Ekubeni, kukho imeko ehluke kakhulu, ngakumbi kwi-front front. Ewe, ngubani ongayazi, masithi imeko enje? Umntu oqhelekileyo wadibana nesitalato kunye nentombazana, babe novelwano, iintlanganiso eziqhubekayo, iintetho zentliziyo-intliziyo, ukuqaphela ngokuthe ngcembe ngakumbi nokutsha malunga nomnye. Nangona kunjalo, intombazana idibana nendoda efana nesahlisi - kwaye ukuyilahla iyisihawu, kwaye ithwale kakhulu. Kodwa olwaziyo omtsha naye uyamthanda kwaye akayi kululahleka, kuba, njengendoda enhle kakhulu, kwaye yena, owenziwe ngamashumi amabini, sele esele amkhwelise ngomona ongapheliyo.
Kuya kulungile kuloo meko nje ukuchitha ubudlelwane obudala kunye nokugqithisa ngokupheleleyo into entsha, kodwa intombazana isaba, emva koko, kukho iminyaka engaphezu kweminyaka emithathu yobudlelwane, kodwa iinyanga ezintathu kuphela zokuthandana. Ecacileyo kwaye yaziwa ngokutsha malunga nento entsha kwaye ngokoyikeka. Kuba intombazana yinto enzima kakhulu, ngoko iphosa intloko yayo kunye nayo kunye nabagibeli bayo. Yaye umthandi onobuhlungu ngekhulu lexesha uyabuza: "Yintoni endiyenzayo? Andikwazi ukwenza oku ... "
Ngokubanzi, ukunika iingcebiso ezahlukeneyo akukona okuchanekileyo, kuba nayiphi na imeko imele ibe yedwa kwaye akukho nje "iipespeli zokuzonwabisa". Kodwa ukuba ufuna, unokwabelana nje ngamava akho, kwaye kufikelela kuwo wonke umntu - ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani le ngcaciso. Njengoko bethetha, kukulungele ukufumana amava kwiimpembelelo zabanye abantu, kwaye ukususela kwimixholo ethi "yowunxantathu", ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye wethu kufuneka afunde ngokuqhelekileyo, ngoko ndikunika umntu wam enendima yomzekelo wezobugcisa kunye nesevisi yokubonwa indlela yokwenza okungcono kwaye nendlela yokulahla ukusuka kunxantathu yothando.
Ibali endiya ku li xelela lilula kakhulu. Emva kweminyaka emithathu yokusebenzisana nomfana owayenomona ngenxa yemithi yonke, kwaye ngaphandle koko, wafaka zonke izinto zakhe ezininzi kum, ndaza ndidibana naye. Wathi loo mazwi! Wafunda i mibongo! Yaye iincoma? Ewe, andizange ndibone isimo sengqondo ebomini bam, kwakukho kuphela kwiincwadi nakwiimv Ngenxa yoko, intloko yam ijikeleza, iintaka zazingoma kumphefumlo wam, amehlo ambona kuphela iirasi, imilenze yam ingazange ifuthe umhlaba, ngokubanzi isethi epheleleyo yazo zonke iintlobo zamava okuthandana.
Ifu elincinci kuphela elisezantsi lidlulile - umfazi wendodana yakhe eneminyaka emithandathu ubudala. Kodwa andiyonto, ndiyayiqonda ukuba umntwana omncinci uyadinga uyise, ngoko ndingayi kuthatha umyeni wam ngaphandle kwentsapho. Kwaye ukuba into engcono kum nazo zonke iziganeko, kakuhle, ngaba iphoso lam elithatyathwa ngumfazi wakhe nje. Mhlawumbi kwakufuneka ukuba ushiye ulwalamano lwaloo nqanaba, kwaye yonke into yayiya kulungile: emva kwexesha elithile, ndiza kukhwankqiswa nje ngokuba ngunkosikazi, kwaye mhlawumbi ndiza kumshiya, okanye yena ngokwakhe waqala ukuphuka. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, olu dlelwane luya kuba luhle - ngamnye wethu wayesazi imimiselo yomdlalo kwaye ingaba naliphi na ixesha ukuphuma kuyo. Kucacile ukuba loo nkcazo yombuzo inengqiqo kwaye iyayithanda, kwaye intanda yam ithathwa njengothando olukhulu, ngoko ubudlelwane bethu buphuhliswe kwimeko ehle kakhulu kunye neenkcukacha zentlekele. Uyazi kakuhle, akunjalo?
Kwaye ngoku isiluleko esisebenzayo indlela yokulahla inxantathu yothando. Ngenye yee-vertices, kufuneka uzame ukuzihlola ngokuchanekileyo amathuba akho emzabalazweni olandelayo kwaye uqonde ngokwaneleyo indawo ohlala kuyo. Inyaniso yokuba izithintelo zontathutathu zilingana, zinyani kuphela kwiimathematika, kwaye ngothando, nokuba unxantathu we-isoscel uyingxaki enkulu, sinokuthi ntoni malunga nokulingana.
Kufuneka uzame ukwahlula iirazi zakho ezibhincini ubuncinci ixesha elifutshane, ukwenzela ukuba ukhangelelwano olunzulu lukwazi ukuvavanya into enomdla, okanye mhlawumbi kufuneka uguquke uze uhambe, ukuze ungazisoli malunga nexesha elitshabalalisiweyo. Simele sizame konke okusemandleni ethu ukukrazula inxantathu yothando. Khawucinge ngomzuzwana oko kwakuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba wayeseqhawule umtshato wakhe, waza waqonda ukuba oku akusiyo umntu onokuhlala naye, kwaye ungathanda ukuzala umntwana.
Awudingi ukuzilungelelanisa kwimigangatho yelindelo lomlingani, yiba yedwa kwaye okokuqala ulandele umdla wakho, kwaye awuqulunqwa yimigaqo yomnye umntu. Lahla imeko eqhubekayo yokucinezela.
Awukwazi ukuvumela ukuba ukhohliswe kwaye udliwe ngezithembiso ezingenangqiqo, ukuba uzive ungathembeki.
Ungaze ufune ukuphuhlisa umbono wabanye okanye abantu abasondele kuwe. Njengesikhokelo esiyinyaniso kwisenzo, ngokuqinisekileyo asifanelekanga, kodwa njengolu vavanyo oluvela kwiqela elingathandekiyo banenzuzo enkulu. Ukusuka ngaphandle nangaphakathi, nayiphi na into enokukwazi ukujonga ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kunye nolwalamano lwabantu, nangakumbi.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni: ungagxininisi kwicala lesithathu lexantathu, odla ngokuwaziyo ngokungabikho. Akungathandabuzeki ukuba (okanye) uya kuthatha isithuba esinqabileyo, kwaye uya kulinda ukuba ikhadi lilale. Nangona kwenzeka ukuba wena kunye nomthandi wakho (okanye inkosikazi) zibethelwa ngenye indawo kumgangatho wabemi abangekho mthethweni, ngoko kukho ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuba loo mcimbi uza kuvela. Emva koko ukulahla inxantathu yothando kuya kuba lula kunokuba ucinge.
Kwaye sele sele ihamba kakhulu. Nantsi enye ingakwazi ukujika kulabo abadala "imeko yesantathu" ngokwabo: yiba nesibindi sokuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba ukhululekile ukuba uthathe uxanduva oluphindwe kathathu kwixesha lakho, kunye neenjongo zabo unomnqweno wokungena kumdlalo. Ungaziphoqeleli ukwenza ukhetho olucingileyo kunye nolungalunganga ("Zikhethele kuwe, ngaba ndiyakufuna ngeengxaki ezinjalo?"). Nguwe omele ukhethe kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba yiyiphi into oyenzayo kwaye ulawule inxantathu yothando.