakalise ngaphakathi kwintsapho) ikuvumela ukuba uhambe ngokuthe ngcembe kwinqanaba elincinci - apho ukukholelwa komntu kusisiseko. Yaye loo ntokazi iyaqaphela ukuba umnqweno wokuhlala ekhaya, umane unxamnye nonina okanye uzama "njengomntu wonke" kwiingcamango zakhe.

Khawucinge nge-psychologist ye-intanethi njengompempe
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba bathandekayo kunye nabathandekayo kwisidingo sokusebenza kunye nengqondo yeengqondo, unokuxelela umyeni wakho ukuba (njengokuba ubonile ngaphezu kweyodwa), kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha unamabango ahlukeneyo komnye nomnye. Kodwa kuyingozi kubahlobo, kwaye ngakumbi nangakumbi kwiintsapho, ukukholelwa iimfihlelo zentsapho.

Ngoko ke makabekho umpempe, umgwebi wezemidlalo, oya kukwazi ukuthintela ukulimala okukhulu ngexesha kwaye ubuncinane athi "ukuphuka" ukutshatyalaliswa kwabatshatileyo. Kwaye ke, xa ufunde ukuvakalisa nokuxoxa, unokuzilawula ...