Isizathu sokuqala sinokuthiwa ngumnqweno wokungathandabuzeki unomntu othandekayo, ukwesaba kungekhona umnqweno wokulahlekelwa. Kodwa, kukho ilizwi: "Ukuba ufuna ukugcina umthandi wakho, myeke aye." Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa lo mthetho usebenza. Emva koko, umntu akakwazi ukunyanzeliswa kwaye akayi kuthandana naye.
Kukho uluvo lokuba umona ubonisa uthando. Akukho nto abayithethayo yokuba "banomona, ngoko bayayithanda." Enyanisweni, umona ubonakalisa ukungathembeki kumntu othandekayo. Xa uvakalelwa ngumoya ofanayo, kuthetha ukuba awukholelwa kwaye ungamthembi umthandayo. Imvelaphi yeshwele ibonakaliso lobugovu kunye nomoya wobunini. Ngokuthethelekileyo, kuwe umthandwa wakho yinto onokuyilahla wena. Ingaba ucinga ukuba ukuvalelwa ngokupheleleyo kwesiqingatha sesibini kunye nokunyanzelwa kokungathembeki - oku kukuthandani lokwenene. Ndiloyiko lokuba uphosakele.
Kwakhona, kwimithombo yesikhwele ukungaqiniseki ngokwabo. Umntu unomona nje ngenxa yokuba engakholelwa ngamandla akhe, ukungafani kunye nokukhanga. Kule meko, njengendlela yokulwa nomona, umntu unokucebisa ukuba usebenze ngokuzithemba kwakho: ngandlela-thile, yiphakamise kwaye ungakhangeli iimpazamo zakho.
Inqaku lethu linikezelwa ngesihloko esithi: "Imvelaphi yeshwele kunye nezindlela zokujongana nayo." Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo esi sidima sivakalelwa ngabantu abaphila kwimiphefumlo yabo ukwesaba ukuhlala bodwa. Kule meko, isisombululo kwingxaki ilula. Ukuba isiqingatha sesibini sinoyiko lonwabo, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo ukumxelela ngothando lwakho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba, ukuba nomona, umntu ngokwenene ufumana uxhalaba kumntu othandekayo: unenkxalabo ngempilo nokhuseleko. Ukuba nomona kule meko kusebenza, ngendlela ethile, ukuguquka. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo. Awunakuhlala uhlala kunye nomthandayo. Mnike ukuba enze izenzo ezizimeleyo ngaphandle kokulawula rhoqo.
Esi sibonakaliso esilandelayo sinokubangelwa kwimithombo yomona: kubalulekile ukuba umntu abe nomona xa engahlambulukanga phambi komntu othandekayo. Ngaloo ndlela, ukulungisa izihlazo kunye nemifanekiso yesikhwele, umona uzama ukufihla intlungu kunye netyala.
Sifumene imvelaphi yesikhwele kwaye iindlela zokujongana nazo ziya kuba zicacile. Ukujamelana nomvakalelo owonakalisayo obonakalisa ubomi bakho kunye nolwalamano nabathandekayo, eqinisweni, kulula. Zama ukuqonda ukuba wakho umthandayo akayiyo impahla yakho. Ukuba unelungelo lenkululeko. Akufanele ahlale ephantsi kweliso kwaye aphulaphule onke amangalelwa akho.
Kukwafanelekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo, konke ukwesaba kwethu kunesipropati ebomini.
Ngezantsi uzakufumana iindlela ezilula kwaye zifikeleleke kakhulu zokulwa nomona.
Okokuqala, ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ukuhlambalaza imbongolo yomona, zama ukuzincama. Vimbela iimvakalelo uze ucinge ngemvelaphi yesikhwele ojongene nayo ngoku.
Okwesibini, ngokukhawuleza ukuba unengcamango engalunganga, zama ukuphazamiseka kuzo zonke iindlela. Unokwenza nantoni na, ukuba kuphela le nyathelo iza kukukholisa. Ukuba ucinga ukuba lo mnandi kakhulu. Oko, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngumsebenzi omkhulu wokusebenza kwiimvakalelo zakho.
Okwesithathu, musa ukulibala ukuba umthandwa wakho nguye osondeleyo kunye nomthandayo. Musa ukwesaba ukuya kwingxoxo engathethekiyo, xa unokwazi ukuchaza yonke into ekukhathazayo. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba intliziyo yokuthetha entliziyweni yinto yesayensi enkulu. Kwintetho kufuneka ufumane iimpendulo zemibuzo kunye nokuzola, ngelixa ungakhubeki kwaye ungathinti iimvakalelo zomntu othandekayo.
Okwesine, khumbula ukuba ukuthanda kuthetha ukunyolisa. Izihlazo kunye nokuhlambalaza kuya kubakhokelela ekulahlekeni kwazo zonke iimvakalelo ezintle kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo. Ungabonakali ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzingca, zinika uthando lwakho lwesibini kunye nolonwabo.
Isihloko sale nqaku "yimvelaphi yesikhwele kunye nezindlela zokujongana nayo." Ndicinga emva kokukufunda, uya kufumana iimpendulo kwimibandela yakho okanye, mhlawumbi, uya kuzibona kuwe. Yiba nokuba kunjalo, khumbula ukuba umona ulungele ulwalamano kumanani amancinci.