Iholide yowesifazane: yiyiphi iholide enomntu wakho?

Abaninzi abafazi bavame ukudala umoya wokuzonwabisa ongapheliyo, bekholelwa ukuba oku kwenza ukuba bavelele ngakumbi kwaye banqwenela ukulala ngesondo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba kuninzi? Amadoda adibana njani neentlobo ezinjalo kunye namantombazana amakhwenkwezi, ngubani onokufaniswa neeholide? Kwaye ngqo.

Umfazi - Unyaka Omtsha
Iholide enkulu yonyaka. Ngaloo mini, awukwazi nje ukulala - kufuneka uzonwabele kwaye ujabule, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ubonise ukuhlangana kweNyaka entsha yoNyaka kunye nabahlobo kunye noogxa kunye nokuxoxa ngendlela abanye abenza ngayo. Isidingo esinjalo samadoda amaninzi ukwesaba okwenene: "USanta Claus, qiniseka ukuba ishishini eliphuthumayo emsebenzini liye labonakala, kwaye ke awuyikukhuphisana." Ibhinqa-Unyaka omtsha uqinisekile kuye kwaye kukuba ngowona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ebaluleke kakhulu, ininzi kakhulu. Akavumi kakhulu kwiqabane lakhe, ufuna ukuphumelela ngokuthelekisana naye. Kuye, umzekelo, wayesoloko wathi kuwo wonke umntu ojikelezayo: "Nguwuphi umfazi ontle, unenhlanhla kangakanani naye!" Ukuhleka amahlaya akhe, wayeyixabisa impumelelo yakhe, wayibhiyozela iimpawu zakhe zokomoya. Ekuqaleni, umntu uyayinqoba, le nto ibangela ukuqhosha. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, uqala ukunciphisa ukuzithemba okanye uvakalelwa kukuba ungumphambukeli kwiholide. Uqaphele ukuba iqabane liyakwazi ukudibanisa nale meko, kodwa ezinzulwini zentliziyo uya kufuna ukubuyisela imeko yakhe. Ngubani ongafuni ukuthotywa kwaye ujabule? Ngoko ke, umfazi omtsha unyaka angakhetha ukhetho olungapheliyo, olusezantsi lweSuku. Yiyiphi inqaku lokuzifanisa kunye neqabane, ukukhuphisana, ngubani olungcono kunye nokuzonwabisa? Ngokuphambene noko, ukuthozama (ngokumodareyitha), ingqalelo kuye iya kuxhaswa kuye ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba indawo yakhe kwikhalenda yakho kunye nobomi ibaluleke gqitha. Ukuba uyiholide ngokwenene kuwe.

Umfazi weCarnival
Umcimbi okhangayo kakhulu . Ekuqaleni, iiholide ezinjalo kuzo zonke izizwe zazihlala malunga neveki ezimbini. Kancinci, abantu baqala ukunciphisa: kunzima ukumelana nokukhanya kwexesha elide. EBrazil, oogqirha phambi kwendawo yokugubungela baze banike iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuzonwabisa kunye namaqela athile abantu, umzekelo, abaneengxaki zentliziyo okanye ukuthambekela kweengxaki ze-neurotic. ISebe loMphathiswa wezeMpilo yelizwe elivuya kakhulu nelivuyo alicebisi ukuba libandakanyeke ngokubakhoyo ekubhiyozeni: kumabonakude ubonakala ngcono. Ibhinqa-i-carnival ijolise kakhulu, ixhamla kunye kwaye isebenzayo, ukuba ingayithandi, akunakwenzeka ukuba ungafuni ukuhlala kunye. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza emva komtshato umntu uziva ekhathele. Ixesha lokuhamba ukuya kwiintsuku zeveki, kwaye kwakhona iholide. Kwaye akukho njongo yokunciphisa intambo. Kwiphakamiso: "Masihlale ekhaya namhlanje" - umfazi wesigidimi uyaphendula: "Ungubani na, andiyi kukuvumela ukuba ube buhlungu, ngoku ndiza kuqonda indlela esiya kuvuya ngayo." Okwangoku, umntu ngenxa yeempawu zakhe ze-psychophysiological ezifana nokuzonwabisa okungakumbi kunabesifazane. Bahlala befuna ukuphumla ngokupheleleyo: ngokuqinisekileyo balala embhedeni kwaye bangenzi nto. Simele sishiye loo madoda kuphela. Musa ukuthi: "Oo, ukuba uyamkhathaza kangakanani" - kwaye ungaqhathanisi nomhlobo omtsha owadlala nawe iiyure eziliqela. Wayedlala ngoku, kuba wayekubona kuphela. Kwaye kwendima yomyeni wakhe, naye, wayeya kucela ukuba ahlale ethule. I-carnival kufuneka ife ubuncinane kanye ngexeshana.

Umfazi - Ukuzalwa
Kuhle ukuba yonke into yenzelwe wena ! Izipho, amazwi afudumeleyo, uyavuyiswa, umnqweno. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, isimo sengqondo sokuguquka kwosuku lokuzalwa - kunye nokuzonwabisa kumnandi kwakhona: emva koko, unyaka wonke ukhula. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba abafazi abaphazamisi ukubhiyozela, ukuba abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo, iintsuku zokuzalwa zingabangela uxinzelelo lwangempela, kwaye izikhumbuzo zibonwa njengoluvavanyo olunzima. Kwaye konke kuba kunzima ukuba amadoda abe yinxaxheba yenkwenkwana yokuzalwa. Abaxhatshazwa njengabasetyhini, abaziveki mfuneko yazo zonke ezi zinto: "Hayi, bulela, indlela enhle ngayo, ndiyakuthinteka kakhulu", kodwa uzive ukuba kufuneka uziphathe ngale ndlela: bonisa ukubonga nokuvuya. Ukongezelela, inxaxheba yenkwenkwe yokuzalwa yinto engenziwanga kwaye kaninzi ayikuvumeli ukuba ulahlekise uxinzelelo olusukayo. La madoda angavumelekanga ukuba ahlele umhla wokuzalwa kwawo, umzekelo, kwendalo ("Ngaba unjalo ngaloo mini uya kuba ngumlilo ukuba ungcolile?") Unyanzelekile ukuba uwubhiyozele, uthi, kwivenkile yokudlela, udla ngokusela kakhulu. Kulo rhu lumente, iholide ayibuhlungu kakhulu. Abafazi beli hlobo bangaba vavanyo. Bahlawula kakhulu ingqalelo, ngoko-ke bayamhlonela, babone ngenyameko, ukuba akukho nango sindiso.

Ewe, amadoda ayakuthanda ukunakwa. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba bawine. Ngoko ke, i-droplet yokungabandakanyeli kwintsebenziswano ayiyi kubuhlungu. Yaye ukuba umphefumlo ufuna yonke ixesha ukuzungezela umntu onenkathalo nothando, qalisa, umzekelo, i-ferret. Yena kunye neentliziyo zakhe zomeleleyo, kwaye ubomi bunamandla.

Ibhinqa - uMatshi 8
Amadoda avela ebuntwaneni babethusa kakhulu le holide . Yena, ngakwesinye icala, unikeza ithuba lokuzibonakalisa, ukwenza into enomdla, ngakolunye uhlangothi wenza iziphakamiso eziphezulu kunye ezingenakuqondakala. Kubalulekile ukunika izipho, uninzi ukuhlambulula, ukuvuka ngaphambili kwaye ulungiselele isidlo sakusasa, nokuba kusasa akukho nentsapho edlayo. Kubalulekile ukuncoma, nangona ukuba umfazi uyaqinisekisa: "Ngomhla ka-8 kuMatshi - gcwalisa i-nonsense", kwaye yenze ngendlela yokuqala, ukuze ungatsho ngoko ukuba ukubingelela kwakusesikweni. Kufuneka ube khona usuku lonke kwaye ungakulibali ukuthetha amazwi anomusa kunye nomnxeba kunina kunye nabanye abafazi abaninzi ... Ngokuqhelekileyo, lo ngumgibe! Ngeke kwenzeke ukuba uyigqithise-uMatshi 8 akwenzeki. Uhambo lwezoshishino, ixesha elingaphezu kwexesha okanye, Mhlawumbi, ukuloba kulolu suku kuthathwa njengolwaphulo-mthetho ngokumelene nothando nolonwabo. Abasetyhini bathanda ngo-Matshi 8 banje. Kodwa abayitshiyo into abayifunayo, abakunikeli nantoni na, balinde. Emva koko baya kukuxelela ukuba ngaba balinde okanye bangabi. Kwaye bayaqonda ukuba ukuba baxelele ngezicwangciso zabo okanye amaphupha, konke kuya kuba lula. Kodwa oku kuhambelana neengcamango zendlela okumele ukuba ngayo. Indoda, ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene, kufuneka acinge ukuba yenzeni. Kwaye amadoda anjalo isimo sengqondo sinika ukukhathazeka nokucaphuka. Indlela yokuhlangabezana neemfuno zeqabane lakho, xa ungayazi into ekulindeleke kuwe? Injongo ilahlekile. Ekubeni zonke izipho "azifani," yintoni inqaku lokunika into?

Kutheni ungathandi? Emva koko nivuyiswe ngokwenene kwaye nizibuze ukuba lo mthandayo ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo wayicinga ukuba umnqweno oyimfihlo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba oku kuya kuba buxoki? Hayi, ezi ziindlela ezincinci zamabhinqa kunye neendlela, ezikulo ndlela, ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kwiholide.

Umfazi - ngeveki
Ukuphela kwemihla yomsebenzi ininzi lethu lidibene neeholide ! Kwaye akunjalo ngengozi: unokulala ebuninzi, ulala embhedeni, ube nesidlo sakusasa, kwaye ke ... apho apho abaninzi bekulindele inkohliso engcolileyo: ngokumalunga neenkcukacha, malunga ne-70% yabasetyhini banamhlanje bayichitha ukucoca ngeveki, ukuthenga ukutya, ukuhlamba kunye nezinye "amatyala asekhaya". Umyeni, eqinisweni, uthatha inxaxheba kwimicimbi yezoqoqosho, kodwa ... Emphefumlweni wakhe ngokugqithiseleyo uqokelela ukucaphukisa: kodwa phi ukuphumla okufanelwe kakuhle, luphi uvuyo oluvela kwimpelasonto? Umfazi okhethekileyo uza kuba nako ukuphefumula uvuyo kwizinto eziqhelekileyo zendlu. Ukucoca kuya kuba yinto evuyokileyo, ukunika intsapho "inqwelo-mali", ukuthenga ukutya kwivenkile-"ekuzingeleni" (abantwana abafundela esikolweni, ngokomzekelo, bayonwabile ukuzifumana ngokuzimeleyo kwimikhakhalo kwaye bazalise inqwelo). Into ephambili yimizwa kunye nomvuzo! Ingaba ukunyuka kwipaki yokuzonwabisa, ikhekhe lomama wegama lomtya okanye ngokuhlwa kusikrini se-movie.

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